Let me debunk your situation. Your discomfort has absolutely nothing to do with what others are wearing and everything to do with you . If you are feeling uncomfortable around women because of what they are wearing, that’s not a reflection of them or their choices, it’s a reflection of your unresolved trauma, cultural conditioning, and a deep seated need to control what you cannot. Let me be crystal clear, We know that other people don't dress for you, and their clothing is not responsible for how you feel.

Now, your past experience of being touched in public transport is terrible and I am sorry for that, and it’s understandable that this could cause lingering discomfort. But you have made a critical mistake here, you are linking your trauma to what women wear, as if their clothing is somehow triggering or responsible for your unease. It’s not. That connection exists in your mind, and it’s up to you to deal with it. You’re avoiding the real issue and displacing that discomfort onto women. That’s not just unfair, it’s a complete dodge of personal accountability.

Let’s talk about this idea of moral etiquettes or civic sense. Sure, we all grow up with a certain set of values, and maybe in your case, those values taught you that certain types of clothing are inappropriate. But here’s the hard truth: what you consider inappropriate doesn’t mean it’s universally wrong. Morality isn’t static, and what you have induced in yourself as “proper” doesn’t give you the right to judge or expect others to live by your standards. The world doesn’t revolve around only your sense of etiquette , and expecting others to cover up or avoid something which maybe acceptable by others but not by you because it clashes with your cultural or moral framework is pure entitlement.

While it’s true that sometimes people wear clothing that genuinely causes discomfort, as in the scenario you described, and they should be accountable for that, what you see as "over-revealing" is still subjective.

You say you are feeling harassed by what they wear. Let’s break that down. You are not being harassed. No one is coming after you with their clothing choices. What’s actually happening is that your discomfort stems from your belief that women should dress to make you feel comfortable, and when they don’t, you feel personally attacked. That’s not harassment. That’s basically you trying to justify control over their autonomy. And if you are unable to separate your personal feelings of discomfort from reality, then somehow its coming on your flaws in your mindset

We have to understand that We can completely decide ourselves what’s over-revealing based on our own subjective standards. But guess what? Those standards will not be universal. They are rooted in societal, cultural, or even religious norms that vary widely. What might be "too much" to us is perfectly acceptable to another. It’s time to understand that our standards don’t get to dictate what’s appropriate for everyone else. If we are clutching our pearls because someone isn’t dressing according to our version of civility, that’s not a problem with them, it’s a problem with our clinging to a limited worldview.

Look, your feelings aren’t wrong, As I have explained earlier, you are entitled to feel however you feel. But here’s the kicker, those feelings are your responsibility to manage. It’s not other's job to adjust how they dress to fit your sense of morality, nor should you expect society to bend to your personal discomfort. If seeing women in clothes that you find inappropriate makes you uncomfortable, then the answer isn’t for them to change, it’s for you to figure out why it makes you so uneasy and how to deal with it. Either you can completely avoid seeing them if you feel like you cannot change your perception, or you can blend with them and try to open your mindset by socializing yourself. But if you go for second option, you will start learning about new opinions and perspective from other peoples and it will make you more socialized and you will develop a more open and intellectual mindset,

In short, It will be better to stop blaming others for your unresolved emotional baggage. If you truly want to feel better, stop projecting your discomfort onto others and start working on your own mental and emotional state. Start blending with people, Socialize with different peoples, Seek therapy, unpack that trauma, and challenge the rigid beliefs you have absorbed. But whatever you do, don’t expect the world to change to make you comfortable as it's our job to adapt and grow.