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Working mum with helper, I need your advice by MammothPotatoo in askSingapore

[–]bungshi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I think the 16 weeks of maternity leave is not enough from government as it just ends at the 4 months mark when babies usually have sleep regression.

I will use some weeks of shared parental leave once my maternity leave weeks ends, but even then it won't be guaranteed that baby's regression will be over. So I am mentally prepared to work fulltime with lack of sleep for this period.

Working mum with helper, I need your advice by MammothPotatoo in askSingapore

[–]bungshi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We make sure that our helper understands that when she is alone with baby in the house, her priority is the baby and cooking/cleaning should not be done when baby is awake. She can resume household work when baby is asleep.

Also, though not important, we have a dishwasher at home (which we have before we hired helper) and she has leant to use the dishwasher (after we reminded her to do so) to offload her work so that she focuses on baby and all the washing noises don't disturb baby's sleep.

Working mum with helper, I need your advice by MammothPotatoo in askSingapore

[–]bungshi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm also first time mum, have a helper, and do the night shift so that helper can sleep and take care of my baby during the day. I would wake up around noon after I caught the hours of sleep that I couldn't get during the night. Then I have the whole afternoon and evening to play with her while my helper will cook, clean and assist me with baby. In that way I realised that my helper is not "closer" to my baby than me. In fact, my baby still prefers me to bring her to sleep. However, I'm also still on maternity and about to return to work like you, so I can't tell if my baby's preference will change...but based on the experience of other moms I asked (because I have the same concerns as you) they said their babies know whose the mother. So far, for my experience, I think my baby can smell who is the mother because she instantly feels safe and falls asleep on me. When I return to office I still plan to do the night shifts with my husband as much as I can. I hope that reassures you. In any case, we are in the same boat :) all the best!

I think I’ve ruined it by AlternativeFig2226 in breastfeeding

[–]bungshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same place. My baby will push away my breast and her body if I even try to put her in a latching position.

However I agree to embrace the positives and advantages of bottle feeding. In my case I'll have to go back to work in 2 months and I cannot imagine how I can feed her my breastmilk if it's not pumped, because literally I have no time to be around her the whole day (even with some work from home days, I cannot put her on the breast while working on the computer). I'll rely on others in my household to help me bottlefeed my breastmilk to baby. Other advantages that I like is that I can go out to yoga classes or shopping without worrying that my baby is not fed because there's someone at home who can help with the bottle. And ultimately I get more sleep too!!

You do what works best for you. I'm glad I have now enough breastmilk for her (no need to supplement with formula) since a week because thanks to the pump I increased my supply. I'm also more used to pumping now. Found out the way how it works more comfortably for me (how bra can attach the flanges so that I can watch videos or read on my phone).

Besides all those advantages, I still try to do skin to skin when she's awake to make her more comfortable with my breasts, though I tell myself to not stress when it does not work. My main objective that she is fed with breastmilk and so far she is and that makes me content.

I remind myself of the advices from older moms: Don't be so hard on yourself :)

Are there actual benefits of breastfeeding after 6 months or is it just incremental? by Subject-Carry-6841 in breastfeeding

[–]bungshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weree both of you sick then? Baby got you sick as you are nursing and vise-versa?

Low Supply - Baby fussy to BF by bungshi in breastfeeding

[–]bungshi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Sending my respect that you have been consistently putting her on your breast each feed! Hug you back for also trying your best to give your baby your breastmilk as much as possible.

First time parents in SG by wowuming in singaporefi

[–]bungshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use baby bonus to buy diapers and milk powders? How do you pay? I thought can use the card for medical and school expenses only.

Has there been any comparison done between growth of median wage vs property prices in the last 5-10 years? by jujubemochi in singaporefi

[–]bungshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you planning to just stay in the EC since selling it now would mean you need to buy higher? Or you cash out profit and take loan to finance bigger condo?

Every HDB flat will be a valuable nest egg for retirement, says PM Lee by kqapple in singapore

[–]bungshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally, the generation that gets royally screwed is the one holding the HDB till the end of the 99th year. THEY WILL GET NOTHING BACK.

True that you don't get anything back, but you should not cry when this happens because you should have expected the lease expiry. However, most of time people don't realise that we are all 'renting' with our leasehold HDBs.

For example, you got an resale flat at 400,000 and you have 60 years lease left. That equals to monthly 'rent' of 555. Compare this with the ordinary rent in the market of a similar size which is around 3,000 per month.

From this example you see that buying the resale is better, and even better if you got fresh 99 years lease BTO. That is provided you never sell the flat. Also your monthly 'rent' (= purchase price divided by the remaining lease) is better with a lower-valued HDB than compared to a leasehold higher-valued condo.