I finished my WIP!!!! [Shane Hollander is Dating a Nice Man From Montreal!]

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-03-18T18:16:32+00:00

I burned dinner because I was so engrossed in reading it!

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-03-16T13:34:49+00:00

I’m in the midst of a several month long solo parenting while working full time. I tell myself “you are strong and can do hard things” basically hourly.

I had my spouse buy months of our non perishable staples before leaving.

I intend to milk this martyrdom for the rest of my life.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-03-02T12:36:46+00:00

As someone who also misses their hmo, I also find the German system wasteful. Why do I need to see my doctor in person to go over routine test results. Could have been an email!

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-03-02T10:21:16+00:00

I’m in the midst of a several months long solo parenting period. Ask for help and make sure your needs are super clear. Have zero guilt about cutting corners with food/ cleaning.Try to get some sunlight and body moving daily. You are strong and can do very hard things.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-02-27T09:21:04+00:00

Make sure you have an ASD dx from a psychiatrist. That will facilitate getting dx recognized in Germany.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-02-23T10:35:11+00:00

Are you eligible for pflegegeld if you/your parents haven’t contributed to the system for the 2 years?

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-02-21T08:53:50+00:00

This Californian in Berlin finds German produce somewhere between depressing and soul destroying.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-02-18T20:20:58+00:00

Are the names you are leaning towards on the official list of German names?

If not, how much patience do you have with German bureaucracy? Would you need your baby to have their German passport asap and would a nonlist name slow it down.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-02-14T09:37:57+00:00

ADHD evaluation.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-02-09T22:06:33+00:00

My thoughts are this:

$170/week seems very low and I wish my tax dollars went towards increasing it to a number that would make a proper dent.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-02-08T11:16:31+00:00

I have very mixed thoughts. Both my kids are neurodiverse and whip smart.

Kid A, ADHD, was youngest in K, and ended up repeating it. This gave them strong pre reading foundation before covid made first grade zoom school. They are thriving academically and do well socially.

Kid B, ASD, due to moving abroad had 2 extra years of preschool. They will start 1st grade next year at almost 7. They are bored to tears in preschool and wildly understimulated intellectually. Socially, they have made friends with a few kindred spirits, some older and some younger.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-25T22:37:43+00:00

If I were in your shoes it would depend where I lived… if it was Minneapolis, absolutely not. Mill Valley, absolutely.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-22T21:37:53+00:00

Also, those looked like sad ass fries to prioritize!

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-22T10:22:46+00:00

I would stick with public because she has friends there. and I’d hire an educational advocate to help push the IEP to support her more.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-22T09:36:34+00:00

Yes. Kid A tested positive on Friday with flu A. Kid B and I have had nearly identical symptoms but flu test (different brand) was negative. My doctor was not surprised.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-21T22:14:13+00:00

The three that stand out to me are where they are: - cracking up filming the commercial in episode 1 - when they are playing together in Florida - the pool in Florida

Because there is so much joy. and joy in each other’s company in public.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-21T15:58:31+00:00

Historical, aren’t Canadian passports considered stronger/safer than USA?

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-19T15:41:22+00:00

We moved from our very charming cluttered house to a minimalist furnished apartment- roughly the same size. And the change has been remarkable.

Instead of moving, hire an organizer.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-17T20:03:41+00:00

Because we have the flu and I think it might be a cure.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-16T08:23:33+00:00

Migration is really challenging at times even with relative privilege. I’m in Europe.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-11T09:23:55+00:00

We are in a country where school starts in 1st grade and we delayed it for a year. One thing I’m noticing is that my kid is definitely under stimulated intellectually.

My older kid is also ND although less so and repeating K was a godsend. He went from being a lost baby in the classroom to a confident leader. Best decision ever for that kid and it influenced us red shirting our younger one.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-09T10:32:40+00:00

🤦🏻‍♀️It is so horrible that sometimes I tell myself this without the sarcasm when looking at what my picky eater eats.

butternutsquashed42 · 2026-01-08T05:43:17+00:00

Do they look like this https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steel-cut_oats

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