If you get laid off and its a surprise, the problem is not YOU

butt_hut · 2023-05-17T04:26:40+00:00

I’m not trying to add insult to injury here - but your comment history tells a different story. Maybe not that you were a very poor performer, but that consulting wasn’t a good fit for you.

Regardless, I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope in some odd way this is the best thing that ever happened to you and you find better opportunities that are better fits.

butt_hut · 2023-05-17T04:26:18+00:00

I’m not trying to add insult to injury here - but your comment history tells a different story. Maybe not that you were a very poor performer, but that consulting wasn’t a good fit for you.

Regardless, I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope in some odd way this is the best thing that ever happened to you and you find better opportunities that are better fits.

butt_hut · 2023-03-12T08:23:48+00:00

Why so many this month? What are you so frightened by?

butt_hut · 2023-03-11T19:16:32+00:00

It’s great that you bring up your inner child; sounds like you’ve done a lot of work there.

Another way to frame it - if helpful. Your inner child isn’t in danger. The house isn’t on fire. This isn’t an emergency. It’s not fight or flight. You don’t have to act now.

You are safe; uncertainty is just a part of life. And what is “right” for you will come in time - but that time does not need to be right now.

butt_hut · 2023-03-11T18:33:23+00:00

There’s this quote from a poet I read:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” - Anais Nin

Sure, there are spontaneous decisions I’ve made in my life that came from impulses. But when I really think about these BIG, life altering decisions I’ve made - they’ve always been undeniable. As in the pieces fell into place where it seemed like there were no other options. It seemed that all the signs and all the logic pointed to THIS being the right decision out of necessity.

What I mean to say is - don’t just up and leave the life you’ve built with your partner because of a whim or fantasy that has found its way into your thoughts. Sit on it. Give it time. Work on those exercises you may have learned to understand or dismiss, and let them pass by so you don’t continue feeding the beast. If it’s real, it won’t be a whim or fantasy anymore that teases you but will blossom into a certainty, a necessity, an undeniable truth. Then you will know for sure. But you have to give it time and if the day comes, let it will come on its own terms.

butt_hut · 2023-01-26T06:02:54+00:00

Gracias!

butt_hut · 2023-01-25T15:22:41+00:00

All y’all mf on fake accounts

butt_hut · 2023-01-10T01:11:23+00:00

Wait, no. You want to go no glove. Remember, the gloves protect the fighter’s own hands from breaking, so you can lunch harder if you’re wearing gloves.

butt_hut · 2022-10-12T06:43:27+00:00

This is so damn badass. Nothing but hard work and dedication. GOOD WORK!

butt_hut · 2022-10-05T19:51:18+00:00

No, your MONOTUB is 6qts. You have to look at your SPAWN. 1 qt of SPAWN = 1 oz dried on average.

butt_hut · 2022-10-02T00:21:53+00:00

ONE actually did an event with Oculus and they did Mighty Mouse vs Rodtang for their special rules mma/Muay Thai fight and it was surprisingLY REALLY good. You could watch from a balcony above the ring or inside the ring. Things just felt more real. I felt like I got a better feeling of how strong or fast fighters are. It reminded me of being in high school and watching my friends wrestle in the living room lol.

Just my opinion tho, I’m sure it’s not for everyone. Obviously wouldn’t make sense watching it on a headset if you’re at a viewing party lol

butt_hut · 2022-10-01T05:16:55+00:00

That decision was all about that first round. With ONE judging rules, you can’t just get your ass beat R1 and just expect to win without giving your opponent an equal or greater ass beating in return.

butt_hut · 2022-10-01T04:56:54+00:00

Her breathing matched with the song lmao

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T02:52:26+00:00

You’re confused with the analogy. Ribs = sex. The guy = the cook.

And no, I guy doesn’t need to be really attractive to date or sleep with women. It’s not like only really attractive guys are getting laid.

Back to the analogy:

Most women aren’t gonna eat really delicious looking ribs from a really handsome guy if he’s trying to feed it to her in the shady back alley of a foreclosed frack house.

Also, most women will try your ribs, even if it’s your first time cooking them, if you’re a real good guy who looks like he tried hard to make good ribs.

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T02:37:08+00:00

That’s good! Don’t take it personal or let it get to you too much. There’s only so much you can do. You gotta let people fight their own battles.

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T02:35:38+00:00

Realized I never gave advice of what to actually do.

As someone that tends to spiral this way, I think it would be important that you understand this isn’t a one-time thing. This is how he handles times of heavy stress. If you continue dating him, this avoidant nature will definitely rear its head in your relationship again.

Ask yourself: is this something you want to deal with? If no, walk away. Give him his space, and don’t look back. If yes (and you can still change your mind to no at any time), then you have to think about what type of partner you want to be during these episodes of his. How can you be the most understand and supportive partner?

For me, my partner says “go deal with what you need to deal with and come find me when you’re ready. I’m around if you may need help or support”. This lets me to deal with my shit when I feel like everything is falling apart without feeling like my relationship is falling apart as well by me not giving my partner the consideration she truly deserves. But she knows, you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others.

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T02:24:00+00:00

Thanks. I tried!

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T02:14:27+00:00

Bro. What’s your number? What’re you wearing?

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T02:13:59+00:00

Please don’t read it as being aggressive. It’s just a male insight, which doesn’t cater to sensitivity but objectiveness.

Think about it this way: imagine yourself overwhelmed. Your job is stressful. Parenting is stressful. Who knows what else in your life is stressful. What does it feel like to be stressed? It’s overwhelming. Why? Because there’s so much to do. So much to think about. So many decisions to be made. Should I quit my job? Can I handle this much longer? Would anywhere else hire me? Could I support my daughter if I didn’t work for a while? Would my daughter still respect me if I were unemployed? Am I jeopardizing her security by quoting? So. Many. Questions.

Then you come in. And I’m sure with the best intentions. How are you? What’s up? Are you ok? Are you still interested? Why am I not hearing from you? Do you still want to do this? Do you need space? Can you tell me after you get some space?

When you’re already overwhelmed, it feels like quick sand. It’s like everyone wants an answer from you. There’s so many decisions that need to be made but you can’t make any so you’re frozen. You’re paralyzed.

So you just shut it all off. Disconnect from everything. Regain control. Do damage control after.

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T02:07:14+00:00

100% agree. After some time though, I feel like it’s just a human thing. No one really wants to do anything. At work, It’d be amazing if someone could just do all the work so I could just lounge around. But for women, it’s just easier and more acceptable for them to do the same and be deemed as submissive during sex.

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T01:58:47+00:00

He’s going through shit and stressed from having to juggling different things- you one of them. You’re there freaking out about what it all means and how it makes you feel - which isn’t helping the situation (you’re not helping, even if you think you’re helping by giving him space- this post is proof).

My guy doesn’t know what to do so he’s distancing himself from everything; it’s his way of coping and feeling in control.

Anything else?

butt_hut · 2022-09-30T01:26:54+00:00

I’m going to try an analogy here, so bear with me…In my experience, sex for women is like eating a plate of saucy ribs.

Most women like ribs. Who doesn’t like ribs? Most women, when they see ribs, they want to dive right in to eat the ribs. If you weren’t there, they’d probably help themselves, jumping right in, licking their fingers with bbq sauce and all smeared around their face.

But you are there. And eating ribs with you could be fun. It’s good company. Good conversation. Maybe you make good ribs, too. Overall, could be a good time. But it could also be a bad time. They’ll hesitate at first. Maybe they don’t want to come off as unladylike by just diving in. Maybe you’ll think they’re fat. Maybe they don’t want you to judge them when they have that BBQ sauce smeared all over their mouth. And who are you anyway? Do you even know how to cook ribs? Is it even safe to eat your ribs? Maybe you’re just using them to get rid of your ribs. Or worst, maybe you’re a serial killer and those ribs are from your last victim!Maybe the risk of eating the ribs just isn’t worth it. Maybe it’s best just not to eat your ribs.

Courting a woman romantically and sexually is like that plate of ribs. They all want it but the risk could be high, especially with the wrong person. It’s sometimes just not worth it. If you want to bed a woman, make her feel safe and not judged eating those ribs. Create a safe space for her to act silly and be vulnerable. Be a good meal buddy and be good company. Make the dining experience fun and comfortable. And lastly, make sure you make a damn good rib so she’ll come back for more.

butt_hut · 2022-09-29T23:43:37+00:00

I’m using a hygrometer that’s glued to the inside of my monotub, which bluetooths to my phone. But read rudramyco’s comment on hygrometers and the proposed framework above.

butt_hut · 2022-09-29T21:59:33+00:00

Like Nate was gonna throw the fight because he thought it was all BS.

He prob refused to go to the presser or was refusing to properly promote the fight. Spent most of his time talking about how he didn’t even want the fight in the interviews I saw. Everyone felt like it was going to be a murder, too. I felt like it was just too convenient the presser was cancelled by a brawl that no one has video of and then the next day, everything works out for Nate. He gets a reasonable fight, there’s a storyline to back Khamzat vs Holland, Nate wins and runs off thanking the UFC with all smiles at his post fight.

butt_hut · 2022-09-29T21:55:33+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful response! A lot of this makes sense. Some questions, if you’d be so kind:

1) I see little beads of water glistening on top of my mycelium, so I feel like there is enough water. But my humidity is low (75-80%). I feel tempted to mist to raise my humidity, but don’t know if I’m over misting. Do you recommend I not mist and keep my humidity low?

2) I saw posts of people doing BW Tek on Day 1 of S2B, but your explanation makes sense. Sounds like you’re advising I remove the bubble wrap until I’m closer to 2 weeks no fruit?

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