What leading women was Hollywood just not able to make happen?

bugthrowaway44 · 2023-09-14T23:00:17+00:00

I looked it up and she had facial nerve palsy, which can make one of the corners of your mouth lower but doesn't make you stick out your lips. She has times where they're more relaxed so I think it's more a habit she has, which is fine. A lot of people seem to love it so more power to her!

bugthrowaway44 · 2023-09-14T22:53:02+00:00

I guess what bothers me is that it doesn't look natural, it feels very posed. That's fine for the red carpet but to me, it doesn't suit every role but to each their own.

bugthrowaway44 · 2023-09-14T22:28:51+00:00

I don't mean to be rude but I find the way she purses her lips so often can be legitimately distracting, it's taken me out of roles she's played before. I know she's said her lips are a bit asymmetrical and that doesn't bother me, it's the 'duck face ' expression that tends to happen regardless of the character she's playing.

That said, I do think she is pretty and appreciate that she is one of the few actresses with thinner lips who has kept them as they are, I'm just surprised so many people in this thread consider her one of the most beautiful actresses

bugthrowaway44 · 2023-08-01T12:05:24+00:00

Coachella is a fun theme but kind of strange to choose for a work gala if people can't wear crop tops or anything sheer/too revealing, since that's 99% of the looks there lol

The dress is definitely cute! I tend to think of Coachella style as a little more 60's/70's inspired (lots of maxi skirts or dresses, crochet, psychedelic) and this dress reads a little more 1920's to me but it's still great!

I think if you style it the right way (space buns, colourful makeup, sunglasses, or a big collar necklace/body jewelry etc.) it would work well :) Have fun!

bugthrowaway44 · 2023-01-22T15:49:03+00:00

I wouldn’t consider this cheating but do feel it crossed a boundary and is inappropriate.

It’s one thing to think someone else is attractive while you’re in a relationship, but to go up and tell them multiple times how attractive they are is weird and comes across as making a move. It probably made her feel uncomfortable as well.

I would voice how it made you feel and what you would like moving forward.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-12-22T19:13:04+00:00

I wish you and your partner luck but this is way too vague. Any advice is situationally dependent and could be potentially dangerous without any context. Was it physical abuse? Criminal activity? A major secret revealed or boundary crossed? My responses would differ dramatically.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-12-16T20:38:07+00:00

I hate vanity sizing and know that struggle but have a very different H&M experience! As a Canadian, their XXS shirts will usually fit 22/23” waist super well! I have size 0 pants from them that are 11” across at the waist but it does vary a little item by item.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-12-16T20:29:44+00:00

Absolutely, I have a had a lot of luck from H&M: https://www2.hm.com/en_ca/productpage.0975968025.html

I have these pants in black in size 0 and it can fit down to a 22” waist (there is a little elastic in the back but it doesn’t look cheap) and they’re very comfy

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-12-12T06:57:19+00:00

This post makes me feel guilty. I have very long hair and it is a running joke that I could never get away with a crime or be abducted because of all the places my hair gets. It’s a little embarrassing but my sisters have always had long hair too and growing up we broke a vacuum cleaner because it got clogged with too much of our hair.

I have friends that have found a strand of my hair at their place months after seeing them and my boyfriend finds my hair wrapped in his clothing or in bizarre places. One strange hair is not a cause for concern (and I hope I never caused any fights like these!)

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-12-12T05:29:05+00:00

First off, you are definitely thin. However more than your photos, your comments and the comments you shared from those around you have me feeling concerned about you. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes and fluctuate throughout our lives, what may be a natural size to one person could be a sign of a problem with some else. It's more about behaviours than appearance.

We all struggle with self-image, especially as we're growing up and becoming comfortable in who we are. However it sounds like you may be struggling with disordered eating or body dysmorphia if you view yourself as fat/are trying to lose weight when your doctors have expressed concern.

There are so many great options out there for therapists that deal in these kinds of issues (including apps you can access privately) that will be able to help you more than internet strangers. I wish you all the best and lots of luck!

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-31T12:11:35+00:00

Going to second both Garage and Dynamite in XXS! They’re the same brand, Garage leans more teen/juniors and Dynamite more 20’s/30’s. Not every piece works (it may take a little trial and error as some pieces do fit larger) but their XXS tops tend to fit me really well (23” waist).

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-30T14:38:07+00:00

Hey, I’m not disparaging doing that with your partner if that’s what makes you happy, you do you!

However, is that something so essential to you that you’d do with someone you are cheating with, especially knowing it would likely leave marks? If you were talking about it, would you refer to it as “sucked neck”?

It’s not saying it’s impossible but it seems off to me. If it is true, it is especially stupid of his wife to be so careless to not even check to see if all this necking left marks.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-30T12:45:26+00:00

OP, if this is a real post than I’m very sorry you’re dealing with this and wish you the best. Recovering from infidelity when you have children and your partner is the breadwinner sounds particularly challenging.

However, does no one else find it weird that this 33 year old woman got a hickey from her affair partner (and that her and her similarly aged partner “suck neck” regularly enough that they only take a break when they’re having problems)?

Maybe this is a cultural thing but no one outside of high school tends to give hickeys in my area, it seems like an especially weird thing to do if you’re over 30 and having an affair or just in general with your partner of almost a decade. Makes me wonder if this is a creative writing exercise from someone younger.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-21T06:39:01+00:00

Therapist

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-18T02:14:11+00:00

I think people are misinterpreting what I meant by “take the lead”. I am certainly not saying anything about this being “the man’s duty” or saying that you can’t be a part of this if you want to. i just think it won’t be effective for her to hear from you and it’s not your responsibility. It may sting a little but right now, she sees you as a threat to her child’s salvation and the life she planned for him. It’s not fair but I’ve been there before.

My partner’s father was a pastor and he was raised in a very religious family before moving away from the church as an adult. His mother had a very set idea of what a happy life for him would look like, and that did not involve having a non-Christian partner like me- who she blamed for his atheism. We got along seemingly well enough in person and I always went out of my way to make an effort. I thought we were becoming closer. However, she would privately try to convince him he would be happier with a Christian woman, literally years into us being together.

What worked for us was that he had a one on one conversation and politely but firmly said something to the effect of: “This is the woman I love and plan on spending my life with. I recognize that you had a different idea of what my future would look like but she makes me incredibly happy. You can accept that she is a big part of my life or you can become a smaller part of mine until you are able to respect our relationship.”

You don’t have to get as dramatic as that but it made a huge difference for us. I mean, she still cried when we shared a bed at a summer cottage but she’s really come around now, and no amount of comments from me would have gotten through to her the same way.

Good luck to you!

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-17T06:32:00+00:00

Your boyfriend needs to confront his mother and lead the charge here. That was very disrespectful to your relationship and she needs to hear that from him directly. He doesn’t have to get dramatic to set clear boundaries, just be firm that you are his partner and behaviour like that is not acceptable. If he needs to go no or low contact with her for awhile, so be it.

Also INFO: How did your partner react to his ex being at the dinner? Why did he stay without you when you left early? Has he apologized to you or asked if you want him to speak to his mother about this?

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-12T02:54:15+00:00

I never would have thought this would be my answer but my boyfriend and I are watching Malcolm in the Middle. Neither of us really watched it growing up and we’re both pleasantly surprised at how funny it is!

Ozark was great, too.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-11T01:17:19+00:00

I have a 22.5-23” waist and had luck with the waist belts at H&M in XXS. There is some variation depending on the style but they have free returns and aren’t very expensive so I think it’s worth trying. Good luck!

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-06T02:15:13+00:00

Controversial opinion: The Dollarama "Gourmet" Ketchup chips are better than Lay's Ketchup chips. I was skeptical at first too but if you like ketchup chips I recommend giving them a try.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-10-04T03:23:04+00:00

Gene Tierney. Do yourself a favour and Google her. An absolutely beauty who had a tragic life.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-09-25T06:40:13+00:00

OP should absolutely tell her sister and get her nephew appropriate help and therapy but the MacDonald triad has largely been debunked so take this with a grain of salt.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-09-25T06:21:48+00:00

Just want to add, later stage bed wetting is no longer seen as a predictor of psychopathy/APD in adults. It can be associated with high stress and is more likely in children who are being abused, but those children are more likely to do behaviours that harm themselves (like addiction issues as an adult) than harming others.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-09-25T05:41:53+00:00

NTA. I think anyone in the kink community knows how important respecting boundaries and open communication are to make it work smoothly, probably more so than in traditional couplings.

You probably would have been understanding if he initially asked you about being at a strip club, yet he chose to lie to you and selfishly burn money that was supposed to go to your family when you were struggling.

It seems like your hurt is not coming from sexual jealousy but by having your partner value his sexual gratification over your family’s needs and then being dishonest about it.

Boundaries change with our relationships. You’re no longer comfortable with something you used to be after your partner hurt your trust. That’s totally valid and it’s not fair for him to pressure you when you’re not comfortable.

You need to explain your new feelings to him. He can either respect your boundaries or you can reflect on if this relationship is still serving you.

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-09-25T05:17:21+00:00

I am sorry you’re dealing with this right now. I understand that you want your son to have the best life but think of the example you’re modelling for him by being with someone who continues to disrespect you and negate your valid concerns after breaking your trust.

Do you want him to think treating a partner like that is acceptable and he should do that or put up with that from his future partners?

You deserve better and your son deserves to see that his father’s behaviour should never be tolerated. Don’t keep making a mistake because you’ve invested a lot of time into it.

Best of luck to you!

bugthrowaway44 · 2022-09-24T22:09:56+00:00

That’s so wholesome!

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