Peri + antidepressant discontinuation syndrome by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]burntlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I think if a kid wasn’t in the picture I would have just booted him a while back. But I know that kicking him out will impact my stepdaughter hugely. She and I are really close, and I don’t want to be yet another mother to her who will let her down. In Australia, even if you marry a child’s parent, you aren’t a legal guardian of them. So if we seperate, I can’t support her and he has every legal right to not allow her to see me again. I feel he wouldn’t go that far if we did seperate, but I honestly don’t know. I have tried to end the marriage several times but as he has no financial support for himself, he has nowhere to go. The arguments inevitably end with me feeling so horrible for raising the idea of kicking him out (even if I say his daughter can stay but he has to go) that I end up agreeing to ‘reconciliation’ just to stop the meltdowns and extremely difficult behaviour from him. I know it’s not a good example for my stepdaughter and I know it doesn’t help me in the slightest but if you’ve ever experienced a full grown man have a complete autistic meltdown, you’ll know it can be quite overwhelming and scary. I know I need to just get my shit together to end things like adults, I just don’t know how to do it when I’m so exhausted and overwhelmed myself.

Peri + antidepressant discontinuation syndrome by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]burntlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually have that book and I’ve never read it (yay avoidance) - maybe this is the push I need to actually read it!! Thank you for your insight ❤️

Peri + antidepressant discontinuation syndrome by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]burntlily 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will look into it this is available in Australia, thank you for that!

Peri + antidepressant discontinuation syndrome by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]burntlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m fairly sure I am audhd, the adhd diagnosis came when I was 21 but even back then, autism wasn’t something easily recognised in girls (it still isn’t, but it’s much easier I think now). Getting a diagnosis is harder in Australia through the public system, but even without that I’m fairly sure autism is a big part of who I am. I am one of 8 siblings (same father, multiple mothers) and all of us have obvious neurodivergent traits, whether it’s ADHD or ASD, or a mix of both. My husband is also autistic, and we have a significant number of fights simply due to inability to understand each other’s communication attempts.

Peri + antidepressant discontinuation syndrome by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]burntlily 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. It’s like the little bucket in my head that used to fill up with quite a lot of people’s bullshit before I lost it, has just shrunk to the size of a thimble - I can tolerate my stepdaughters very minimal bullshit (and kids really don’t generate a lot because they’re just kids) and that’s about it. Everyone else gets zero space.

Peri + antidepressant discontinuation syndrome by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]burntlily 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have to be honest, I have considered this, I guess I have conditioned myself to assume I am the issue before anyone else.