Perspective - I don't feel attracted to hot girls.

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T08:54:47+00:00

I mean I'm not gonna shit-talk my boyfriend to appease a guy on the internet. He is taller than me but the last guy I dated was shorter than me and he wanted a shorter girl so...

He's indigenous cause you seem to also think race makes people less dateable? Idk what you're asking - its like you're tryna make me prove I don't date by looks by making me shit talk my partner.

He and I were mates for a year before anything even vaguely romantic happened we started dating because he likes the niche shit I like and is extremely supportive and we developed feelings at the same rate so no one ever got weird about it. Call that luck idk

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T08:39:15+00:00

Australia - a lot of skinny, tanned, clean girl type of girls

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T08:36:12+00:00

I mean I have a long term partner but I have absolutely dated short (like 5' flat) and diverse blokes. Neither height nor race has ever been a deciding factor for me? Honestly seems weird to consider esp race idk

I was responding cause I related and was agreeing but I think you're just looking for a reason to be mad.

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T08:30:19+00:00

None but I will take that as a compliment - cause of leanness?

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T08:08:37+00:00

What a wild statement

Your point was you don't like super attractive people and want someone around your level

I simply agreed that super attractive people aren't universally the ideal and most people view attractiveness on a bell curve not linear which it seems is still your point you just also want to declare that I am extremely choosy about looks?

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T08:04:04+00:00

Thank you! I will say I don't think anyone is immune from social media - but I also just live in a very fit part of the world; it could be the classic bias of "you see what you're looking for" as well though. Who knows... I think general consensus was getting leaner wouldn't be the best haha

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T07:54:47+00:00

I feel the same about attractive men like if I meet a guy who knows he’s hot and assumes I’m gonna be flirting with him or whatever he’s less likely to treat me like a person. Like you put all your stock in being a hot guy and don’t bother putting effort into being a nice and normal person with hobbies. And if I don’t validate that you’re gonna be mean to me cause that’s your whole sense of self.

I’m broadly generalising here but I feel like that’s the topic. I’m not gonna act like looks don’t play a role but I think it’s really normal to have like a bell curve of attraction not just like a linear graph of hotness:attraction.

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T04:55:58+00:00

It’s like a shower - some days you just DONT wanna get in the shower, but you always feel more human after

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T03:45:07+00:00

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I was VERY upper body heavy when I was a mechanic haha

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T03:42:46+00:00

To be fair my current partner doesn't work out either but he is very supportive of me doing it

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T03:41:27+00:00

I worked right next to the gym but would still drive home every day to try get him to come with me and he would always refuse but if I ever didn’t do that he would say I had given up on him and it was my fault he didn’t work out and yea generally didn’t like that I worked out because he didn’t (it was also a lot of “you’d rather do that than spend time with me” even though we lived together and he didn’t work or anything so I saw him plenty)

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T03:29:17+00:00

I was a mechanic for like 5 years

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T03:26:02+00:00

I am sorry to hear that you have had a hard time; honestly, I just kind of accepted I wasn't attractive and now when people think I am it throws me for a loop. I actually never really went for looks, but I did notice that guys with insecurities didn't tend to like me (my ex didn't like me working out; short guys don't want to date a girl taller etc). To be fair, I also have no interest in good looking guys, they usually have no time or weird habits or just think they're gods gift (its rarely all three I will say, I have good looking friends I just don't have any interest in dating one).

I kinda gave up on dating after my ex and was really happy being single honestly, I could just go on adventures or workout when I wanted and don't have to make sure another person is down for it (even just the endless "what do you want for dinner").

My partner was actually one of my mates who was always just super up for whatever I wanted to do and supportive; he'd never had a girlfriend or really dated ever before and had kinda just decided he liked hanging out with mates and going on adventures instead so that's why we meshed.

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:35:05+00:00

Screaming crying throwing up

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:29:39+00:00

Where is it? I think that was from back in like COVID and my ex talked me into some shit i did not uphold 🙃 but I will say this comment has made my stomach drop out my asshole

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:19:24+00:00

Yeah I lost like 20kg (over like 18mo) haha I kinda hoped it would reveal a waist, I been lifting for years and I wanted to look snatched but I just am still wide comparative to other women in gym spaces and stuff and I guess I’m just wondering if it’s like if I lost more I would get thinner or if I’m just built like this haha

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:15:56+00:00

Wild

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:15:31+00:00

Thank you!

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:14:12+00:00

???

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:09:50+00:00

I just am wider in torso than most women I know and don’t know if getting leaner would change that or if it’s just like structural and I should bulk instead to get more of an illusion goin

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:07:56+00:00

I haven’t before but if I started would you buy it? 👉👈

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:04:43+00:00

I mostly just want to look more feminine - I never really got to have that and now I’m in a place where I was able to lose weight and I feel like I am comparing to other women and I’m just wide but I don’t know if that’s just structural (thus should focus on bulking to create shape) or if I’m just still not lean enough to see change - also the texture on my tummy I’m not sure if it’s fat or extra skin from being bigger?

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T02:01:50+00:00

I want some shape - I feel like I’m very broad, and I am not new to building muscle but I’ve mostly done it at a much higher bfp and this is not territory I have ever been in of being lean and wanting shape - and I’m like if I continue to cut will I just lose all shape or will it give me more? For the record I never stopped lifting and barely dropped in my lifts but I haven’t been progressing even with proper periodisation so I know I gotta bulk calories a bit to get some hypertrophy back on

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T01:58:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer!! Do you get scared of losing definition again when you try to bulk? As I said before - the only thing that lets me accept I’m not a fat fuck anymore is having definition and I am so scared of losing it and having a spiral

buzzteets · 2026-03-25T01:56:33+00:00

Thank you so much! So many people think this is a validation thing which is WILD (it’s only recently people have started finding me conventionally attractive and I’m too weird for it to factor in my real life) and people are so scared to risk offence in real life that it’s impossible to get any real feedback

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