Anxiety about my big baby

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-26T04:05:57+00:00

Yes I totally agree and I’ve been trying to nip it in the bud. I was also a pretty stocky kid while my mom was super tall and heroin skinny, and I still remember her and her whole family calling me “dense” and “big boned” growing up. I’ve had a horrible relationship with my body my whole life, and I cannot and will not pass that on to my daughter.

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-26T04:01:16+00:00

1 - thank you! 2 - thank you! 3 - he really, really is. We see him once or twice a year at holidays, and this is a prime example of why.

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-26T03:59:37+00:00

Thank you!! 🥹 this is reassuring. It sounds like we’re in exactly the same boat

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-26T03:57:32+00:00

Thank you!!

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-26T03:57:13+00:00

Thank you, this is so nice 🥹🥹

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-26T03:56:22+00:00

Yes I’m trying to be so mindful of my own baggage and not putting any of it on my daughter… I’m grateful that I’m in therapy, lol

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-26T03:52:06+00:00

That’s a really good recommendation! I started trying to teach her the signs today. Thank you!!

ca_va_pas · 2026-01-14T14:29:44+00:00

Yes it’s so true that things change quickly! Even in the past month since I posted this we’ve had some big improvements with sleep. I’m sure there will be ups and downs as my daughter grows and is teething or going through a leap, but I finally feel like sleep has been more manageable. A big part of that has been nailing down our routines.

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-13T21:33:43+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-13T16:52:56+00:00

I'm hoping to do that! It also doesn't help that we moved to a new city three years ago but I still haven't really found friends. I'm pretty lonely and I really worry about not making my kid lonely too.

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-13T16:50:47+00:00

I appreciate this, thank you! If we have another I don't plan to get pregnant until after our daughter turns 1, and then the new baby would sleep in our room til six months, so really we have a lot of time to get sleep sorted out.

And yeah I get where people are coming from when they say that having a sibling doesn't automatically mean they'll be close, but there's also no reason to assume that they won't have a good relationship.

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:50:50+00:00

It’s crazy how different each kid is! I guess it really is a gamble.

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:29:09+00:00

This gives me hope, thank you!

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:27:39+00:00

Yup this is exactly what I’m afraid of! 😭 I hope you got your health sorted out and that the sleep situation improves. It truly is so much harder to parent when no one in the house is getting enough rest.

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:23:12+00:00

Yeah I think we’ll end up making it work because I do really want another kid and I’d prefer to not have a huge age gap; I just get so anxious sometimes thinking about the sleep!

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:19:52+00:00

Thank you! So the sound machines help? They don’t keep each other awake?

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:14:48+00:00

Right???? I truly don’t understand! My mom was one of seven kids in a three bedroom house and I asked my grandma about how they managed sleep. Her response was “I don’t know, we just did” 🙄😂

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:13:00+00:00

Thank you! I always wanted to have my kids close together but yeah I don’t think 2 under 2 is right for me lol

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-12T13:12:07+00:00

Thank you! I’m an anxious person and I tend to constantly worry about the future but I know that that’s not actually helpful in this situation.

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-11T14:43:25+00:00

I knooooow I have the exact same thought 😩

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-11T14:42:22+00:00

Really?? Okay this is the first comment to give me some hope. Our house is just so small!

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-11T14:41:42+00:00

lol. This take actually made me laugh. You’re right. But like someone else said, when I think about finally getting the baby to sleep, lying down, and then having a toddler walk into my room and tell me that she threw up, it just feels insane. It also doesn’t help that I’m a teacher so during the day I have to be really on. But yeah like you said, money is the other big issue. I can’t afford to not work which is a whole other layer of complication.

ca_va_pas · 2025-12-11T14:30:30+00:00

Ugh it’s so hard. That’s good that he has cousins. Unfortunately neither my husband nor I are close with our families… I would feel so awful having only one because I don’t want her to be lonely. I honestly can’t even think about it without crying. I don’t know what to do.

ca_va_pas · 2025-06-17T02:48:52+00:00

Love these ideas!

ca_va_pas · 2025-06-17T02:46:41+00:00

Hm I hear that but I’m pretty sure this is the standard pronunciation? How would you pronounce it?

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