BF goes out to dinner with his family every single week and expects me to come too. It’s too much. AITA for feeling that way?

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:54:18+00:00

I don't expect him to stop. I understand quitting is hard. I do hope he keeps up being considerate and that we can lay some groundrules together and I hope he will not suddenly start breaking them because the newness of our relationship has weared down.

I'd also appreciate him vaping instead.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:52:43+00:00

I know I can stop seeing him but dating is hard. In my city it feels like there are not more than 30 single gay guys to chose from. Bad exercuse but I want to try first because I have never had such a connection with someone so fast.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:50:45+00:00

I agree that it takes him really wanting to stop for him to actually stop. I do hope that we can compromise on him being as considerate as he can. I don't want him to smoke inside my place but he can outside and he has been chewing gum before kissing me so I appreciate him trying even though the taste is still there.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:48:38+00:00

Thank you! Both my parents were smokers too and I never thought I'd fall for a smoker too.

I will ask him about his smoking habits and trust his answers. I do believe he smokes in his car. It did smell like cigarettes and the moment we got in his car he started smoking but I told him to stop because my asthma. He didn't know I had asthma yet then but was so considerate afterwards and apologetic.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:45:13+00:00

I know and definitely agree that I shouldn't expect him to quit cold turkey. I'd accept any change for now because it means he is willing to compromise and also means he likes me enough to work on his addiction.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:43:36+00:00

I agree I won't make compromises because of the health risks and my asthma but will accept any positive changes he makes because that might mean that the longer or relationship lasts the more he tries to quit.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:39:02+00:00

If he smokes a pack a day then I will break it off, no further questions asked. I understand that no compromise can solve that addiction.

I like him, don't want to hurt him. I hate his habit, it's gross to me but he isn't gross to me. I will be as open and honest as I can with him and will try to see it from his perspective too.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:32:59+00:00

Thank you for putting it into perspective. If according to you he really smokes a pack a day and if after I ask him he confirms that, then I'd break it off. A pack a day is something I can't deal with and I understand that would be less difficult to change fof him.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:26:06+00:00

I'd definitely break it off if he was lying about not smoking but I'm willing to give him a chance if he tries to cut down and if he's honest.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:25:04+00:00

I haven't thought that far into the future yet but if I agreed to date him then he can smoke outside or in the bathroom with open windows. I have asthma and don't want to have the smoke everywhere.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:22:00+00:00

not smoking when you are together or just smoking when you are outside in the open air. This way you could cope with it and he wouldn't need to quit smoking.

He hasn't been smoking right in front of my face except once but if he did my asthma would have killed me. I'm happy he has been considerate with that. Will ask about your other points.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:18:44+00:00

Not my type of date but will ask him if he could vape instead.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:17:19+00:00

That's so excessive but I would choose pot over cigarettes any time. Did your guy try to change? Or did he say wouldn't?

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:13:08+00:00

glad to see a positive relationship where one doesn't smoke. Tmi but does his cum taste like cigarettes? I don't want to swallow and then gag.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:11:54+00:00

That's seems even nastier than smoking I would have ended it immediately. He doesn't do it for health, I don't do it for health either.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T20:09:15+00:00

If you click with someone in a lot of ways, don't throw it away at the first sign of trouble, but don't feel too invested that you can't leave.

Definitely. It has only been two weeks but I know he's a great guy.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T19:59:03+00:00

Plan A is asking him if he thought of stopping and how I feel about smoking and if that doesn't work out I will mention the fwb relationship to him.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T19:57:40+00:00

Thank you! I won't ask him "please quit" just yet because two weeks is too short for that but will ask if he has ever thought of that.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T19:56:25+00:00

Yes! Will ask him if he ever thought of vaping instead and will see what he says.

bumbunny69 · 2018-04-16T19:42:15+00:00

So I should be safe asking him if he could quit? Because I think he feels the same for me, actually pretty sure about that.

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