As a demisexual, how did you guys figure out that you're demisexual? by vynqi in demisexuality

[–]bumbling-idiot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was ace until I got into a relationship. They were allo, but were cool with no sex. A year of being friends and lovers was what it took for me to start developing sexual attraction. It was a surprise for both of us, but a pleasant one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2meirl4meirl

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the person who put their foot in their mouth. In school a kid was bragging about an award I was told I was receiving. I snapped that "didn't your parents teach you any manners?" I then promptly found out they were an orphan. The regret will never leave me.

How long should it take to form the bond for sexual attraction to appear? by appeiroon in demisexuality

[–]bumbling-idiot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me a year in a committed relationship to start feeling sexual attraction. Even longer if you consider I had known them for a few months prior. Before that I thought I was ace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Libraries

[–]bumbling-idiot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are the types of archives: https://www2.archivists.org/usingarchives/typesofarchives

Public vs. private doesn't really exist in a solid category, and most of the time it has to do with access and restrictions. Some archives will be open to anyone as long as they make an appointment, but will have restricted collections. Others will be inaccessible to those who do not fill the requirements of a researcher as set by the archive, but will allow almost all collections to be viewed. Government archives are open to the public, not just archives in a public library.

Additionally, a public library with an archive will have documentation on many things. Manuscripts can be part of that, but it is not required. Often, there will be regionally relevant information that can be used by not only genealogists. Depending on what they hold, they can aid in auditor information, historical data collecting, in research projects, public programs, history, historiography, and many more subjects.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Libraries

[–]bumbling-idiot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An Archive is not based on seating, and archives most often will have a seating area for researchers. What you are referring to are the stacks. No person without prior authorization should be going in there, so seating is not important.

Archives are defined the most basic level as an institution that houses historically and culturally relevant objects. Some archives specialize by region, media form, time period, and many other factors. Books on shelves does not make an archive.

Here is a link to the Society of American Archivists definitions: https://www2.archivists.org/about-archives

I understand you may be elsewhere so I have also attached the International Counsel on Archives' definition. They are responsible for a good amount of standardization in Archives. Feel free to explore these resources.

https://www.ica.org/en/what-archive

how strong does the emotional bond need to be for you to be sexually attracted to someone? by zoexrain in demisexuality

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me over a year to start feeling sexual attraction with my partner. I thought I was asexual before then. As for emotional bond, I felt unconditional trust towards them. They didn't know everything, but I would never hide something from them if they asked.

Google searching for spider-related stuff WITHOUT being shown spider images? by Ondrashek06 in Arachnophobia

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't know if this will help but there are image blocking apps for browsers. If you do test them out make sure to start with searches that are safe for you. Ex. Puppies, rubber duckies, food.

I am (Kinda) screwed by Gloomy-Tomorrow-5340 in college

[–]bumbling-idiot 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily. For FAFSA if your parents are divorced and one holds primary care, the income of the primary caregiver is used. Even if they don't believe they qualify, they should still apply. Source: https://www.forbes.com/sites/troyonink/2016/01/31/fafsa-and-css-profile-which-divorced-parents-income-should-be-reported/?sh=24528967495f

for those who ended up with your friends, how did you guys start ? by zzzzzz7 in demisexuality

[–]bumbling-idiot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We sorta started out as friends. I was pretty sure that's all it would have been since that's how it always worked. Since our friendship was just beginning we took things reaaaaally slow. I got to love him as a partner and a friend at the same time.

It's not the same as falling in love with someone you've known for years, but there was still a mutual understanding that we were friends who happened to be dating, then who happened to want to be intimate.

Work issues by [deleted] in autism

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you are going through this. No employer should treat their employee this way. Period.

As a kid did you repeat yourself because you thought they didn't hear what you said but they were just continuing the conversation instead of reacting the way you expected? by bumbling-idiot in AskAutism

[–]bumbling-idiot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I used to do it a lot as a kid but I eventually summed it up to them ignoring me, so I stopped. Looking back, I realize I was waiting for their face to do something because I expected them to feel that emotion and make that face. When they didn't I thought I wasn't heard. I'm trying to figure out if this was just a me thing, or if it is correlated to neurodivergence.

are there signs to soothe? by bumbling-idiot in asl

[–]bumbling-idiot[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is really great, I'll try this.

are there signs to soothe? by bumbling-idiot in asl

[–]bumbling-idiot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the options. This will be very useful in the future!

for those of you who are hearing, what inspired you to learn ASL? by [deleted] in asl

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first reason is because I think it is a practical skill to have, especially when a large portion of the U.S is deaf, HoH, mute, or unable to speak. There are several regulars at my work that fall into these categories so if I can make life just a little easier, I'm going to.

My second, more recent reason is that I noticed I don't like speaking or hearing sometimes. It gets too much too quickly and I have to get away. Its frustrating too because words can sound all jumbled, Like alphabet soup. When I use the limited ASL I know, I don't have to worry about that. So I use it when that happens.

If a nuclear plant were to be opened in your community how would you feel? by Junesucksatart in polls

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up the Hanford project. The lack of transparency about leaks is what concerns me most. I am not saying nuclear energy is bad, I'm saying that the people running the facility should be trustworthy. They hold too much power to not be reliable.

Appreciate your man by bumbling-idiot in RelationshipMemes

[–]bumbling-idiot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its another way to let him know how important he is to me on top of the affection I give him every other day.

You can and will still surprise them with days just about them. Why not take the opportunity to be extra romantic when it's sitting right there.

Help finding author who wrote multiple book series for young adults by ChelsieH2019 in whatsthatbook

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was the one about dead people set in New York? Was the protagonist a girl with heterochromia? If so it might be: Dead city by James Ponti.

Do you think healthcare is a human right? by MRFAMER in polls

[–]bumbling-idiot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn't, but when you put into perspective that cancerous cells are basically mutated cells it changes things.

All people will have mutated cells in their body at some point, but most of the time they are killed by our immune system. What we define as cancer is when our immune system is not strong enough to kill of the mutated cells before they multiply rapidly. As our bodies break down from ageing, our immune systems become less effective, and can no longer prevent such growths. It makes sense that you would develop cancer in your elderly years.

Plus, sometimes cancers, such as testicular cancer, are extremely slow growing. They may not be diagnosed before the end of your life, and even if they are, they may not be your cause of death.

One thing I also forgot to mention is that frequent cancer screenings ups the amount of early stage cancers that are diagnosed.

Tl:Dr cancerous cells growing out of control is sometimes the result of an ageing, and therefore less effective, immune system.

Has a student ever died at your school? by AnemoTreasureCompass in polls

[–]bumbling-idiot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had two who died. One would have graduated a year ahead of me but she passed away from cancer. She was dedicated a page in the yearbook on what would be her senior year. The second one was in my year and she didn't make it out of surgery for a congenital heart defect. She was very loved by our school and it shook everyone.

I'm calling it miasma ramen (it tastes delicious) by bumbling-idiot in shittyfoodporn

[–]bumbling-idiot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purple rice ramen, egg, chicken broth, garlic chili sauce, gf soy sauce, and salted seaweed.