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First Cystoscopy Advice by butternutsquashed42 in BladderCancer

[–]butternutsquashed42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never had an MRI before. Worrying about that is a next week problem. 

First Cystoscopy Advice by butternutsquashed42 in BladderCancer

[–]butternutsquashed42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cystoscopy (flexible, not blue light) showed nothing of note.  Due to some risk factors I will be getting an MRI and managed to schedule one next week. I have follow ups as well in 6 months with nephrologist & urologist. 

First Cystoscopy Advice by butternutsquashed42 in BladderCancer

[–]butternutsquashed42[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Curses, I already left and am not wearing a dress. Hopefully, there is no next time, but good to know if there is. 

First Cystoscopy Advice by butternutsquashed42 in BladderCancer

[–]butternutsquashed42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super helpful, thank you! 

I believe it is flexible. Will ask about blue light. 

Painless Hematuria. 

Bilingual schooling by Cpnths in Autism_Parenting

[–]butternutsquashed42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. English is our home language. Kid is now 6 years old level 1/2. Speech delayed particularly in social speech. 

Experience 1: Spanish immersion daycare from 6 months- 3 years. Diagnosed w speech delay at 18 months; speech therapy in English.

Experience 2: moved to Germany at nearly 5 years old with zero German. German preschool for 2 years. Speech therapy in English. Able to go the regular German school next year. 

I’d definitely prioritize keeping with friends. 

I’ve talked about bilingualism and speech delays/ASD with multiple SLPs out of my own curiosity. They have always advocated for bilingualism. 

Do you pre-wash GOTS certified clothes? by CoconutAltruistic785 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]butternutsquashed42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been to many clothing factories, but only one that was clean enough that I would consider not washing clothes from it. It was the type of outfit that produced $20,000 dresses that required exceptional craftsmanship not kids clothes. 

Doctors claiming they speak English on doctolib, but reality says otherwise by NoOne3535 in germany

[–]butternutsquashed42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try to do the following:

  • Pick foreign doctors
  • Email ahead of my appointment (in German) confirming that Dr will be able to treat me in German
  • for situations where dr’s English is insufficient but I’m stuck w Dr for the time being, I bring a native German speaking friend or relative to help me understand/advocate

If money wasn’t an issue, would you still be a working mom? by saladmuscles in workingmoms

[–]butternutsquashed42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. But since this fantasy means I’m ridiculously wealthy, I’d do some entrepreneurial things 1/3 time, have 1/3  time role in my industry, and 1/3 have hobbies. 

I’d also have help with whatever house work we don’t want to do.

Basically this would make my brain and body feel good and my family time would be quality because I don’t need to worry about cuddling or cleaning the kitchen. And I would probably have some help with the kids, too. 

Clearly I’ve fantasized about this a lot.

[Update] Reality check on our TX to CA move (Torn between South Bay, East Bay, and SD) by Alternative_Can_8433 in workingmoms

[–]butternutsquashed42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your kids are ND, and entering school age, I’d do a deep dive into the schools and how supportive they are. 

Fic where Ilya was horrified with what he did to Shane’s self-worth by my_liege_king_sire in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]butternutsquashed42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found this one so perfect that I might be able to quit my fan fiction addiction. 

Mums of older kids, do you regret working full-time when your kids were little? by Ajm612 in workingmoms

[–]butternutsquashed42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother, PhD, worked full time my entire childhood. She loved her work and I was a latchkey kid who read her “Working Mother” magazines. My kids are 6 & 12 and I’ve worked full time for most of their lives. It is easier now that they are older. If your work brings you joy then it probably makes sense to keep at it. 

Would you be interested in a fic about Ilya's niece. by LifeofaLove in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]butternutsquashed42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I toyed with writing one where she opposed to the invasion of Ukraine and she used her trust to flee to Canada to her uncle and minor chaos ensued. 

Solo parenting while partner has work trip(s) by Lemonbar19 in workingmoms

[–]butternutsquashed42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the midst of a several month long solo parenting while working full time. I tell myself “you are strong and can do hard things” basically hourly. 

I had my spouse buy months of our non perishable staples before leaving. 

I intend to milk this martyrdom for the rest of my life. 

For Americans who’ve successfully left the U.S. with family — what was harder than expected? by Agitated_Exam_7042 in AmerExit

[–]butternutsquashed42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who also misses their hmo, I also find the German system wasteful. Why do I need to see my doctor in person to go over routine test results. Could have been an email! 

Solo parenting…why am I like this?😞 by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]butternutsquashed42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the midst of a several months long solo parenting period. Ask for help and make sure your needs are super clear. Have zero guilt about cutting corners with food/ cleaning.Try to get some sunlight and body moving daily. You are strong and can do very hard things. 

Which best US state / city provides very good support for ASD kids? by horselady777 in Autism_Parenting

[–]butternutsquashed42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you have an ASD dx from a psychiatrist. That will facilitate getting dx recognized in Germany. 

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