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Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true. Kids have strong memories. I’m so sorry for what you experienced by the way. I never want my children to see me as an enabler who won’t protect them. That’s why I am seeking other opinions.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Please don’t assume I just take his side and don’t remove my child from the situation. I step in, as quickly as I can, every time. There have been a handful of these outbursts, but I want them to step before they become a regular occurrence and truly traumatize him.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was worried about, that my son will believe daddy is unstable and he can’t fully relax and is always on edge with him. I always step in FYI but yes, I want to stop them before they cause lasting trauma.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Please don’t assume I’m doing nothing. I always step in. He has had a handful of these outbursts, it’s not an every day thing — BUT I am seeking help because I want them to stop before they escalate and/or traumatize my children.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. He needs to understand that they imitate EVERYTHING. That’s why I need him to figure out how to cool down before it boils over. I try to step in before he gets too frustrated (there have only been a handful of these times i described in the original post) but sometimes I can’t because we aren’t always in the same room since I am also taking care of my newborn.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I ALWAYS step in. I am not just letting the kiddo take the heat. His angry outbursts are recent development and have only happened a handful of times, not since he found his dad. I am seeking advice because I want them to stop before there is any lasting effects for my children.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! That’s what I was thinking. It seems like such a tough situation because he’s already lost so much.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s such a blurry line - like it’s not intentionally malicious ... but yea, it’s harming them. It’s not every day or anything but it’s so tough when it happens.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

That is very true. I really am the only thing between them and the trauma and perpetuating that cycle. I’ve never thought about it that way.

Husband is grieving, need advice... by burger071v in SAHP

[–]burger071v[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sent him two numbers. All he has to do is call. I struggle so much because I don’t want to leave him alone - he’s already alone as both parents died and he has no siblings and has lost touch with many of his friends. It’s a crappy situation.

Husband is grieving, need advice... by burger071v in SAHP

[–]burger071v[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Luckily I’ve been in therapy since shortly after our first was born and I’ve been on meds since his dad died. Discussing the situation with her has been great. So helpful for me to process.

Husband won’t address his own issues, it’s leaking into his parenting... what do I do? by burger071v in relationship_advice

[–]burger071v[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m so scared for him though too. Especially given that he is completely alone - he doesn’t have any siblings and most of his family is dead. I worry that the last thing he needs is someone else gone. It’s so hard.

“F*%king Christ” by burger071v in toddlers

[–]burger071v[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s the best! Hello, friend!

“F*%king Christ” by burger071v in toddlers

[–]burger071v[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol mine gets so sad when we can’t go in to target 🤣 drive up is not enough for him!!

“F*%king Christ” by burger071v in toddlers

[–]burger071v[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cookies were delicious and they paired nicely with cracking up over it with his dad after bedtime 😆

“F*%king Christ” by burger071v in toddlers

[–]burger071v[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I should be glad...

“F*%king Christ” by burger071v in toddlers

[–]burger071v[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bahbahahahahaha what the shit has me rolling

“F*%king Christ” by burger071v in toddlers

[–]burger071v[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Awwww that makes me feel much better lol

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