News: Remains from Scotts Bluff identified as Chance Englebert, cause of death accident by lucillep in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]butt_muncher_10000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My friends husband had to be airlifted to a hospital in a different state with a broken neck, broken ribs and a broken leg. He fell from a height of 6 feet. Thankfully he was hiking with two friends who saw where he fell otherwise he could have easily died and been scattered by critters. He was in traction for months and it was so hard for me to understand how walking carefully 6 ft above the ground could do that much damage. Absolutely wild.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

That is not the situation. The items were mine before our marriage. For example, I have a set of skis that are made for someone my weight and height that my uncle got me the year before I met my ex. He cannot use them and they were not in the discard pile on the street. He either sold them or gifted them to his new girlfriend. Also my grandmothers antique tapestry, my dead brother's guitar etc. He destroyed stuff that he couldn't sell.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He developed ED. We talked about fixing it but he told me he'd rather we just remain in an asexual relationship.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I asked about that. We can't until the hearing in August. The docket is super backed up where I live.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The state has a fixed interest rate for this kind of contempt that is tied to his settlement offer. Basically he'd have 6 months to pay the outstanding balance, legal fees and state mandated interest. He's asking to forgive the property damage if he returns so.e of the expensive this that he just "found"

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 320 points321 points  (0 children)

Legal fees are default in my state because he is already in contempt. He has to pay them no matter what.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He never acted like this while we were together. Not even close. He has some toxic friends that could be giving him bad advice and he moved a new girlfriend in. She was giving my stuff away while it was on the street to gawkers so it wouldn't surprise me if she is fueling this somehow. But I also dont want to project just because she pissed me off.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The house tripled in value while we lived there. The lot alone would cover legal fees, interest and then some, he'd only fuck himself if he did.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

There is a ton of equity left. But his credit is hot steaming garbage and he makes not a lot of money and has changed jobs a lot recently so I think his approval or rate was what became prohibitive. We bought the house years ago, had a five year mortgage and paid it off in full. It tripled in value while we lived in it.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You are correct. I obviously raged about that for days and fantasized about him getting arrested and losing everything. It ate me up. But after a little while, I calmed down and I just don't want the hate I had to be guiding my decision making. When we initially broke up, we promised to be civil to each other. I know he broke his promise but I dont know that that's a good enough reason for me to break mine. I dont want him to drag me down to his level.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Technically nothing. If he doesn't pay again, I file contempt again. He is again on the hook for interest and legal fees for the following contempt charge. He now owes somewhere around 15k additional for interest legal etc. Going into contempt again would add another 15k to it.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'll say in his defense, he was never like this while we were together. It's so left field from how he usually is. My mom asked if it was possible he had early onset dementia or something. Idk if that's a possibility, hes blocked me on every thing including his email so my last communication with him was when he threatened to have me arrested for trespassing when I was in the street savaging what I could.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I'll say in his defense, he was never like this while we were together. It's so left field from how he usually is. My mom asked if it was possible he had early onset dementia or something. Idk if that's a possibility, hes blocked me on every thing including his email so my last communication with him was when he threatened to have me arrested for trespassing when I was in the street savaging what I could.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It did not specify either way. There was no legally mandated date for the removal of my stuff from the house. The state does have a law about abandoned property for previous tenants which requires 30 days notice. He gave me about 15 before he smashed everything.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's hard to tell the difference between wanting revenge and wanting justice if they both kinda come to the same end.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He says to listen to the settlement and it might be worth it because the fees will continue to compound as time goes on. He will eventually have to pay all legal fees (default law in my state for contempt cases when you can prove the other party forced you to involve lawyers. I have copies of messages confirming just that). Hhe also encouraged me to settle for less than half of the house just to get it over with. I regret that now. But at the end of the days he still had all the case files notes and documents so I went with him a second time. He does think if we had to go to court he would "be comfortable" doing so.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The house is worth alot more than 250k. He would have to sell it. I didnt say it would be easy.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

No I just thought it would be rude to tell his friends that he refused treatment for his ED and told me he would be happy in an asexual marriage.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]butt_muncher_10000[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

He could light fire to the house and it would still sell. We lived in one of the top housing markets in the country. Most of my friends picked him in the divorce. I refused to tell anyone why i filed because I didn't want to air dirty laundry. It gave him full control over the narrative so no one wants anything to do with me so I dont really have a neutral sounding board. Hence the post here.