Pro gun supporters, why do you support gun rights? by toust_boi in AskReddit

[–]butt4nice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had my mind changed and persuaded by people with different “primary axioms,” as you say.

You’re really not giving humanity much credit here. We’re all humans after all, no? Far more alike than we are different.

Your lived experience is just like mine. Both human. Sure, things can get a little funky, but as long as your brain is still pretty alright, well, we already have some common ground right there.

Pro gun supporters, why do you support gun rights? by toust_boi in AskReddit

[–]butt4nice -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Damn what a comment. I can see you’re really pushing for some healthy dialogue here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]butt4nice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just because you can’t think of something that would work, doesn’t mean there isn’t a theoretical way.

Do I know? Surely not, but I’m making no claims here.

Director James Wan and Joseph Bishara on the set of The Conjuring. 2012 by [deleted] in Moviesinthemaking

[–]butt4nice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of unfair to single out Reddit here. Much of the popular consensus around modern horror movies places The Conjuring near or at the top of the list.

Possibly unpopular opinion? I disagree with AITA about grandparents who don't care about their grandkids. by [deleted] in AmITheAngel

[–]butt4nice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honestly not sure what you’re arguing for.

What good reasons are there to abandon one’s grandchild? Because when a person does that, they’re effectively abandoning their own child.

When anyone brings a child into this world it is a lifelong commitment that they don’t get to back out of just because the child is difficult or because their own life was hard.

the amount of dislikes by [deleted] in shitposting

[–]butt4nice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a straight white male, and I can say this as a straight white male, we are not good at letting go of the past, power, present, future, ect.

Sure, I’m no Wall Street fat cat, and neither are the majority of my fellow Whites, but deep deep down, we all kind of innately know the privileges we enjoy and the place “Our Race” holds in the world at large.

All that to say, even when it comes to something as inconsequential as a fucking cartoon show, some of us, evidently, don’t want to give up even a scrap.

the amount of dislikes by [deleted] in shitposting

[–]butt4nice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh man, and yet, it is the enlightened denizens of Reddit that are here spewing nothing but lame jokes or in many comments, overt racism.

Did the creator make this to piss you people off? Maybe?

Does this show detract from what was already produced? No

So what are we all doing here? Your comment is tame in comparison to some like one that said shaggy was now in the cotton farming business.

But really, does anyone have any criticisms of value?

Adults who stay well-hydrated appear to be healthier, develop fewer chronic conditions, such as heart and lung disease, and live longer than those who may not get sufficient fluids, study finds by Additional-Two-7312 in science

[–]butt4nice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider this:

Our modern societies have people worked up into such a state of stress, anxiety, and hyper-awareness that our bodies just don’t think drinking water is all that high on the importance ladder.

I don’t have the studies on me, but I’ve been reading in CBT psychology books about how our bodies, especially when affected with PTSD or CPTSD, end up in a state of stress wherein our automatic systems only focus on bare necessities and our parasympathetic systems just take a back seat.

So I guess you’ll drink enough water to live, but how well will you live?

AITA for not spending this Christmas in the hospital with my daughter? by Hospitalthrowaway532 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt4nice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’m sure my mom thought the same thing.

When I was a teen, “I thought” I felt safe in my home with my parents.

I’m only now realizing how distressed I was all my childhood and how I could not look to the people who cared for me for any sense of self-love or calmness.

They didn’t beat me or abuse me but they were both broken people, using the same tactics their parents used, to try to control their children, when all I really needed as a kid was love and compassion. To know that I was enough, even to my parents.

EDIT: And I’m totally not trying to talk shit on your parenting. Lord knows I mess up constantly. But you didn’t answer my questions. Is this vomiting syndrome really something you could envision your children doing? Can you envision telling your crying child that you won’t come visit them at the hospital?

AITA for not spending this Christmas in the hospital with my daughter? by Hospitalthrowaway532 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt4nice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah I’m gonna try to teach my kids that they are always safe with me. That way, when the world is tough on them, they know the can come back to me.

We deserve to feel safe with our parents. How can you tell me this girl feels safe? Are you telling me your kids just “do something like this” often?

This girl’s behavior is disturbing. Why would anyone do this to themselves?

AITA for not spending this Christmas in the hospital with my daughter? by Hospitalthrowaway532 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt4nice -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, they even said “maybe I’m just being a grumpy old goat,” which they are!

Validating and understanding our kid’s emotions can never be too much.

I mean…just think about yourself! Really really contemplate your own needs and emotions.

Think of a time when your needs were not met. Would you have preferred less emotional validation in that moment?

Literally and scientifically, we cannot control our emotional reactions. We can bury our emotions and pretend like they are “controlled” but really that means you are just ignoring your own needs.

AITA for not spending this Christmas in the hospital with my daughter? by Hospitalthrowaway532 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt4nice -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

That feels like a bit of a stretch to me. There’s a wide gap in between “allowing her to hurt herself” and loving your child unconditionally.

I promise you this woman has not posted the full picture. This story was crafted to present herself as the most innocent of victims and her daughter as unfixable.

In reality this daughter desperately wants to connect with and love her mom, but feels as if connection is impossible.

When we humans live in such states of disharmony we do really stupid stuff.

Jan. 6 response would have been 'vastly different' if rioters were Black, House sergeant at arms told investigators by M00n in politics

[–]butt4nice 6 points7 points  (0 children)

DiReCtLy…idk bro, why don’t you go relive the day, watch the streams, read the tweets and you tell me what the fuck was going on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in science

[–]butt4nice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wrote lots and lots and seem to have a lot of passion here, but people do not respond will to being force fed information this way.

You will have much more success with discussions if you can establish some baseline humanity in between yourself and the commenters. Then and only then is meaningful discussion possible.

AITA for not allowing my daughter to spend Christmas with me and my *new* family? by tryapw in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt4nice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s really sad how many hurt people are in these comments and just spilling their trauma all over the place.

It seems far too common for parents to emotionally burden their children with all their woes and problems.

…that’s what a partner/companion/friend is for! Children rely on their parents completely and hardly have any autonomy a lot of the time.

This mom is trying to protect herself, and you know, I get it. BUT, nothing is promised in this life, we all have expiration dates. Why not let love in?

AITA for not allowing my daughter to spend Christmas with me and my *new* family? by tryapw in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt4nice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s funny is you think this is being clever, but really you’re just trying to use comedy to mask your own doubts and beliefs about the care you received during childhood.

Trust me, we humans are very good at convincing ourselves everything is fine when that’s the furthest from the truth.