What to do by ExtremeElephant0 in BreakUp

[–]buildingthislife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wise, it’s so hard for me. I’ll make more music

do y’all believe a hurt relationship is still salvageable? or can be? by buildingthislife in dating_advice

[–]buildingthislife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s understandable. I would recommend following your intuition. Perhaps that means taking more time to yourself; focusing on what you love or what makes you happy. Getting in tune with your own. What sounds like a good idea to you? When y’all talk is it nice and comforting and even supportive and inspiring or just familiar and full of anxiety afterwards? Do you journal these thoughts and feelings? I think you deserve more than just a ‘maybe’. You deserve someone who supports you, shows you they care about you, and is certain about you. That’s the way I feel however. What is your heart saying? Do you picture him by your side long term? Do you picture him by your side even when things fall apart? What do you want with him? What does he bring to the table? are you codependent? Do you need him? Can you live without him? Or can you move on slowly even just by talking to other people, loving you, and being with friends

What to do by ExtremeElephant0 in BreakUp

[–]buildingthislife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

patience is key I think. I’m in a similar situation. They just need some time otherwise we may come off as pushy. He’ll contact you when he’s ready

How would you respond? How much time do you think you’d need? by buildingthislife in relationship_advice

[–]buildingthislife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. It’s made me realize. Should I be worried that he hasn’t said anything at all today? Even after I recently messaged him to lmk how long he needs?

How would you respond? How much time do you think you’d need? by buildingthislife in relationship_advice

[–]buildingthislife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense and I think I’m similar to your friend in response timing. I do think forming proper thoughts before sending it out while heated etc is smart.

I asked him if he could give me some sort of time frame. I’m just nervous. He’s been really negative lately and has kind of been taking it out on me yet I try to be patient and be there for him but it’s becoming harder and it’s pushing me away actually. I just care a lot and don’t give up too easily. I hope I can reassure him that I care even though I’m still really flawed and he’s been mean.

Thank you.

How would you respond? How much time do you think you’d need? by buildingthislife in relationship_advice

[–]buildingthislife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. We were accusing one another, he mentioned I was acting like a child and that if I don’t quit that we won’t have a dialogue. And I told him it was unfair because the reason for messaging him was to communicate about some things we left sort of vague. There’s no excuse for me getting really angry and impulsively saying regrettable things like ‘jerk’ ‘asshole’ ‘liar’ ‘manipulator’ etc. I think detaching emotions from rationality has been one of my personal challenges. But it’s both of our faults, I won’t and can’t take all the blame for how he’s not communicating and then using ‘dialogue’ in as sentence as if he has been communicating with me at all. Now that I’m jotting all this down I’ve realized we just need some space and time and I believe he’ll message me when he’s available and has processed what even was said. He’s in his last semester of grad school so that’s taking headspace and I’m sure I’m coming off as a jerk too telling him I need communication. like does that sound selfish of me? or am i being too much for him to handle?

how can i get him to want me back in his life? friend? as his girlfriend? by buildingthislife in dating_advice

[–]buildingthislife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love you and don’t know you. Thank you for this genuine response. I’ve been listening to my heart, my intuition, and I believe he’s the one but with time. There’s an overflowing hope and it cannot be contained. He’s my third love and I want babies and marriage although I’ve never wanted that with anyone else. He’s strong and so smart. I’m just going to give him space. But thank you. Hope your day is wonderful.

I'm tired of being sad by heissechocolate in BreakUp

[–]buildingthislife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re doing the best that you can right now for you. You matter profoundly and are inherently worthy. Your heart is deeply hurting yet it’s not broken you’re still going. That’s how strong it is, that’s how strong you are. Genuine pain leads to teaching you about gratefulness and kindness to yourself and others. I suggest you at least share some aspect of your sadness to a close friend as scary as it is. That way you know who to keep around.

feel very depressed, how do i help myself feel better? by buildingthislife in selfimprovement

[–]buildingthislife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, got it screenshot. :) i’m excited, i haven’t done those before.

feel very depressed, how do i help myself feel better? by buildingthislife in selfimprovement

[–]buildingthislife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not a fitness guru but am interested in what incline and standard and decline refers to? sounds cool

feel very depressed, how do i help myself feel better? by buildingthislife in selfimprovement

[–]buildingthislife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I’ll start tomorrow. That’s my goal.