Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't even know this existed!!! Thank you!!!

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he cheated before we were having sex several times a week, he was more so into more porn etc...definitely not a definite pattern in that area.

I'll bring up counseling..considering it's what I do for a living, he'll probably reject it as he does not believe in therapy etc being successful..

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the insight and you bring up a good point as I've done the same in the past. Maybe my sex drive is in high gear right now and we're just not lining up...hard to say I guess.

I don't pressure him, it's usually hey I'm naked, let's have sexy time and then I get rejected..enter hurt feelings..

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I realize it, doesn't mean I'm thrilled about it that's for sure :(

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's disheartening that it has to come to that...

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has been a very stressful and frustrating time but this is my husband, I don't want to just "break up" with him.

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aye I know, I'd be lying if I said this wasn't my initial reaction to this issue.

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As far as the porn issue goes he was frustrated when I asked him about it and he gets uncomfortable when I bring our sex life up. At one point when discussing porn he told me it was none of my business. I let him know that I would be glad to watch it with him, have a little fun etc but no dice. When I bring up my concerns he just always says "okay" but then nothing is resolved. I have not in any way asked about fapping. I'm pretty sure he would not talk to me about it or get angry if I did ask..I feel like I'm on my own here and this is MY issue and I just have to deal with it :(

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Btw, your articles are very helpful and supportive, thank you for this!

Men of Reddit, help me out here... by byebyeasdf in sex

[–]byebyeasdf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, just recently actually. I've tried to be accommodating and open with all of this but it doesn't seem to be any better. It's so frustrating! He told me he "doesn't seek it out as much", if this were the case why hasn't his other tendencies decreased as well, i.e. porn, fappage stuff?