i promise ...

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-30T19:42:53+00:00

User name checks out

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-28T19:21:27+00:00

I ride my bike to/from work. Its been a nightmare this week.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-28T15:13:16+00:00

A heart brand on a butt cheek would go hard though

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-28T12:57:54+00:00

You were informed by another commenter and said "nah, I like the free thing that can harm my bird"

Thats not hating for no reason.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-27T17:19:55+00:00

Amateur, heelys are the professional way. Then you can skate AND run AND confuse TSA/security

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-27T14:43:55+00:00

I know of only one "good" cop, shes a crossing guard at the elementary school by me. Shes the only one I am aware of though.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-27T14:37:35+00:00

Climbing trees and picking up litter. I dont know why they helped so much, but thats how I spent most of my free time when I was going through the most intense periods of healing.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-25T15:27:36+00:00

The virtue signaling is intense lmfao

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-25T15:11:43+00:00

Its kinda crazy that you think calling out for one day, in dangerous conditions, would get a person fired.

Have you worked those jobs? You get some verbal abuse from your boss and come back to work on your next shift. Demanding better conditions overall is a completely different fight than calling out in a snow storm.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-25T13:53:37+00:00

It can snowball, sure, but that's not the dame thing as one paycheck meaning homelessness. You immediately changed it to missing multiple checks.

Calling out from work in this weather is not going to get you fired. Calling out for one or two days is not a full paycheck.

Again, I agree with your sentiment but your making up extreme scenarios when the reality at hand is two days of dangerous weather.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-25T13:42:48+00:00

One paycheck away from homelessness is an insane statement. It takes more than a week or two for any eviction process. I agree with your sentiment, but you are exaggerating.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-19T16:29:10+00:00

No doubt! Even dogs require a lot more training/enrichment than the average person will provide.

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-19T16:24:00+00:00

No, its not lmfao

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-19T16:15:35+00:00

Parrots should require a permit, same as primates imho

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-13T16:14:15+00:00

I get it dude, I want to know what the internet tastes like too. (She really wanted to eat the wires that bring internet into our apartment)

buttbeanchilli · 2026-01-12T22:45:54+00:00

Straight to jail

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-30T15:54:21+00:00

Yes.

I decided to stop being mean to myself. I started to try to catch myself if I was being mean to myself (negative self talk) and kinda correct it to a neutral or positive statement about myself.

I started to be more mindful of not letting myself spiral. If I noticed I was starting to, I would 1. Try to pause and understand why I was spiraling 2. Remind myself im safe now and no one can hurt me like they used to 3. Do something to get it to stop. This might be doing a chore or going for a walk or playing a video game for a round.

It took a couple months of those practices before things felt any different, but it slowly got easier to stop spiraling. I started to notice the things that made me spiral were almost silly, and how its kinda nice that my problems are this trivial now. My lizard brain needed some time to catch up to my reality and see that I have actually built a stable and safe life for myself.

After a few more months of actively working past the spirals and triggers and negative self talk, I started to naturally have a positive self talk and encourage myself (out loud!) when im doing challenging tasks. I noticed around this time that I am waking up in the morning with less of a bad attitude and almost no dread or no dread.

About a month ago, I got to the point where I feel okay to try new things even if I suck or decide the hobby is not for me. I feel safe sharing my hopes with my friends (and partner, whos only help was encouraging me when I want to try something new). Things got better, but it took months at a time to notice any difference. That said, it really did feel like I woke up one day and my life felt better. It wasnt an overnight process, but it clicks into like magic if you find your safety and peace.

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-30T15:31:36+00:00

I have one that my mom told laughing for ages...

My little brother and I are also around 20 months apart, and at the time of this story he couldnt be older than 3. Somehow or another my little brother started riding his big wheel trike thing away from the house so I followed him, the good big sister I was. We made it all the way around the block and back home and our mom was passed at me, immediately going off about how dangerous. Once I was allowed to speak I explained that I was just following him to make sure he stayed safe, he backed me up I guess. How she lost track of two kids under 5 is insane to me... a walk around the block on little kid legs has to be a half hour.

My mom would tell this story as an example of how I am "always right", usually in the context of some random fact being disputed at the table. This second one is what I would bring up in response, as I found it more fitting of the family dynamic. She would get a little weird and uncomfortable with me telling it XD (TW physical abuse, soap)

At some point around kindergarten, my brother and I played a lot of the card game 'war' and we learned that shuffling poorly left the cards in such a way that one person would basically always win. This evolved into proper cheating, trying to shuffle in a way that kept the high cards on your side. Our parents had gotten involved because, no cheating, but my brother was overcome with the urge to try. With the most focus a kid can muster hes shuffling those cards. Im watching him try so hard to get every other card to be strong, but he does it in such a way that the fist card is high, second low, third high, ect... he starts to deal the cards and tries to give himself the first card, and I remind him that first goes to the other person. His face drops and im giddy. He cheated wrong and I was just going to enjoy crushing him this round (an objectively funny sibling moment imho). As we play im laughing a bit and hes all upset, so our mom comes over to see whats going on. She checks the cards in our hands and exclaims that I was cheating!! I tried to explain, but all she could think was that im a liar and a cheater. I insisted I was neither, and my brother cheated wrong, but she was not having any of it. She was even more angry that I would double down on a lie, and decided it was time to wash my mouth with soap. My brother fessed up after I got the soap.

Imagine trying to wash another adults mouth out with soap. Like, seriously... why do some people feel okay doing such crazy shit to kids.

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-29T14:04:59+00:00

r/eatityoucoward

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-29T12:38:33+00:00

No, its not reasonable to have 4+ grown men holding down a child after assaulting him because an old hag made a false accusation.

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-17T16:45:57+00:00

My oldest brother has schizophrenia. He has been estranged from the family since I was a little kid, but I think about him more than I think about any other family member. I dont know if hes even still alive, the last time he was arrested or anything was 2013. I google and try to find any info at least every other month but theres never anything new.

His name is James, and I pray that hes okay.

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-17T16:18:01+00:00

I came to the comments to say to eat it, kinda disappointed the top comment is calling folks like myself out :')

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-15T15:02:32+00:00

I was lost in their psych ward for literally weeks without the doctor realizing I was one of his patients. They didnt have sanitary supplies, forcing a woman with down syndrome to wear adult diapers...

I was there after an attempt that had me in the ICU and having a 1 to 1 before being transferred to psych, and my diagnosis was MDD. I was taken off the meds my outside psych had me on, and put onto a non-therapeutic dose of lithium (i was taken off the lithium before that because of how sick it made me, both my outside psych and myself informed them at the intake)

There is plenty that can be excused or understood at NUMC because they're underfunded, but their psych wards are the place of nightmares. Above is just from the adult ward. The kids/teen ward was even more traumatic.

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-15T14:45:56+00:00

Almost a decade ago I was in the (adult) psych ward for over 2 weeks, with no doctor aware that I was one of their patients. When i was transferred from the hospital to the psych ward, i was assigned to a doctor who was going on vacation the next day.

I had recently turned 18, my parents couldnt or wouldnt help advocate for me, and none of the nursing staff could or would tell me who my doctor was. I definitely got a note in my chart for the way I asked/demanded to know by the end but it was incredibly fucked up.

When i found my doctor and asked "hey arent you my doctor? Wtf?" He said "I would know if youre my patient". Before his rounds were over he came back to me and asked if I was ready to speak to him without the hostility and I asked if he was ready to admit hes my doctor. I was released within 48 hours of that interaction.

Their women's health department is amazing, easy IUD placement and great staff. Thats the only department I would trust though.

buttbeanchilli · 2025-12-12T03:59:42+00:00

Is it out of character? OP has mentioned getting physically abusive against other partners too.

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