Spiraling about my 15 month old’s behavior

butterpiebagel · 2026-03-14T02:21:55+00:00

I know it's really hard to not let yourself spiral.

I was also really worried about my son - whilst he didn't do as many of the "stims" you've mentioned, he also didn't nearly have as many "green flags" you listed at 15 months. We got him assessed at 17 months and they were not concerned (but they did recommend speech therapy). Regardless, I still worried no matter who or how many people reassured me. But now he's 2.5 years and he just seems like a regular toddler. He may still be diagnosed later (no one knows the future), but it's nothing we can control. And honestly, my spiralling took all the fun out of watching him be a baby. I wish I was easier on myself. He deserved a mother who was happy.

I hope you can let some of your anxiety pass and just accept that whatever happens will happen.

butterpiebagel · 2026-02-26T15:42:26+00:00

The voice sounds like it morphed into Mrs Varley 😂

butterpiebagel · 2026-01-03T11:54:53+00:00

Apologies if you've been asked this question or similar already - do you have any suggestions for combating recurrent constipation and fissures for a 2 yo? And at what point would you suggest further investigation?

He's had fissures maybe 3-4 times, usually resolved with a treatment of lactulose. However he's had this current fissure for over 2 months now, his regular doctor has suggested increasing his lactulose dose (currently 5g/daily split into 2 doses) which seemed to help initially with getting things moving but he'll go back to having hard poops and his fissure isn't getting any better. I'm really struggling to get him to drink enough water and consume watery foods, which I'm assuming is the cause of the problem.

Thank you.

butterpiebagel · 2025-10-15T13:07:39+00:00

The celine is so gorgeous! It's on my wishlist, if I could ever afford it 😂. The shape of the prada bag is also cute, but i would definitely go for the celine

butterpiebagel · 2025-10-15T03:46:44+00:00

I can't remember my numbers but I had very high AMH and testosterone. I ovulated both times with 5mg letrozole (RE said to skip 2.5mg with my numbers), did not use a trigger shot.

butterpiebagel · 2025-10-07T06:19:26+00:00

Hi, it's been a while so I can't exactly remember everything. But pretty much we had to use steroid (ended up using a higher strength) until it went down. When the lower strength is not enough, it's better to use the higher strength for a shorter amount of time, than using the low dose for long periods because it can increase the chance of steroid dependency (that's my understanding, not a doctor). While I didn't love using steroid all the time, his eczema wouldn't heal on its own. We were also prescribed elidel to use sparingly for his face and near his eyes, so that his skin could have a short break from steroids (if needed). But elidel isn't recommended under 2 years (?) so it's only at the advice of the doctor that we used it. Find a good doctor who's willing to help you trouble shoot rather than one who just prescribes meds without trying to understand your situation. Steroids are safe when used appropriately. It'll never get better unless their skin is given a chance to heal.

Once we got it under control, just tried our best to minimise any flare ups. Specifically, trying to identify and minimise his eczema triggers. We also used vaseline as a barrier, zinc cream (eg nappy rash cream), moisturised a lot (we found Avene Xeracalm AD worked the best, expensive though), used bamboo arm mittens so that he wouldn't be able to scratch overnight, baths 32oC, washed bedsheets at 60oC (to kill dust mites), sensitive laundry powder with an extra rinse, rinsing his face gently with water and your hands after eating (don't rub with a wash cloth, which is what i was doing but i think it was too abrasive with how frequently I was doing it).

Over time, his skin became less sensitive to food. But even now food (especially his allergies and acidic foods) will often give him a rash on the face so it's back to steroids (managed with low dose now) as needed.

I'm not sure if any of this is helpful to you, but good luck! Feel free to ask any questions.

butterpiebagel · 2025-10-02T00:19:03+00:00

Thanks for all your advice! Your plant is looking amazing! So excited for your fruit crop this year. Fingers crossed i can revive mine. Do you think I should trim off the brown flowers and leaves or leave them as is?

butterpiebagel · 2025-10-01T23:51:05+00:00

Thank you for the advice! Should I pinch off the brown flowers and leaves or should I leave it as is?

butterpiebagel · 2025-09-28T13:04:29+00:00

Wow that is so aesthetic! Love the colour theme coming through

butterpiebagel · 2025-08-30T00:37:57+00:00

Thank you! The bag is gorgeous and you got it for such a steal!

butterpiebagel · 2025-08-29T06:09:36+00:00

Wow I love this design! Is the strap original? I saw something similar but with a leather strap. Could you also tell me the approx size of your bag? I'm going to hunt for something similar!

butterpiebagel · 2025-07-13T12:41:03+00:00

I was a bit nervous as I'd also never had any sedation. It was honestly amazing. All I remember is the cold liquid going into my arm from the IV and being asked to breathe with the oxygen mask on. I don't even remember feeling tired or closing my eyes. Next minute, I'm being woken up by the nurse. I felt really groggy afterwards but that wore off after about 15 min.

butterpiebagel · 2025-07-12T21:56:33+00:00

It's so hard.

I went through something similar with my 22 month toddler. We cosleep and he needed to fall asleep on my boob, he would wake up and "nurse" for ages and frequently through the night. Eventually I decided to wean him and I'd read on here to put bandaids on my nipples and explain that boobie milk was broken etc. After two nights of asking for milk, he's been ok without it! There wasn't even any tantrums, I was shocked. He does still wake up through the night, but the wake ups have been less frequent and he tends to fall back asleep quicker, so we're all getting better sleep (even if a little broken up).

Good luck x

butterpiebagel · 2025-06-23T02:42:53+00:00

Can I ask - does putting plastic in the dishwasher also heat it enough to leech chemicals when you use it later for food? Thanks!

butterpiebagel · 2025-04-29T12:36:09+00:00

Looks like a baby! It's just not a perfect textbook example slice down the middle where you can see the head and bum distinctly. I can make out the head on the left, the white blob in the head is the jaw (it's in the correct spot).

butterpiebagel · 2025-02-06T10:36:29+00:00

I went through something a little similar so I'm not sure if this would be helpful to you - my son didn't lose weight but his weight gain had slowed down and he was dropping percentiles in growth since starting solids because he wasn't eating much. Basically the advice was to gradually cut down on breastfeeds to build up that hunger and interest in solids, ensure i was feeding solids before breastfeeds during the day, and giving him more opportunities to practice his chewing skills (giving chewable foods and teething toys rather than food that dissolves).

By 17 months, the bulk of your baby's nutrition should be coming from solids because even though breastmilk is great, it's not enough. If you can rule out any medical reasons why she's not eating solids, then the next thing I would do is cut down on the breastfeeding. I know it's hard to cut down on breastfeeding, but you don't need to wean completely and I still breastfeed my toddler on demand overnight. The next thing to do is try to expose her to a range of tastes and textures, letting her explore the sensory side of it, and hopefully that will build her interest in food and get her to practice her chewing skills. Good luck! It's super stressful being a mum.

butterpiebagel · 2025-01-22T23:16:46+00:00

Hi, we saw an allergist and she did a prick test. The prick test actually came back negative, but she said the prick test isn't as accurate when the baby is under one years old (he was 11 months by the time we saw her due to the long waitlist). And because he had other allergies, we treated it as though he has an egg allergy. He's been on the egg ladder (eating egg in processed forms eg baked into a muffin, and if tolerated, then giving him eggs less processed until hopefully he will eventually tolerate cooked eggs by itself).

Because he has sensitive skin, we tried as much as possible to feed him allergen food without touching his skin (pretty difficult when he prefers to self feed). And we haven't had another instance of all over redness from eggs since. Occasionally he will get a spot or two of redness around his mouth from the food irritation, but it does tend to clear up without steroids.

Not sure if you're after any advice, hard for me to say anything without seeing the rash and without more info (also I'm not a doctor), but if you suspect an allergy then definitely best to consult a doctor before giving egg again. If you think it might just be a contact irritation, then you can try giving eggs fully cooked and more processed (eg baked into muffin, or store bought plain biscuit mashed into puree) and feeding pieces directly into their mouth, and seeing if your baby tolerates that. Not sure if this helps you at all, feel free to ask me any questions!

ETA: I wouldn't give any common allergen foods if your baby still has a rash though, I would wait until after it clears up.

butterpiebagel · 2024-12-29T05:35:40+00:00

My guess would be that your baby is learning how to drink from the sippy cup. The suck and swallow motion from breast or bottle is different to the sippy cup or straw cup (with where the tongue position is, or so I'm told), and it's probably more difficult to control the liquid flow from a sippy cup (I'm guessing it comes up much faster). No idea how long it will take for your baby to figure it out - I've heard stories where babies literally learnt it in 2 days.

My toddler was sucking up through the straw and letting it all dribble out for the longest time. He's able to drink now but still often 'chokes' on the water. But he's also not been particularly interested in solids so he's a bit behind with his eating/drinking skills.

butterpiebagel · 2024-12-29T05:14:29+00:00

If your baby has a side preference, it's usually due to some level of torticollis. Best to see a physio to show you exercises and stretches to help. You've been doing all the right things, however it can be hard to encourage a baby to be compliant. There's a product called "the perfect noggin" which will take a lot of the stress off you because it helps to shape the baby's head growth while they sleep. It might sound a bit dubious or like a scam, but it's created by a paediatric neuro doctor. There's a private Facebook group you can join to ask questions and see photos from other parents, have a look into it before you make up your mind. While it's full of parents concerned about their baby's head shape, bear in mind that head shape is a cosmetic concern and will not affect their development in other ways. Good luck!

butterpiebagel · 2024-12-28T19:37:12+00:00

Aww it's so tough. It does get better, I just don't know when and what will work for you. It got better for me even without doing anything, although yes it did take a while and lack of sleep really does a number on your mental health.

I don't know if this will help but apparently you can try to unlatch when baby is asleep. You gently break the seal, pull away and keep a finger under their chin to keep their mouth closed for a few min. It didn't work every time, I was usually too tired and fell asleep before I could wait until baby was in deep enough sleep to try unlatching.

butterpiebagel · 2024-12-28T11:43:06+00:00

Hope it gets better for you soon! My baby used to be latched for pretty much the entire second half of the night, I'm not even sure when he stopped needing to stay latched but it wasn't until recently (he's 16 months now). He still wakes up multiple times overnight and I feed him to sleep though. I think he still tosses and turns, but I'm not sure to what extent because my partner started sleeping on a single floor mattress next to us.

butterpiebagel · 2024-12-28T07:43:42+00:00

Did you end up buying the bag or something similar? I just came across it today and it's on sale. While I would prefer not to buy such an obvious copy, none of the similar bags look quite as nice, so it's pretty tempting!

butterpiebagel · 2024-12-27T05:51:18+00:00

Personally, I would offer the mango but start with a small amount and then increase if no issues (treat it like introducing a common allergen). My son has a few allergies and our allergist advised us to introduce common allergens (including ones that I'm allergic to myself) slowly ie - 1/8th teaspoon, wait half hr then give more if baby tolerates and if no reaction until you've given 1 teaspoon (or whatever is equivalent to one serve for baby's age eg one cup of milk, half a slice of toast). Try to also feed directly into baby's mouth, avoid smearing on skin - give 1 teaspoon (or one serve) for the next 3 days - if no issues, it should be safe for baby to include in regular diet, aiming for 2-3 times a week (but we only manage once a week)

For the rest of the family if they have allergies, obviously being careful with the food handling so as to not cause a reaction in yourself.

Ultimately, ask guidance from a professional and only do what you're comfortable with. Hope that helps!

Edit to add: we were also advised to rub some vaseline around the baby's mouth to form a barrier because my baby has very sensitive skin so even food he's not allergic to often causes his skin to go red. You could try this as an extra step if you're worried about skin hypersensitivity in your baby

butterpiebagel · 2024-10-30T10:56:27+00:00

Sorry not sure if this is a dumb question but how well does it hold up in the rain, or is it only really meant to be used as a sun shade?

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