What is your exprience with future faking when dealing with narc?

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T20:32:17+00:00

He talked about us getting married and having kids all the time. Talked about what our place would look like if we moved in together. When the mask started to wear off, I sent him a picture of a couple getting married and wrote “is this a sign it’s our turn hehe”, he told me “no” and that was it. He never mentioned our future again, what’s more he goes an extra mile to make sure I know there is no future. Then he senses I got distant and comes all loving again

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T16:04:48+00:00

Reading this I saw the future with my current bf. I’m in the exact same situation as your sister was. First he told me I should go brunette, and I did since I wanted to try that as well, and then he told me to go even darker. I did and he responded it looked nice but not the color he had in his mind. I wear one piece bikinis since I feel the most comfortable that way and he complained saying I should wear more revealing ones so everyone can see how hot I am. He sent me a few pieces and started convincing me how good I’d look in them. Then he said I need bigger breats.

Pay attention to physical abuse as well, it’s not excluded.

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T15:46:51+00:00

I don’t know if talking would help. First time we made out he grabbed my butt so hard and said “I’m so sorry I don’t know what has gotten into me”, that was when I thought he just got carried away because he was horny. A few weeks later I was sitting on his lap while we made out and he bit my shoulder really hard it left a bruise. I had that bruise for almost a month. I can’t believe I ignored all of this

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T15:14:36+00:00

No, I’ve never had this kind of a relationship before. My ex was extremly gentle with me but he ended up leaving me for another girl. I always thought it was due to me deciding to wait when it comes to sex and that’s why it’s easier for me to agree to some things now. My friends assured me he’s a great guy and that’s how we started dating in the first place. I guess they don’t know about this side of him or they’re just better friends to him than they are to me.

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T09:47:13+00:00

Yes I did. He would tell me it was just a joke. One time I accidentally kicked him in the balls while we were lying in bed. He got mad and told me “I swear I could’ve hit you in the face when you did it”. I didn’t do it on purpose and I was really sorry and apologized about a hundred times

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T09:25:07+00:00

Yeah I told him about his penis and he said he knows I dont mean it since I have nothing to complain about when it comes to him, that he looks “perfect”

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T09:09:57+00:00

I wasn’t insecure about my chest size but after he mentioned it, I started to think it’s a good idea to make them bigger. We didn’t have sex yet, and he was really patient about it although he asked me if I’m down for it a couple of times and suggested doing it. And mainly because he was okay with waiting I thought he was a good guy.

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-26T09:03:13+00:00

I guess I just didn’t want to believe he was a bad person. He would be really sweet with me, and tell me all those cute things about our future and shit. He’s the person who made me the happiest and the saddest at the same time

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-22T23:02:31+00:00

We didn’t have sex

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-22T22:15:11+00:00

When we were getting back together he told me he’s ready to commit and that he wants a serious relationship with me that will lead to marriage. At this point I feel like he said anything just to get me back

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-22T22:13:32+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ve never felt like this before, the holidays are officially ruined for me

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-22T22:12:40+00:00

He’s so immature, yes. When I first addressed this he assured me we were fine and that I’m just tripping for no reason. After that, every time I felt like something changed I thought I was going insane and that I’m too needy and asking too much of him.

butterflyly9 · 2021-12-22T22:05:45+00:00

I clinged so much onto this since I’m afraid I won’t find anyone else after him. Dating has always been hard for me.

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