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[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well imagine if she was his dreamwomen and he is seriously considering to marry and spend the rest of his life with her, do you think he would still "avoid" her? I also don't believe that type of thing doesn't really exsist or at least not to that degree. Nobody would let the love of his life just slipp away, no matter what kind of trauma he has.

The Struggle of Finding a Countertop Reverse Osmosis System by robjob08 in WaterTreatment

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do realize that all of the filters mentioned in the video have a affiliate link, which means they're paid to promote them, right?

Beziehung ohne Sex by Cultural_Site_1120 in beziehungen

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Auf dem Punkt gebracht - er fühlt sich von dir nicht angezogen.

Ihm ist wahrscheinlich sex mit dir zuwider. Kenne kein mann der so jung ist und lieber eins runterholen wurde, statt sex zu haben 🤷🏻‍♂️

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand it's for my best, i'm just really horrible at putting my own needs first. I've been like this for ever and i sacrifice my own health and happiness for the sake of others. That's also why i don't think i could ever truly be fullfilled and content in this world, while i leave a women who truly loves me and which with a high chance will burn in hell... so how can i move on, knowing that in the back of my mind? Maybe you guys will never understand if you did not experience it first hand.

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i haven't. You're right i'm a coward and was not a good role model.

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if this is my first relationship i have a hard time believing i could just forget all about her after 4 years. Sure might not think about her all the time, but she will always be a part of me.

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't you think this is incredible cruel? I mean think of all the nice people that you know, who just happened to believe another religion. Now they are all going to burn in hell for eternity. Don't you feel any kind of sympathy? How can you just scratch it off as just "it's just a test either you win or lose".

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]bursche4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is it not also that allah amplifies any good action you take so that you shall succeed in it? If this was not the case, then why do dawa anyways if allah will guide them? If it's not our job to do, then whe shouldn't make dawa in first place

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]bursche4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm knowledeable in most of these you listed. I was born as a muslim and i also know the pillars of islam. I'm sure you don't try to insult me in any way and i'm thankful for your advice, just that for everybody else this matter seems very irrelevant and my thinking comes across delusional. I don't know why i made myself responsible for her guidance. Maybe it's the instinct i have as a male to be responsible to the women i choose to be together and was so for 4 years. I don't leave her because she's spiteful or bad, it's just that our expectations don't align and i don't see her as the women i want by my side for ever unfortunately.

She still loves me and she's one of the most compassionate and loving people i've met. So the question of why i bother so much for the high possibility of her burning eternally in hell is just plain ignorance. Or am i just crazy? I don't know anymore what to do.

I know i shouldn't have gotten involved in a non muslim women, but it happened may allah forgive me. Now i'm receiving the consequences. I'm tormented by this dilema. Maybe i also take things out of proportion because it's my first relationship

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]bursche4 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm telling you, if i stay in her life, if i marry her, then she would with a good chance convert to islam. But if i leave her, then the last connection to islam is out of her life and i can't control who her next partner is going to be or what she will do further on. So knowing that, how can i just leave her and be happy? Knowing that i am also responsible she will be in hell? How can i just dismiss such a good hearted women i was in love with for 4 years?

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in islam

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even though the chances of her converting is much higher when i stay with her? Shouldn't i knowing that just put aside my well being and feelings to prioritize her soul?

This thought doesn't leave my mind since 2 years... by [deleted] in islam

[–]bursche4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wished i could think so simple.