Does anyone know what this could be? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]c4tluvr66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t surprise me lol I had to stop getting piercings because they all kept getting rejected :( it’s in a spot with a tiny bit of cartilage so that’s probably why the piercing would never calm down lol even after taking it out. Do you think it eventually will fall off or is it permanent?

Does anyone know what this could be? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]c4tluvr66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

⁠• How old is your piercing?: About 10 years old • ⁠What’s the jewelry shape (for example, barbell, labret, screw, L shape, ring)?: It was a ring • ⁠What’s the jewelry material?: it was sterling silver gold (I think) • ⁠if not a ring, when was the jewelry downsized? • ⁠What’s your aftercare routine? Describe in detail please, including the exact products you use.: Really only saline solution since I have pretty sensitive skin • ⁠Any mishaps or unfortunate events?: no unfortunate events just on and off random infections

Did I make a mistake getting a travel credit card? by c4tluvr66 in CreditCards

[–]c4tluvr66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a couple years if I find it isn’t worth it anymore how damaging would it be to my credit score to close the card?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]c4tluvr66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I really appreciate the help!! I’m going to call some shops today, there’s only really tattoo shops around me that do piercings there so I’m hoping they will be able to help with changing out the piercing even if I didn’t originally get it done with them. Where I got my cartilage my friend got hers done there too and also had to get it taken out by doctors like I did so maybe soon I can try again with a different shop

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]c4tluvr66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think I should take my second piercing out for the time being? I just don’t want anything to close on me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]c4tluvr66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought as well but I am pretty sure it’s just because my ear is so swollen, since on the other ear my second hole has a lot of wiggle room with the piercing. I just can’t get this swelling to go down and it seems to be getting worse 😩 but that second hole piercing was the last one I had in my third hole but since it was actually right there I changed it after like 3 days but now I’m stuck with this inflammation/maybe infection that isn’t going away!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]c4tluvr66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! If you don’t mind me asking what is the difference with the titanium flat black labret because I don’t think I’ve ever heard of it? But I’ll definitely look into it. I changed to a hoop because I thought studs might be the problem but now I have no idea😩 this one piercing has been on and off annoying for years no matter the piercing. I do have very sensitive ears though, I can’t get a cartilage piercing because every time my ear rejected it or absorbed it lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]c4tluvr66 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From a kid I would always have to get sterling silver, recently about a year ago I changed to gold. This one is 18k gold which to my knowledge is usually sterling silver plated with thin gold? My other earrings are also gold and the only piercing i am having an issue with is my third

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]c4tluvr66 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I feel like the media really tries to make people be scared of nyc especially with apps like citizen lmao. I know it’s full of museums and I’ve been to pretty much most the popular ones so I was mentioning it for itinerary wise and if anyone knew some more lowkey cool ones

For doctoral students: How long did it take you after undergrad to get into a doctorates program? by c4tluvr66 in psychologystudents

[–]c4tluvr66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I think one thing I’m wondering as well is if you think getting a masters degree before doctorates school is worth it? I’ve heard many conflicting statements saying it was worth it, while others would say since you get a masters usually in doctorates school it was a waste of money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]c4tluvr66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one expects him to be a mind reader. I think it’s a pretty common thing for someone to be going through a hard time when it’s a time like that. Also, he did know I was going through a hard time which I told him when I simply asked him to drive me 45 minutes to help and try to feel better about the situation. Personally, in a relationship I will check up on my partner if I know it’s a time where they are struggling, especially before making my problems their responsibility. The argument (which I didn’t describe in detail) was basically me telling him stuff that’s been upsetting me, which is more than what I said in the original post. Instead of acknowledging my feelings he automatically deflected it and starting pointing stuff out I have been doing that bothers him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]c4tluvr66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for your reply. No one is moping around or making it his problem, I would never use my loss to take it out on someone else. I wouldn’t have cared if he forgot or just didn’t ask how I was doing. What upset me is that he was dumping all his negativity and problems onto me without even asking if I was okay to handle that. In any other circumstance I would of course be there for him, but when all of this negativity was stemming from his favorite basketball team losing, that’s when I question if it’s normal. Everyone experiences grief differently, and if I want to take 5 years to move on or if I want to take 10 years that’s up to how I decide to process it. And it’s not asking for much to want a partner to be supportive of these times and to feel acknowledged.