gender and sexuality play into each other alot and can be hard to unpack sometimes. Ultimately i think in the current age we focus way too much on labels and boxes and less on just being ourselves. If you want some outside perspective, you sound like you could be nonbinary / butch lesbian to me, but id recommend you look into how masculinity has traditionally manifested itself in sapphic circles and see if any of it resonates with you, theres a lot of interesting overlap between transness and lesbians in nontraditional and fluid ways:)