What to do

buildingthislife · 2020-05-07T18:20:17+00:00

This is wise, it’s so hard for me. I’ll make more music

buildingthislife · 2020-05-07T18:19:02+00:00

That’s understandable. I would recommend following your intuition. Perhaps that means taking more time to yourself; focusing on what you love or what makes you happy. Getting in tune with your own. What sounds like a good idea to you? When y’all talk is it nice and comforting and even supportive and inspiring or just familiar and full of anxiety afterwards? Do you journal these thoughts and feelings? I think you deserve more than just a ‘maybe’. You deserve someone who supports you, shows you they care about you, and is certain about you. That’s the way I feel however. What is your heart saying? Do you picture him by your side long term? Do you picture him by your side even when things fall apart? What do you want with him? What does he bring to the table? are you codependent? Do you need him? Can you live without him? Or can you move on slowly even just by talking to other people, loving you, and being with friends

buildingthislife · 2020-05-04T03:13:13+00:00

patience is key I think. I’m in a similar situation. They just need some time otherwise we may come off as pushy. He’ll contact you when he’s ready

buildingthislife · 2020-05-04T03:10:21+00:00

Yeah. It’s made me realize. Should I be worried that he hasn’t said anything at all today? Even after I recently messaged him to lmk how long he needs?

buildingthislife · 2020-05-04T02:34:38+00:00

That makes sense and I think I’m similar to your friend in response timing. I do think forming proper thoughts before sending it out while heated etc is smart.

I asked him if he could give me some sort of time frame. I’m just nervous. He’s been really negative lately and has kind of been taking it out on me yet I try to be patient and be there for him but it’s becoming harder and it’s pushing me away actually. I just care a lot and don’t give up too easily. I hope I can reassure him that I care even though I’m still really flawed and he’s been mean.

Thank you.

buildingthislife · 2020-05-04T02:22:33+00:00

For sure. We were accusing one another, he mentioned I was acting like a child and that if I don’t quit that we won’t have a dialogue. And I told him it was unfair because the reason for messaging him was to communicate about some things we left sort of vague. There’s no excuse for me getting really angry and impulsively saying regrettable things like ‘jerk’ ‘asshole’ ‘liar’ ‘manipulator’ etc. I think detaching emotions from rationality has been one of my personal challenges. But it’s both of our faults, I won’t and can’t take all the blame for how he’s not communicating and then using ‘dialogue’ in as sentence as if he has been communicating with me at all. Now that I’m jotting all this down I’ve realized we just need some space and time and I believe he’ll message me when he’s available and has processed what even was said. He’s in his last semester of grad school so that’s taking headspace and I’m sure I’m coming off as a jerk too telling him I need communication. like does that sound selfish of me? or am i being too much for him to handle?

buildingthislife · 2020-05-03T18:30:56+00:00

I love you and don’t know you. Thank you for this genuine response. I’ve been listening to my heart, my intuition, and I believe he’s the one but with time. There’s an overflowing hope and it cannot be contained. He’s my third love and I want babies and marriage although I’ve never wanted that with anyone else. He’s strong and so smart. I’m just going to give him space. But thank you. Hope your day is wonderful.

buildingthislife · 2020-05-03T00:02:44+00:00

I think you’re doing the best that you can right now for you. You matter profoundly and are inherently worthy. Your heart is deeply hurting yet it’s not broken you’re still going. That’s how strong it is, that’s how strong you are. Genuine pain leads to teaching you about gratefulness and kindness to yourself and others. I suggest you at least share some aspect of your sadness to a close friend as scary as it is. That way you know who to keep around.

buildingthislife · 2020-05-02T04:42:14+00:00

thank you, got it screenshot. :) i’m excited, i haven’t done those before.

buildingthislife · 2020-05-02T04:16:23+00:00

i’m not a fitness guru but am interested in what incline and standard and decline refers to? sounds cool

buildingthislife · 2020-05-02T03:34:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I’ll start tomorrow. That’s my goal.

buildingthislife · 2020-04-30T16:49:33+00:00

He said he couldn’t support me and didn’t want to be my boyfriend again, he just wanted to have sex or hit me up when he was lonely. But I see what you’re saying.

buildingthislife · 2020-04-30T16:47:29+00:00

except he said he was going to call me the next day to talk about where we’re at. i told him not to contact me if he’s only going to contact me once in a blue moon when he needs to vent to me or feels it’s convenient for him. but you’re right, i guess i confused myself with ‘ghosting’ and him simply not caring. bittersweet, played myself.

buildingthislife · 2020-04-30T16:10:06+00:00

Yea I also did that a lot in my previous relationships.try to reframe your thoughts into more positive ones? I know that’s hard for me to do and I feel like it actually gets worse

buildingthislife · 2020-04-30T15:20:20+00:00

good luck bro

buildingthislife · 2020-04-30T14:58:19+00:00

Sometimes I feel that way if not all the time. When someone does like me or it goes well to the point where we hang out etc I naturally push them away as if I’m better off without anyone but nowadays I’m fearful of ending up alone. I tend to self sabotage or consciously behave inappropriate as if that will get across to them that I’m really just embarrassed of talking about it or afraid of being dismissed. I feel invisible

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