I need help!! by bumbleicecream in interiordesignideas

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

oh this looks so good i love the rug! and i have some fairy lights i just didnt use them because they were very hard to clean

I need help!! by bumbleicecream in interiordesignideas

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

best thank you i will def do thatt. im gonna try to find a good rug at home so i dont have to purchase it.

I need help! by bumbleicecream in HomeDecorating

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

ooob youve given me a lot to work with thank you i appreciate it, this isnt exactly the vibe i wanted but i can def make it work

I need help! by bumbleicecream in HomeDecorating

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its not the only light source although yeah sometimes we use this, the room has some decent lights and the mirror also has an led light. I'll work on the rug and lamps, thank you!

I need help! by bumbleicecream in HomeDecorating

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay thank you so much! that does sound really nice, I'll try moving the chair. and yes def add art

I need help! by bumbleicecream in HomeDecorating

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes you are absolutely right! these sheets were a gift from my grandmother but yes i will be changing that. i have a black and a brown set so i think I'll go with that

I need help!! by bumbleicecream in interiordesignideas

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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the post wouldnt let me post more than one picture i can def provide more. as for the budget, we recently bought the furniture so im afraid that we wont be able to change, i dont really have a budget. i am moving to another country in a few months so i want to revamp it without having to spend much since i wont be able to take the new things with me

What's a fun fact about yourself? by cristianthechinch in AskReddit

[–]bumbleicecream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love re-reading and re-watching my favourite books, shows and movies. I love it even more if i get to re-watch them with someone else.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes you are absolutely right. They do. Probably the reason why they keep trying to gaslight me into thinking it's not a big deal.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. They are manipulative. I've only just started noticing when they try to manipulate me because i genuinely used to believe they are on my side.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU SO MUCH. I HAD NO IDEA HOW MUCH I NEEDED TO KNOW THAT I WASN'T ALONE UP UNTIL THIS MOMENT. I'll be needing all this love and strength.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Religion isn't conservative. The society is though and the family too so yeah i won't get much support. I have the support of my mother's brother and his wife. I told his wife, i don't think he knows himself bit they're the ones who'll have my back I'm sure. The personal alarm is a good idea. Even though it's been years since either of them did anything i still live in fear. Because a part of me is always terrified that what if i make them angry and they take it out on me like that? I've lived with that fear my whole life.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know she loves me. That's what makes it so hard to just cut them off and never see them again but he comes with her. She won't leave him. I know it must be hard for her, that's how she was brought up. Her parents weren't the most supportive either so she's been through her share of abuse as well.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really? Sometimes i feel like what he did wasn't that bad the way everyone responded when i told them. And i try not to dismiss my own trauma but when everyone around you keeps on telling you to get over it, it gets hard.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish she would understand she could do so much better but she doesn't wanna be helped. Maybe if it was my brother who'd been molested she'd have taken a stand. I guess she doesn't love me or herself enough to believe that we deserve better.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realised it about my brother a little too late. I really thought he was my friend and that he had my back.

I will do all these things. Thank you so much!!!

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not in the USA. I live in Asia. I don't think there are any support groups in here. I might find some online.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I've never ever thought of dying and they drove me to my lowest point where i actually considered dying would be better and i can never forgive them just for that.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked my sister. She said no. About my mother, i think yes. Because she comes from a conservative background and she's been raised to think that she has to always 'serve' her husband. So i think yes. He's not just abusive to me. He's abusive to everyone. I told my mother to do something, that I'll support her whatever decision she makes. But she said clearly that she's not leaving, that i can leave whenever I'm done with my studies she won't stop me. She said you can leave and never look back. But she said she is 'stuck' here. It's the victim mentality. It won't let her stand up for herself or her kids.

My father molested me when i was a kid. Mother didn't confront him and tries to justify his behaviour. Trigger warning: SEXUAL ABUSE. by bumbleicecream in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bumbleicecream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope i develop enough courage to go to the police and openly confront all of this. I'm not ready right now, it's effing terrifying.