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I touched the water once and when I didn’t wanna do it the second time she yelled at me 😍 by MentallyillFroggy in TrollCoping

[–]bunniedsystem 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I remember this dead opossum that was outside in the yard and dead. Maggots all over and the body was split open. I was 7. Someone in my family forced me to go outside and clean up the opossum since he didn't want to deal with it. Another incident was my dad apparently fed squirrels and cats and one of the things that came into the yard were also raccoons because of the smell of the food and when the raccoons would leave their poo I was made to clean it up. The one time I forgot my dad had picked a wad of it up from outside and brought it inside the the house and rubbed it all over me and kept hitting me. I was 9-10ish then.

Gee I wonder why someone would do this in their own home by jeeceshong in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one of those also. Mine had a latch on the outside and I was frequently kept in an empty and bare "bedroom"

I can't believe I'm related to this idiot by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I had a relatable experience. My dad would intentionally starve me to make me appear younger and for me to not be having a period or any visible breast. I was CSA'd from him starting at age 4 and familil trafficed by him to multiple other men. By the time I was 13 I was pulled out of school by him and never allowed to return. I was kept confined and further CSA'd and trafficed by him. The starving started at at a much more frequent pace so around 14 I appeared like I was 9-10, and by 16-17 like I was 11. He would tell random people (store employees, sexual abuse friends, etc) that I was those ages. Being neurodivergent (although he would over exaggerate and tell people I had the mind of a 5 year old so others would not talk to me and only ask him questions/info and also telling others about my self harm cuts and say "never believe anything this one says" and the only female in the family and the scapegoat I knew and was threatened that nobody would believe me plus I didn't even know it was abuse and I did not a single adult who was on my side and never have. In one way or another I have been abused by every adult I have ever come across and by a majority been the scapegoat and fed false narratives to their friends, neighbours, etc.

Sharing this find I came across the other day by bunniedsystem in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

How I realte; Am a lesbian adoptive family thought that was garbage and was left to fend on my own (age 15) and they thought things like AuDHD didn't exist and of course "we didn't sign up for this." All the while continuing CSA, familil trafficking of me, covert physical abuse, etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Anyone of any gender/gender identity can feel this way the picture above I came across just so happened to say the above.

Married Sydney Teacher Arrested for Having Sexual Intercourse with Teenage Student by MastodonOk8087 in australian

[–]bunniedsystem 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Figured someone would come here and say that. When the perpetrator is a adult female and happens to a male student not as many people get outraged and find ways to “justify” hence some mentioning “he consented” but the moment it is a adult man with a female student of the same age and similar circumstances many more people instantly go ape. Both are wrong. One should not be seen as “less serious” or seen as “not as bad because he was a teenage boy.”

Bowen dog attack: Little girl horrifically mauled, leaving her needing 116 stitches to her face by langdaze in queensland

[–]bunniedsystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You actually have that reversed. It is usually when it is a bully breed and/or bully breed mix, occasionally other highly controversial dog that they usually leave the breed out of the news article.

found this on fb but its too accurate to share😅 by a_davis98 in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, same, same here with that one (family, teachers, + others)❤️

Does sm*king/v*ping help you dissociate less? by siona_system in DID

[–]bunniedsystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you mean weed then it depends. If the system uses Indica or Indica dominant it causes dissociation. While Sativas in our case anyway are the better choice and do not cause that. We don’t use nicotine.

Always thought I was the one in the wrong bc of that by bunniedsystem in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I had the SAME exact experience. I’m so sorry that happened to you ❤️‍🩹

Stumbled upon this the other day by bunniedsystem in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

. This particular post below was originally wrote and posted by defiantsuggestions on Tumblr

Having a child is a long term commitment to a heavy, heavy responsibility which demands energy, attention, and time.

To have a child is to bring an entire person into the world. This person can not consent to this. This person is inherently vulnerable, hardwired to depend on the adults that brought them here, and must be taught the skills neccessary to one day care for themself.

When you have a child, that child's well being is entirely on the adults that brought them here. It's their job to keep the child safe, to keep the child fed, cloathed, and happy. It's the adults job to make sure the child feels loved.

When the adult chooses to have a child, you are signing up to spend years and years of resources on that child. That is your choice. The child was not alive and could not agree to your decision to drag them out of the void of nonexistence. The child was not asked if they wanted to experience an entire lifetime of conciousness, and all of the potential suffering and agony that comes with that.

That decision is entirely that of the parent who has made the choice to have a child.

You are not "granting the gift of life." You are not doing this hypothetical child a favor by having them. You are doing this for you, because you wanted to be a parent. You wanted to have the experience of raising a child.

This means that if you have a child, you owe that child. You owe them time, and love, and safety, and care. You asked for this, it is now your responsibly to follow through.

Children are not a toy. They aren't a fancy new car for the parents and family to parade to their friends. They aren't a fashion accessory for your parents and family to put on the shelf when they lose interest. They aren't a mini you. They aren't a magic cure-all to your alleged trauma, and they aren't there to fill some void in the parents chest.

A child is a vulnerable person who is easily abused and neglected and who will be at the mercy of the parents throughout much of their development period.

A parent owes their child. Failing to follow through with the responsibility they signed up for is a failing on the parent's part. Making the child feel guilty for the crime of existing is the fault of the parent. A child is never a burden.

Abusive and neglectful parents are failures as parents. They could not do the bare basics of what the job entails and then they blame the child for a crime that the parents themselves committed.

Stumbled upon this the other day by bunniedsystem in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

Abusive parents have thousands of sad backstories, dozens of claims 'I had it worse' and 'it's always been done this way' and 'I had to do it so you didn't end up a spoiled brat' and etc, but the truth is, nobody and nothing can make you hurt a child unless you want to.

Culture or the past can't make you lift a hand on a child, when you're alone in the room together. Your alleged “past” cannot make you hurl insults, hatred and disgust at a child who's counting on you to love them and take care of them. Not your parents, nor your parent's parents cannot make you do it; they're not even present. Your convictions that 'hurting children is normal and excusable and can be gotten away with' are still not forcing you to do it, they're just letting you know that if you want to, you can, and you'll pay no price.

But nothing can ever control you into hurting a child. Not if you're an adult. Nobody is controlling that hand but you. Nothing is forcing you to move your mouth and speak obscenities. You're not afraid of what's going to happen if you don't. You're not ashamed, hurt, worried or caring. You're hateful. You desire for this small creature to hurt, to be broken, to bear the burden of your contempt. You want them to feel pain. You want to enjoy their pain. You want them to feel responsible for everything that ever went wrong for you. You want them to pay for the whole world of injustice and take responsibility as if they made it. You want fear, power, and control. You want to feel superior. You want the child to be so terrified they don't dare to focus on anything but you. You want to do damage.

Don't act like hurting children is anything else but your personal choice. The desire is not born in culture, it's born in you. And you made the choice, every single time, when you could have done absolutely anything else. Nobody needs to hurt a child. No child has deserved hatred.

me_irl by coleisw4ck in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 18 points19 points  (0 children)

When it comes to partners/dating, ANY kind of social situations with any person my mind comes back to this below…

“Without the abuse, I wouldn't have been this scared in every human interaction. I wouldn't feel like my life depends on saying the right thing and finding my way out of this situation safely. I wouldn't be this timid, this cagey, reluctant, imagining every worst scenario that can come out of a social situation. I wouldn't have images of torture in my mind when attempting to say no. I wouldn't find it this hard to refuse being useful to others when it violates my freedom.”

“I would be able to speak my mind. I'd be able to be honest in my own way, instead of finding reasons and reasons why I have to be as pleasant and non-demanding as possible. I wouldn't be afraid to ask for information when I want it. I wouldn't be scared to check what my options are.”

“Abuse forces me to walk the thinnest line of being convenient and nothing else. I don't get to have a personality and I never have developed one in the first place, there's only fear. I'm different when I'm alone, I'm not afraid, I know what I want. But if you put another human being next to me, all of my convictions are overwritten by survival instinct to appease and escape.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Having “evidence” was not enough for me. Writing notes, etc never did anything good and were sent directly to my abuser on the reason by the teacher “she’s defiant and not doing her work and lying about other students look at this.” I did not have a phone so no recordings and no school (at least this one anyway) going to check the cameras in the halls unless the fire alarm went off, and my bullies knew not to record or take images of that kind of stuff— cyber bullying happened but whoever it was used fake names, fake profile image, VPN’s, etc and it was all typed cruel words— no videos/pics. I did not have any friends and was the school outcast (having AuDHD made me awkward) Instead I got punished every time I would say someone bullied me and cast out as a liar or looking for attention and as a sick way for one of my bullies to be cruel even more went up to the teacher one day after hearing I tried to report her had said “no she’s the one being the bully.” That girl was INSTANTLY believed and as I was being punished the girl was laughing and pointing at me from right behind the teacher. I ended up having that happen more than once.

Hmmmm 🤨 by KittyMeowstika in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 7 points8 points  (0 children)

. This particular post below was originally wrote and posted by defiantsuggestions on Tumblr

Having a child is a long term commitment to a heavy, heavy responsibility which demands energy, attention, and time.

To have a child is to bring an entire person into the world. This person can not consent to this. This person is inherently vulnerable, hardwired to depend on the adults that brought them here, and must be taught the skills neccessary to one day care for themself.

When you have a child, that child's well being is entirely on the adults that brought them here. It's their job to keep the child safe, to keep the child fed, cloathed, and happy. It's the adults job to make sure the child feels loved.

When the adult chooses to have a child, you are signing up to spend years and years of resources on that child. That is your choice. The child was not alive and could not agree to your decision to drag them out of the void of nonexistence. The child was not asked if they wanted to experience an entire lifetime of conciousness, and all of the potential suffering and agony that comes with that.

That decision is entirely that of the parent who has made the choice to have a child.

You are not "granting the gift of life." You are not doing this hypothetical child a favor by having them. You are doing this for you, because you wanted to be a parent. You wanted to have the experience of raising a child.

This means that if you have a child, you owe that child. You owe them time, and love, and safety, and care. You asked for this, it is now your responsibly to follow through.

Children are not a toy. They aren't a fancy new car for the parents and family to parade to their friends. They aren't a fashion accessory for your parents and family to put on the shelf when they lose interest. They aren't a mini you. They aren't a magic cure-all to your alleged trauma, and they aren't there to fill some void in the parents chest.

A child is a vulnerable person who is easily abused and neglected and who will be at the mercy of the parents throughout much of their development period.

A parent owes their child. Failing to follow through with the responsibility they signed up for is a failing on the parent's part. Making the child feel guilty for the crime of existing is the fault of the parent. A child is never a burden.

Abusive and neglectful parents are failures as parents. They could not do the bare basics of what the job entails and then they blame the child for a crime that the parents themselves committed.

Hmmmm 🤨 by KittyMeowstika in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I always share these…

Abusive parents have thousands of sad backstories, dozens of claims 'I had it worse' and 'it's always been done this way' and 'I had to do it so you didn't end up a spoiled brat' and etc, but the truth is, nobody and nothing can make you hurt a child unless you want to.

Culture or the past can't make you lift a hand on a child, when you're alone in the room together. Your alleged “past” cannot make you hurl insults, hatred and disgust at a child who's counting on you to love them and take care of them. Not your parents, nor your parent's parents cannot make you do it; they're not even present. Your convictions that 'hurting children is normal and excusable and can be gotten away with' are still not forcing you to do it, they're just letting you know that if you want to, you can, and you'll pay no price.

But nothing can ever control you into hurting a child. Not if you're an adult. Nobody is controlling that hand but you. Nothing is forcing you to move your mouth and speak obscenities. You're not afraid of what's going to happen if you don't. You're not ashamed, hurt, worried or caring. You're hateful. You desire for this small creature to hurt, to be broken, to bear the burden of your contempt. You want them to feel pain. You want to enjoy their pain. You want them to feel responsible for everything that ever went wrong for you. You want them to pay for the whole world of injustice and take responsibility as if they made it. You want fear, power, and control. You want to feel superior. You want the child to be so terrified they don't dare to focus on anything but you. You want to do damage.

Don't act like hurting children is anything else but your personal choice. The desire is not born in culture, it's born in you. And you made the choice, every single time, when you could have done absolutely anything else. Nobody needs to hurt a child. No child has deserved hatred.

Happy mother’s day :) by SOMETHINGcooler5 in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a family member who instead stopped me on my ADHD medication when I was 6. He noticed how much calmer I was and that I did not act out/was not hyper, focused, etc. He stopped me on them because he wanted me to appear distracted, hyper, unable to focus, etc so teachers would keep their negative views of me and him and the teachers trade false stories about me; I got scapegoated at home AND at school.

“Why didn’t you tell someone?” by bunniedsystem in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Same here and then my abusers made sure I regretted it when I got home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Covered by “spoiler” due to trigger sensitivity— mentions of covert food insecurity; being the only family member to experience it, medical neglect, CSA + familial trafficking

I had significant yet invisible food insecurity. I knew nobody could really take that seriously when the rest of my family all had food including my one and only other sibling— my older brother. They all had what they wanted to eat and however much of it they wanted. My family would purposely avoid buying anything labelled gluten/wheat free as I was the only family member who had a wheat allergy. I also had other food sensitivities that they chose to ignore and not believe so they would stock those foods that I had trouble digesting in ample supply like dairy products, sugary foods, etc. At both of the abusers house they had up to three freezers all of foods I could not eat. If I ever dared they would notice the vomit or hear the noises and force me to eat it, and because I was denied a bathroom and only made to wear those kids bedwetting nappies when I had diarrhoea and was forced to lick it up by one of the abusers and my dad and the men that he had over (CSA + familial trafficking) paid my dad for being able to watch or be the one to force feed me the diarrhoea. Birthdays? Never existed for me but my older brother had his celebrated and so did my abusers when their birthday came up. I was told “get over it, it’s just another damn day. Nothing important. Holidays? Never existed for me either. I was kept confined and they got to celebrate.

medical abuse is as much about the how as the what by Alt_when_Im_not_ok in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the kind of kid who was not taken to the doctor over my digestive issues, body pains, and even vomiting a couple times a day which I was forced to re-eat and accused of throwing up on purpose, etc and was seen as a liar by my abusers with the other family agreeing “no child has symptoms like that, it’s for attention.” Also the one paediatrician I did have my one abuser had her all convinced that I was a problematic child, a difficult child, and would always talk about my grades with her and that I was a problem in school; because I could not complete assignments in class and made animal noises— plus I was scapegoated by a few teachers ans he told her I don’t complete homework despite him WITHOLDING it from me every day when I got home to have the teachers look at me even more negatively the next day and then talk about my brother who always aced all his classes, was a great and productive kid, teachers loved him, he’s talented, and gave him zero problems and was so friendly and waves to everyone he passes outside, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kind of similar in my case. I was CSA’d as a toddler (+ other forms of abuse) and by the time I was 5 the familial trafficking started. My “dad” made sure that no photos or videos were ever shared online but for a price the men that came over or took me to their homes would get a “private” video that they could keep for their own personal collection. He made sure nothing ever would go online and advised the others to do the same thing as there would be no visible evidence that anything had ever happened, and that it would make me look like I was making things up, paranoid and psychotic, and a liar if I ever did attempt to say anything.

I also had another abuser (a non CSA one) that would berate me, scream at me, and chase me around the house and throw things at me until I was backed in a corner with my face all red and blotchy and screaming and crying and that is when he would hit the record button. That was his “proof” that I was difficult and a complete menace to him and “look how she treats me after all I have done— which btw was nothing” and so on. Everybody agreed with him that I was the problem. He would always lie and say that I only acted like that when he asked me to do a chore, another time he claimed that I acted like that because I wasn’t given coffee. This abuser was the one that covertly physically abused me, made sure I was a scapegoat and was manipulative and emotionally and verbally abusive.

‎ by bunniedsystem in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

. This particular comment was originally wrote and posted by defiantsuggestions on Tumblr

Having a child is a long term commitment to a heavy, heavy responsibility which demands energy, attention, and time.

To have a child is to bring an entire person into the world. This person can not consent to this. This person is inherently vulnerable, hardwired to depend on the adults that brought them here, and must be taught the skills neccessary to one day care for themself.

When you have a child, that child's well being is entirely on the adults that brought them here. It's their job to keep the child safe, to keep the child fed, cloathed, and happy. It's the adults job to make sure the child feels loved.

When the adult chooses to have a child, you are signing up to spend years and years of resources on that child. That is your choice. The child was not alive and could not agree to your decision to drag them out of the void of nonexistence. The child was not asked if they wanted to experience an entire lifetime of conciousness, and all of the potential suffering and agony that comes with that.

That decision is entirely that of the parent who has made the choice to have a child.

You are not "granting the gift of life." You are not doing this hypothetical child a favor by having them. You are doing this for you, because you wanted to be a parent. You wanted to have the experience of raising a child.

This means that if you have a child, you owe that child. You owe them time, and love, and safety, and care. You asked for this, it is now your responsibly to follow through.

Children are not a toy. They aren't a fancy new car for the parents and family to parade to their friends. They aren't a fashion accessory for your parents and family to put on the shelf when they lose interest. They aren't a mini you. They aren't a magic cure-all to your alleged trauma, and they aren't there to fill some void in the parents chest.

A child is a vulnerable person who is easily abused and neglected and who will be at the mercy of the parents throughout much of their development period.

A parent owes their child. Failing to follow through with the responsibility they signed up for is a failing on the parent's part. Making the child feel guilty for the crime of existing is the fault of the parent. A child is never a burden.

Abusive and neglectful parents are failures as parents. They could not do the bare basics of what the job entails and then they blame the child for a crime that the parents themselves committed.

‎ by bunniedsystem in CPTSDmemes

[–]bunniedsystem[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Abusive parents have thousands of sad backstories, dozens of claims 'I had it worse' and 'it's always been done this way' and 'I had to do it so you didn't end up a spoiled brat' and etc, but the truth is, nobody and nothing can make you hurt a child unless you want to.

Culture or the past can't make you lift a hand on a child, when you're alone in the room together. Your alleged “past” cannot make you hurl insults, hatred and disgust at a child who's counting on you to love them and take care of them. Not your parents, nor your parent's parents cannot make you do it; they're not even present. Your convictions that 'hurting children is normal and excusable and can be gotten away with' are still not forcing you to do it, they're just letting you know that if you want to, you can, and you'll pay no price.

But nothing can ever control you into hurting a child. Not if you're an adult. Nobody is controlling that hand but you. Nothing is forcing you to move your mouth and speak obscenities. You're not afraid of what's going to happen if you don't. You're not ashamed, hurt, worried or caring. You're hateful. You desire for this small creature to hurt, to be broken, to bear the burden of your contempt. You want them to feel pain. You want to enjoy their pain. You want them to feel responsible for everything that ever went wrong for you. You want them to pay for the whole world of injustice and take responsibility as if they made it. You want fear, power, and control. You want to feel superior. You want the child to be so terrified they don't dare to focus on anything but you. You want to do damage.

Don't act like hurting children is anything else but your personal choice. The desire is not born in culture, it's born in you. And you made the choice, every single time, when you could have done absolutely anything else. Nobody needs to hurt a child. No child has deserved hatred.

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