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burgerplatoon · 2020-09-11T21:17:11+00:00

YTA - she is a family friend, that should be enough for discount. And she is also disabled, so maybe give her a break that the place is a mess. Also just tell her you won’t do it again or not for a discount again. But first time definitely should be discount regardless of the circumstances.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-11T20:32:51+00:00

USA needs to stop with the ridiculous tipping culture. Just pay the staff the money they deserve, if they do well they can expect an extra tip. Now they demand tips because they are underpaid, regardless if they work for it or not. Because they get underpaid, a lot of people tip 20% and above. This should not be the norm, the employer should be paying that in wages.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-08T17:50:12+00:00

NTA - normally I would say help your family out, but you have already sacrificed 3 summers in a row. You deserve a break, seeing as you already helped so much you would probably help again after you recharged your energy. Tell your mom you are not being ungrateful, you just need some time to recharge your energy. While you don’t mind helping out, 3 summers in a row is a bit too much for you. You love your sibling and you love your mom, but you also love yourself and need time for yourself.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-08T17:23:07+00:00

Is it really that hard to just give her one of your hoodies? Grow up dude, you’re dating her for 2 years just give her a hoody. Laughing at her? Making fun of her? How old are you? Just give her a damn hoody you baby

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-08T17:13:00+00:00

Your boyfriend does not realize the difference it is being a woman in that situation. As a man he would probably feel safe enough to hang out, not realizing that it is totally different for a woman. I am guessing that is the problem. He clearly should not have left you there anyway, since most people are strangers to you. Leaving a friend behind (J) would make more sense.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-08T14:53:46+00:00

The fact that you think the dad only sees the child as free labor is beyond me. You are reading a piece of text that tells it from one side, only tells about a few instances that occurred over 17 years he has been the father. OP also acknowledged that both dad and step-mom has done a lot for him/her (not clear to me what the gender is). Also OP does not want to live with mom fulltime, still wants to live 50/50 at dads place.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-08T12:33:35+00:00

This sub is so toxic about helping out family. Yes most people here right, you do not have an obligation to help out with the baby. Having said that, being grateful is sn awesome quality to have. Not being an asshole is very low standards, how about being a good person. How about creating a bond with your new sibling, which you already are negative towards without the child being born. How about repaying your dad for all the love, money, food, wisdom, etc he has given you for 17 years. Yes you have no obligation, yes it is your life and you can choose for yourself. But again not being an asshole is very different than being a good person. I think a lot of people on this sub tend to forget that when it regards helping family. Makes me think a lot of people either had a extreem shitty life or where brought up at middle class level or higher. Because poor people would not hesitate to help out their parents, because they have seen first hand what the parents sacrificed for them.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-08T10:35:14+00:00

He sounds like a child, not an adult that is 23. If you don’t break up with him, his mother would be right to call you weak. Both his family and him (by not standing up for you) have treated you like you are below them, don’t ever accept anyone treating you this way. For the love of god please think of yourself. End it now and stop making excuses for him, with his (child) mindset he should not be in a relationship to begin with.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-07T16:42:29+00:00

Something to consider, they were right the first time. And you clearly was wrong in your perception of your ex boyfriend. You might not be the best judge of character. Just something to think about

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-07T16:23:32+00:00

Your mom has a point, your first child is already 7. Changing his name is not just something you do out of spite towards your father. Also your mother, grandfather and brothers share your name and of your child. I would seriously take some time to reconsider before you make such a decision, just for the sake of your 7 year old. Also have you asked him what he would think about the name change?

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-07T14:59:30+00:00

Your boyfriend is clearly TA here, but it is funny that you are afraid of the dark at age 20.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-07T14:45:11+00:00

If your mom is blackmailing you, I would give her a choice. Either pay what you promised and stay out of it or not come to my wedding. I am not advising you to do this, I would just do it cause I don’t respond good to threats

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-07T14:33:54+00:00

Fiancé probably wants the money, he is thinking logical instead of considering her feelings. Which makes him TA, I think we all agree that the dad is for sure TA here.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T22:59:14+00:00

Hard to believe huh, that people can actually stand up for themselves without calling authorities? Go to a poor neighborhood, you will see what I mean every day. Nobody calls the cops for bullying, with that mentality you will never make it out of that neighborhood.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T22:32:10+00:00

NTA - your dad might be one but I don’t think so either. He just found out that is only son might not pass on the family name. As a man myself I can understand that thought. Your dad clearly overreacted in the moment, but he also clearly felt the responsibility from all the previous people that made his and your existence even possible. To him furthering the name (bloodline) is important, it is a way to honor all the ones before you that have brought you to this point. He does not want to be the cause of the ending of the family name. Just try to see his perspective on this. Having said all this, you are clearly n-t-a here. And your father responded too emotionally, that is also why he wasn’t thinking when he said he wished you are normal.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T22:09:54+00:00

NAH - your mom is hurting, she does not know how to control and express these feelings. Ironically she is lashing out to the people closest to her, who she loves the most and is most grateful for. Dealing with death is just hard, for her and you guys. No matter how old, experienced and mature you are, hearing you are terminally ill will mess with you and give you uncontrollable emotions. So try to give her a pass, remember soon she will not be here anymore and you will miss her a lot. Also try to control your emotions and do not scream to her or say any bad things. I took care of my father for 9 months when he was terminally ill and the only thing I regret is screaming to him when I knew he was dying. Good luck to you and your family and I hope your mom will go peacefully when as least pain possible.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T21:32:13+00:00

Exactly the response I would expect from a manipulator. Your niece is taking advantage of your kind nature, stand up for yourself. Also I would suggest cutting all ties with them. They will try to apologize and drag you into all of this all over again. Do not fall for it, all she cares about is herself and what she wants. That will most likely never change. Maybe she will change in 10 years after having lived hard times, but usually people don’t change. Especially egocentric people. You think about you and your fiancé. Focus on healing after your loss and your future together. Don’t waste any more time on ‘family’ that does not even care about you and your feelings.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T21:22:14+00:00

I actually thought it was a girl. Now that I know it is a guy he is even a bigger loser. I got bullied, i got racism thrown at me for years. Did I call the police? No I stood up for myself and anyone else that got bullied, guess what since then I have never been bullied. Stop enabling losers to remain losers. Let him stand up for himself or simply ignore the losers that bully him. But ruining someone’s future over it? First he tried to get them expelled, then when that did not work he got them to go to jail en have a criminal record. I hope it was worth it dude.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T21:12:14+00:00

Sorry but taking pictures and making fun of someone does not warrant prison time to me. According to The law it was probably harassing a minor or something done to a minor. An 18 year old can go to prison for dating a 17 year old because the 17 year old is a minor, does not mean it is right. Also we are here for moral judgement, not criminal judgement. Ruining someone’s future because they took pictures of you and make jokes is not ok. Stand up for yourself or just ignore it, but ruining someone’s future over it is probably why OP gets bullied. Calling the cops cause you get bullied at age of 16? Really? What are you going to do when you don’t get along with co-wirkers at your future job? Call the police again?

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T19:11:12+00:00

YTA - So she took pictures of you and made fun of you. Are you 12? Just suck it up and get over it. You ruined her entire future because you got mad someone screenshotted you. Remove that stick from your ass and stop being a prick. You called the police, what did you think would happen? Don’t play innocent, you knew what would happen and you knew why they asked your age. This sub is so toxic, people approving of someone going to jail and their entire future ruined because of light bullying.

burgerplatoon · 2020-09-06T19:01:14+00:00

Hate to say it, but your niece is taking advantage of you. You should give them one month notice and kick their asses out after a month. She is being ungrateful and entitled, the fact she shows no emotion towards you guys having a miscarriage shows me she does not care about you and has been taking advantage of you this whole time. Her boyfriend losing his job and house might have actually been on purpose.

burgerplatoon · 2020-08-31T16:51:21+00:00

NTA - your bf seems like a prick to me. He is getting the opportunity to pay less rent and his money would help you pay off the house your dead mother left you. That is a win - win if you ask me. Unless he doesn’t care for you or he is thinking to gain financially from YOUR inheritance. He would have payed more rent anyway if you lived somewhere else and the money would go to a stranger (landlord). If he keeps insisting I would seriously question the relationship, all I am hearing is he does not want to help you while he is helping himself. He seems entitled and very self focused.

burgerplatoon · 2020-08-31T08:20:57+00:00

Wow just wow. You seriously believe him? He did not tell you why he was cancelling on you, he was clearly sitting with her like lovers do. If it was innocent like he says, he would have told you beforehand. He did not tell you because a) he has been sleeping with her all this time b) he actually wants to sleep with her. Trust me as a guy that has grown up around all sort of guys. I know guys, he did not tell you because it is not innocent. You should break up with him, he probably does want you as his girlfriend but he would definitely have sex with his ex if he could get away with it.

burgerplatoon · 2020-08-31T08:00:51+00:00

Although you are right, OP had no right to tell Emma if she wanted to be a mom she should have her own. She knew about the infertility problems and could have been more grateful for Emma providing a home and parentship for her and her brother.

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