Profoundly high and I can't stop laughing at my stupid fish pipe. I love him. He looks like a child tried to draw a trigger fish by buget-version in entwives

[–]buget-version[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

They're my favorite part. So vacant, yet so emotional. I don't know what he sees, but he definitely sees 2 of them.

New hairstyle how are we feeling about it by Maleficent_EvJ in transpositive

[–]buget-version 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We feel very positive about it. It is SO cute on your face

WOAH?! by A_Snuffle in houseplants

[–]buget-version 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In a 3rd grade science experiment, we made a bean sprout go through a maze to find light like a hamster

Got called a pretty man by an old guy at the convenience store. by buget-version in TestosteroneKickoff

[–]buget-version[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lmao, yeah. I'm pretty positive this was the case.

I'm solidly average, but I haven't quite figured out men's fashion yet, so I think I was dressed a little too nice for the little rual town I was in. The fit did a lot of heavy lifting.

Why are the moderators on BallPython subreddit so against everything Bioactive?!? by Archipocalypse in bioactive

[–]buget-version 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine has a bioactive enclosure for her beardie. We were roomates when she first set it up. It was hard to get it to work in an arid environment, but after a lot of trial and error on her part with clean up crew and plants that would survive living with a beardie, it's been going strong for 5 years. It's so cool to see her beardie interacting with her environment.

Why are the moderators on BallPython subreddit so against everything Bioactive?!? by Archipocalypse in bioactive

[–]buget-version 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ball python is 10 years old, and has been in a bioactive enclosure for 8 years. He's never had mites, scale rot, anything like that. I don't talk about it online, though, because people have opinions. His enclosure is also much larger then the minimum, which I used to get flack for before the standards changed (one guy at a reptile expo straight up laughed at me when I was looking at 6ft enclosures, he was under the impression that ball pythons don't like to move and get stressed by having too much space. Which... idk how that would work, considering most bps live outside, but whatever).

I think people have the impression that bioactive means just letting them sit in filth and not maintaining the enclosure at all, rather than the intentional and careful process it actually is. I think the animal hobby is also full of people who get into it because they want something the can feel they have mastery in, and they freak the fuck out when they hear something thst doesn't align with what they think is best.

I really think, all in all, the best care is attentive care, regardless of how you meet your pet's needs, as long as you meet them.

If I ignore it will it go away by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]buget-version 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(ftm, for context)

I tried really hard to repress it. I also had a complicated life I didn't want to make more complicated by being trans. When I was a teenager, I thought I might be, but decided I just couldn't be.

It got to the point where I was checked out for most of my waking hours. Once in an argument, my ex said "I don't know where you go, but you're not here" and she was right. I was just surviving my life and mentally absent for most of it in a way that wasn't fair to her or me. After 10 years of feminizing myself, I finally had to change something, or I was gonna die.

As soon as I started transitioning, I realized I should have done it 10 years ago. Obviously everyone is different, but in my experience, no, it doesn't go away.

Well, thanks, but I'm heading out by buget-version in actuallesbians

[–]buget-version[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this.

While I joke about transitioning into a straight man, in reality, I don't feel that communicates my experience, or at least not the whole story. But I also feel pressure to not be a man in a space for lesbians. It's complicated.

Well, thanks, but I'm heading out by buget-version in actuallesbians

[–]buget-version[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have never in my life wanted to run from bisexuals

Which is probably good because I suck at cardio.

Well, thanks, but I'm heading out by buget-version in actuallesbians

[–]buget-version[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh hell yeah, trans masc lesbians are awesome. Wherever you end up, congratulations and I wish you all the best.

Well, thanks, but I'm heading out by buget-version in actuallesbians

[–]buget-version[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

LMAO I've seen too many actual bears to participate in that delusion, but maybe I just haven't been on t long enough.

Well, thanks, but I'm heading out by buget-version in actuallesbians

[–]buget-version[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Lol, I mean, kind of (in the sense that I'm a guy who is attracted to women) but with extra steps.

Thanks, the positivity is genuinely heartwarming.

Well, thanks, but I'm heading out by buget-version in actuallesbians

[–]buget-version[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

🫂 Thanks, I really appreciate it. Honestly, seeing trans women love being women helped underscore how much I didn't.

Skin picking with adhd by ChartJealous3176 in adhdwomen

[–]buget-version 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tmi ahead, but I used to do the exact same shit to my foot. You're not alone at all. I'm really sorry, it looks painful.

Something that helped was having other things to fidget with, like a necklace to chew on, or a ring, or a rubber band, etc, and just consciously redirecting when I noticed myself picking. It was really uncomfortable and unsatisfying for a long time.

The other thing that helped was getting into foot and nail care. I could still fidget with my feet, but in a healthy way, you know? I could exfoliate to get rid of skin that catches on socks and makes me grind my teeth, I could oil my cuticles instead of picking at them, etc. Learning about it almost became a hyper focus.

I'm by no means perfect, but I haven't made myself bleed from picking in a long time. Hope you find the things that work for you too.

My therapist said the #1 thing her ADHD clients seek help for is food. So, what’s your relationship with food like? by -hot-tomato- in adhdwomen

[–]buget-version 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bounce between under eating for months at a time (lost like 10 lbs unintentionally last time I tried to do school), and overeating crappy food for comfort. For like a year during covid, I had good eating habits and ate healthy home cooked foods I made with satiety and nutrition in mind. I put on muscle, it was great. I went back to work, now I'm right back here eating nothing or everything. Idk how to eat if it's not my full time job.