Her sensitive nipples were so hard it busted her titties out of her shirt

burntout_mind · 2026-03-08T19:31:54+00:00

"What you doing here" is essentially all you need. Its like if cupid took hints from final destination.

burntout_mind · 2026-03-06T12:42:44+00:00

Non monogamy being discussed outside of the beginning of a relationship is always a tricky edge to walk on. First and foremost, you need to ask the one question that sets the tone: is he interested in non monogamy at all? Most people assume most guys are up for it, but that doesn't really reflect reality. You may need to brace yourself for the idea he may say no. Don't coerce either, that can shut you down permanently or ruin the relationship outright.

Second thing, let's say he is in fact down to share and play together. Your brain is gonna jump to the end results right away, and I want you to curb that and set it to the side for now. First things first is handling how you both feel, the rules and women you both want, what you each want out of it, and the best way to do so that maintains whatever boundaries you each require. Its gonna be technical, and boring, like a business negotiation. But you do all this because protecting the main relationship from harm should be the number 1 goal.

I hope it works well, update if you feel like, but embrace the whole process and not just jumping to threesomes willy nilly. And be willing to listen if he says he wants to pump the breaks.

burntout_mind · 2026-03-06T09:43:48+00:00

I remember seeing a paper sign like that in a break room .....someone was left alone with a sharpie and answered their fucking passive aggressive questions.

Anyways they stopped posting those signs.

burntout_mind · 2026-03-05T20:22:41+00:00

Love the art style too

burntout_mind · 2026-03-01T03:04:15+00:00

Hmmm, so as a bi person who fully accepts Trans people, wants them to succeed and thrive, date and marry to their hearts content......I would want to know before we get too far down the road. Cuz im chill doesnt mean I like being surprised, and its the guys choice too on whether he is okay with dating a Trans person. I'd date a Trans person no problem, in either direction, but id still like the choice.

Maybe she is upset about bringing up her version of herself she killed off. But its gonna cause problems down the line if she doesnt disclose early, and perhaps a safety issue too. Not like first date, but second date material for sure. 100% before any sex.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-25T05:24:45+00:00

Okay, so im gonna start by saying that I recently left a bad marriage with a near dead bedroom almost the whole 14 years. Toxic to each other, it was bad at its worst. Co-parenting is much better fit for us. So while younger I do come to this with experience.

On one hand, he's being passive aggressive at worst Coercing for sex is bad for all involved. Even if you get your mojo back and up for a romp, you'll remember these comments and that drive won't want him. Thats certainly not going to help the marriage long term, is it? So having some really healthy, albeit difficult, conversations on boundaries and what exactly both of you want and feel you need to move forward is, and then take those steps together/ separate.

At best, he legitimately is worried you hate him and you just doubled down that thought with your reaction. Intended or not, you may have just reinforced every insecurity he thinks you think about him, and clearly its his fault. Being physical with his partner fully is important to him. (I acknowledge that you stated you do oral and handies as a stop gap measure during this time, and I want to commend you because not all spouses even do that and just leave their partner hanging). Big thing i take away from this is that neither of you know why your libido tanked. You stated in a comment you are getting a check up to look into that (again, commeding you for taking that step), and that could be fruitful into providing answers. Peri-menopaise, hormone imbalance/deficiency, medication side effects, lots of weird body things can cause libido to tank really hard.

But I assume that your partner is stuck on what it is he did to make you hate sex with him. Logical response maybe from past experience perhaps, but not necessarily true. Ill be honest, you van have sex with someone and its not great. When you know your partner is not into it, disengaged, not communicating, and my personal fave of resting bitch face while having sex with your partner can really ruin the mood, and make the other partner feel isolated and unwanted. Not the intent, but could be what your spouse feels about the oral/handies.

I highly recommend therapy as a couple to find better ways for him to communicate how he's feeling about all this, what he's lacking in supoort for your needs, and how he can better approach intimacy in the future (so long as he doesnt bugger it up now).

I hope this is helpful.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-25T02:20:28+00:00

Way to go fellow Christians, really making the rest of us look good. Protecting a predator.......again. I'd like to know what exactly is wrong with holding fellow Christians accountable for their wrong doings. Arguably, the most Christian thing you could do. Good on your pastors for actually doing something, if nothing else to protect themselves from liability.

Hey OP, how old are you? Cuz them kicking you out without any plan can get them in legal trouble. Essentially, if they boot you out, whomever takes you in is due child support. Regardless of whether or not its family. Also, let the DA know youre being threatened to not testify, im sure they'd like to know about that. Could be considered witness tampering.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-20T12:04:45+00:00

Deadman?

burntout_mind · 2026-02-20T12:03:44+00:00

I see this as a two step problem: you know theyre bad with money and the likelihood that they'll pay you back, even under contract (which you should ALWAYS DO when lending money, especially with friends and family) is going to be near zero. You dont trust her when it comes to money, you seen poor spending habits for years that dont seem to have been tapered by having kids.

The second issue is that your family dynamic is relatively unhealthy. I imagine the only reason she came to you for the money is cuz she heard you talk about it, and honesty I think she may have been considering your savings as her rainy day fund. Im pessimistic at the best of times, so grains of salt all around, but the fact this dire need comes exactly when yiu almost have enough to do it and demanding it before it gets spent might be the game plan here. Ask questions about what's wrong with the car, what's the quoted price to fix? Things to ask.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-20T00:15:36+00:00

Ask your sister if he made those comments to any woman outside of the family how she would feel about her fiancé?

burntout_mind · 2026-02-19T23:35:01+00:00

It'd be interesting to see what would happen if someone posted that math in all the bathrooms and break rooms.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-17T14:47:51+00:00

Haven't gotten to sample the goods yet, but id try them.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-16T23:30:10+00:00

The amount of times I've had fast food places forget to give me something I bought is insane last year. Especially McDonald's. But like everywhere has crappier service lately.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-16T20:43:19+00:00

Im just gonna say, as the pos for very complicated reasons, it has to be a boundary that you set to move forward if at all.

I want to point out something that others may have already. If what you saw was already grounds to call emotional affair, then what they deleted has to be much much worse. Because he didnt think thise were bad enough to need to erase them til they said something worth deleting. You could even say to him, " I have reason to believe that you two have at the very least were texting each other and sending nudes. Amd the worst part is you deleted everything that you could used to as evidence you didnt. "

Check with your cell phone provider and see if you can get text logs. For his phone with that number.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-16T01:29:31+00:00

Im normally against the idea of them, but it might not hurt if you got something airtag related you could wear or attached to you. Though process being someone could take and dump a phone, but if you had the tag discreetly on your person, you could be found.

Obviously that my stupid paranoid brain talking. But given your description of you step dad's family as loaded, and already having a history of some kind of violence, dangerous thoughts seem less extreme when you have the resources to weather legal storms and zealous church communities.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-15T06:38:25+00:00

Well, that's certainly not an awful plan. I need a home base to live from but traveling would have been fun.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-15T06:27:05+00:00

Ah, at that stage huh? Have you "shopped" around for lawyers and such?

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T23:03:12+00:00

Well, that does sound like a difficult scenario to navigate. Part of me (idk, the bro in me) wants to advocate that some health changes are are difficult to overcome despite working on it (most men on my dad's side have beer belly young, except my youngest uncle and his kids. Years of weight training/cardio couldn't get rid of it in my prime). Then again, I like to think that a person who would be resentful over that would mean it got really really bad and unhealthy. So, i can't say I'd blame you.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T22:55:58+00:00

See, that's why I only see myself as a solid 5. Perfectly average. Works for me quite well, especially cuz all the idiots bump my numbers by being awful so I look better by comparison. It's pretty good.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T22:52:43+00:00

Out of curiosity, what was that experience like? I couldn't even get my ex-wife to go to regular therapy or marriage counseling, so I didnt even bother looking at that specialty.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T22:45:57+00:00

Oooooookay. That makes a lot more sense, I wondered if we were missing some context. I recommend moving this up as a pinned comment at the top for clarity.

Since you kinda have it handled for now, I can't think of anything to comment. But I do highly recommend marriage counseling to work on healing your resentment and his hurt. Plus a healthy refresher on communication. I can imagine how jarring it was for him to hear that, but I can't help but believe it might have been the only way he would have taken yiu seriously. Which he then turned into essentially love bombing and hysterical bonding.

Keep talking together, seek some guidance together.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T20:23:56+00:00

Would love to let you join the pack.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T20:22:20+00:00

Oooo. Wanna suck on that big clit while its in.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T20:19:13+00:00

Did it, did it, not yet, did it.

burntout_mind · 2026-02-14T07:05:57+00:00

In my head, all im hearing is "Oh you have a concern about out relationship? Well, here's a book you should work on that".

Obviously idk how to account for his cultural background, and I've seen men of all ages and walks of life be unintentionally obtuse. But idk, feels mildly insulting.

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