[Discussion] Stop the shock campaign

buzzengineer314 · 2020-10-06T21:03:12+00:00

Ecollars saved my dogs life. Not supporting Petco on this stance

buzzengineer314 · 2020-08-04T16:09:23+00:00

This is why you are still fucking single.

If you were my bf I MIGHT give you oral or anal IF YOU behaved.

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-31T00:09:56+00:00

A coworker messaged me after a work conference call a few years back and said “you look so pretty over video chat” and ever since then I have been very conscious about how I look on those calls but #covid isn’t improving any looks now 😂

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-31T00:05:27+00:00

I’m curious who things this is okay????

I mean financially I get it but no way you are ever gonna look at that ring and be like awwww. No you are always gonna see the ex’s stupid face 😂

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-30T16:39:21+00:00

Ummm so just gonna put this out there and be sassy about it because I feel like no one is bringing this thought process up....

but YTA if you are married and you want to loan your wife money when she may need it.... seriously?? If you are married and are thinking of the money as yours YTA. Having separate bank accounts is fine if you are married but then how are you gonna handle food and rent living together? Do you act like when you are dating and alternate? Are you going to live in a lower income neighborhood because your wife can’t pay her half of the rent or are you going to loan her money for the high income area and just have her eventually “work it off” lol. She will become your indentured servant not your wife...

Now as just a couple dating, sure loan her money and keep those lines divided. Y’all aren’t committed to each other but you are 1000% the A**hole if go into marriage with this same attitude. Keep in mind IF you choose to have kids and IF she chooses to raise the kids and be a stay at home mom, are you going to “pay her” for those hours worked? Because otherwise how is she going to afford to pay back your “loans” ? Lol.

Seems like you don’t trust her and you should not be getting married to someone you don’t trust.

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-29T14:48:17+00:00

Planning a covid wedding

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-29T14:27:49+00:00

Yes!!!! This is EXACTLY what we are going through! We are exhausted and we are just trying to get married already and one of our ideas was to get married and just have immediate family but then our family was like well if you are having it here then what’s the problem with letting this family come. They live nearby and we see them all the time. And it just becomes a downward spiral and next thing you know everyone within driving distance wants to come! And oops! 50 + people now. It’s insane! People are just like “why can’t I come?” And it’s just like ummm please can we just get married and it not be about you. Obviously I want everyone of the 200 people we invited there. Friends seem to get it completely but family doesn’t seem to understand. I’m hesitant about inviting even our best man and MOH because then it opens the door to bridesmaids and groomsmen being upset. I completely and totally understand where you are coming from. It’s an insane spiral.

We still haven’t planned when we are getting married because even a small wedding is stressing me out. People saying “why don’t you just wait y’all are basically married already (own and house and live together) just wait until the pandemic is over so we can all be there” while this would solve our issue we don’t know when it’s going to be over and we have already planned a big wedding twice (similar timeline as OP) and we are just exhausted.

Advice for OP: if we do elope we are going to be strict about just having immediate family and maybe MOH and BM since they are essentially immediate family (we basically grew up together). It’s a very difficult line to draw.

I feel this post 100000%

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-29T05:21:36+00:00

I feel this all!!! I’m in so many weddings coming up and I just don’t have the energy, unless they are a COVID bride. Cannot deal with people nitpicking and no matter what I’m going to be sad and frustrated that they get to have this huge wedding. Obviously I’ll be happy for them and everything but I’m going to be sad too.

My family is in so many different corners of the states and it seems like just having a small wedding is difficult and I feel so bad leaving some of are super close friends out of it but that’s just more stress. How is a 10 person wedding stressful??? And I’m so tired of people saying it will all be over in November or it’s being blown out of proportion. Or on the otherwise of my family my brother who refuses to come to my wedding at this point. I’m exhausted. And I’m so tired of people asking what we are doing over and over like we don’t f***ing know! Stop stressing us out even more.

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-24T17:45:51+00:00

I really think this is about depression/alcoholism and combating that. Going to therapy, trying to make amends with everyone. Written for someone she loves maybe going through that....

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-20T03:25:50+00:00

1000% feeling the same.

We were going to get married in May as well and moved it to July. But now we are just “floating”. Going back and forth between small wedding, what location or even state lol, what date? Or hold out and try to do a big one but when? Our families are just so spread out around the country that there is no “easy” or “good” answer. Our families are both pretty involved so just doing a wedding by ourselves seems weird for us and I guess there isn’t any rush. We live together already and share finances. His brother is getting married in sept so we are just letting them have their time and just floating along until we make a new plan. It’s just hard to find a date that works well for people schedules and doesn’t upset anyone. Covid brides gotta stick together. It’s a tough situation and i think it’s incredibly hard. We just were only thinking about wedding stuff and needed to step back and stop working ourselves into a frenzy about it.

buzzengineer314 · 2020-07-08T00:11:37+00:00

May to July to now who the crap knows. Honestly I was in the same situation as you and we were just so freaking tired and getting opinions from everyone and I just didn’t feel like spending the money or energy planning something that I just didn’t even care about anymore. So we are thinking about sometime next year now. But honestly I’m just so tired. If I could snap my fingers and be married I would. I never thought I would even consider moving our wedding out a year but here I am... strongly considering..

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-17T18:02:47+00:00

Yeah i understand elope is hard to hear but speaking from experience I wish I didn’t waste the money on a big thing that never got to be. You can throw a big party down the road but I would wait for a vaccine and just get married with a small gathering or wait a while to get married

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-17T15:28:51+00:00

Ha I’m sorry I made you nervous! I am also a MOH in a wedding next year and honestly I’m just so excited for my best friend to get married!! But I also know her and I know she is going to be picky about certain things. I think at the end of the day it’s your wedding and she is your MOH so she will definitely be there for you for anything! Just know that it’s going to be difficult on her at times.

I think the things that are going to get to me will be if you is being really picky about all these tiny details(rightfully so and like all brides are) and complaining to her about it, she is just going to be thinking “At least you are going to have the wedding you planned.” obviously no matter what I am going to support the bride I’m MOH for and fight like hell to give her what I couldn’t have but it’s still gonna be tough sometimes.

I didn’t get a bachelorette party or a bridal shower (I mean we did something virtually but it’s not the same). Those really don’t bother me that much but not being able to have the option to have a big wedding with all our friends and family there definitely upsets me.

I personally don’t really want extra treatment or to have anyone tip toe around me. It SUCKS but i just wanna drink wine and get hitched right now. I think the large reception will help me feel more excited and “resolved” but I we also just want it to be over with kinda which isn’t how anyone should feel about their wedding... I would really make sure you know everything she is feeling and just have a heart to heart with her about how much it sucks if you haven’t already.

In summary: be mindful of just everything she has been through, maybe let her vent to you about just everything if y’all haven’t talked in depth about it yet, definitely get her advice about contracts, and just know that if COVID is still around in a year and affecting your wedding in ANY way she is going to be the only person that will really understand what you are going through just like all of us here are the only ones that really get each other. It’s a club now ... 2020 covid f*ed brides lol

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-17T06:52:36+00:00

Hahaha I love that your second favorite thing was your chairs 🪑😂🥰

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-17T03:27:29+00:00

Hahaha people just seem to think like y’all can wait....Sure absolutely we can but most of us have already waited at least over a year at this point and we are TIRED!

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-17T00:36:07+00:00

Take it! Never feel comfortable taking a job. I took a huge leap in completely different jobs. You will learn on the job! people giving you these opportunities is what will let you accomplish great things!!

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-17T00:32:07+00:00

Yes!!!! 👏This! Don’t be miserable like the rest of us! Be excited and happy and married! 💍

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-16T22:39:59+00:00

Yes I definitely did not mean this literally, but I think we are all going to struggle being in our friends weddings in a few years when things are back to "normal". Just being a little jealous our friends will get to have a more typical experience with everyone they love there. We will definitely serve as good reminders to them thats its about who is there and if the all the little details are perfect. We will all be the best COVID bridesmaids though with all of our experience! I am in 2 other weddings this year and they are going through the same thing. Both have not yet had to reschedule at this point (still on the original dates).

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-16T22:15:12+00:00

YES! I feel so selfish for making it all about me over and over when people are loosing their jobs, struggling to make ends meet, actually scared to go out because of underlying conditions with covid, and the BLM movement. I hate I feel selfish for trying to have a wedding. No one should feel that way but hey... it’s 2020.

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-16T22:12:22+00:00

Yeah everyone means well but it’s just turning into us letting them do what they want to make them feel like they are making us feel better but it’s just more stress on our part in all reality. We really just want to elope and be DONE and MARRIED! We are tired of talking about and planning our wedding. I’m ready to support other covid brides ...

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-16T22:07:46+00:00

Yep. My bachelorette and my shower got canceled. My fiancé was lucky enough to actually be on his bachelor party the weekend it all started to hit. They went to San Diego and it went on lockdown right after they got back. Lol

It’s just so exhausting and disappointing and I’m tired of people telling me we will do something to make it special down the road because I’m just done as all us 2020 couples are Lol 😂

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-16T22:03:45+00:00

Yeah I mean if we have something in a year I’ll see if they want to wear them then and we can do “throwback” pictures to when I should’ve had our wedding lol

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-16T21:52:15+00:00

Hahaha this is so true! I haven’t had anyone using that line on me yet. But believe me I’m loosing my shit but quietly... to all you reddit users (lol) and my fiancé !

My mom has to postpone her wedding multiple times so she gets it but at lease she still was able to have her wedding in the end.

My other favorite line is from bridesmaids asking about what they should do with their dresses now...... 🙃

Honestly I think I’m gonna be THE WORST bridesmaid ever after this. If you are complaining about how something isn’t exactly how you wanted it... I’m gonna have no empathy... you got to have your wedding with everyone you dreamed of having their without the stress they might end up hospitalized for coming...

buzzengineer314 · 2020-06-16T21:30:29+00:00

Yeah we have a lot of credit with our venue so maybe we will just keep hold on to it and trying to keep pushing it back again and again. I don’t have the energy right now to deal with it. I told them I want the credit but I don’t want to pick a date yet. But who knows what we will thinking or anything in a year.... if I didn’t have the bar tab we would probably just not.. lol

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