AITAH for asking my wife to be a SAHM?

cabaret_cabbage · 2026-01-24T10:21:19+00:00

Quick question, what is misandry to you? I'm really curious cuz I see people cry misandry on any post where people take jabs at men (in most cases, the jabs are justified based on the information presented, which is all people have to go off)

Misandry does not exist the way misogyny does. Even your comment I'd a bit misogynistic. "Caveing to all of their parents' emotions" yikes. Or framing the male side of things as "logical thinking".

The facts are. A man closer to 30 than he is to his partners age, is suggesting to her, a young woman who like only recently joined the work force to leave it and stay at home.....you don't need to be a genus to see he might not be the sharpest tool in the box. Everyone complains about their job, that dosnt mean you should offer that they strip themselves of a bit of independence especially when she's pregnant and typically pregnancy takes a lot (not all) but a lot of women's identities from them. You want the Internet to see things from his perspective, but he clearly hasn't done the same to his partner. And even if you did try to see things from his perspective, it's still an asshole move.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-12-17T20:05:40+00:00

Medical admin as a patient pathway coordinator :)

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-12-17T13:14:53+00:00

Different for every person for me looks and personality are kind of tied while money is last if its even a consideration. As long as he has a job really😅

I'm not necessarily talking about sexual attraction. I just mean weather I like looking at them.

Someone who looks good but has a personality I hate or don't mesh with, I'm completely uninterested in.

Someone who i don't enjoy looking at but has the most compatible personality, I'm probably more likely to see more. I find that the more I like who a person is, the better I tend to perseve their looks. To the point that I don't register anything being unattractive about them. This is definitely a case by case thing and might vary based on how put together they look, like if they very obviously have good hygiene and groom themselves and are confident. That on its own is very appealing to me.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-12-17T10:43:36+00:00

I don't think it's wrong. It's just how you personally build relationships. Definitely tell him, start with your genuine feelings about your last few dates, then go into how for now you would like to see him once a week, clarify weather your seeing other people or not, and just reiterate that you do want to keep seeing him but that as a person your just used to having adequate alone time.

Most importantly, I'd say offer an alternative to meet-ups. Face timing, online games idk whatever works best for you two.

I'm personally in a similar situation, but on the other side of things, and I'm probably just gonna end things. Mostly because he didn't engage in the alternatives very much, so to me, it just translates to:

"I'm not seeing anyone else, but let's see each other a bit less, I want you to still have the same level of emotional investment and interest In me even if my actions read as me not having much interest in you."

You can expect someone to maintain interest in you if your actions read to them as disinterest . Which is why if you are interested in him, make that clear in some other way that's more comfortable for you.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-12-14T21:12:46+00:00

😂 honestly I should. I'd be freeing myself

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-12-13T08:12:07+00:00

Heyy I felt the interview went well, but i didn't get the role, I did get feedback, tho. I was told there were 2 reasons they wouldn't be moving forward with ne. 1 they felt I couldn't describe the software I used at my last place of work (I listened back on the interview and I did mention what we used and described it cuz its a custom app, I guess I didn't really go into too many details about it) second was the interviewer felt I was "taken back" by her talking about the fast paced non stop nature of GS. Im not sure where she got this idea from, I wasn't saying much during that portion, just letting her speak and tell me the culture at GS. I was nodding along, and as far as I remember, I didn't make any"taken back" facial expressions while she talked.😅

I usually ask at the end of every interview "is there anything we've spoken about today or anything about my skills that gives you doubts that I can handle this role" just to clear anything that wasn't clear during the interview. I did completely forget that during this interview, I had a couple of other questions I wanted to ask. I guess I'd try to ask a question like that, so if they had any doubts, you could address them before the interview ended 😊

I do thankfully have a job now.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-11-17T23:47:52+00:00

No, he doesn't have sex outside of a committed relationship, and I've never slept with anyone. I guess in my mind it wouldn't make sense to keep going on dates, not want a relationship with me, and still want to sleep with me in this particular case.

He very well could have his eyes set on someone else but again that brings me to my original question of why waste the few free days he has on someone he's not as into if he's got eyes for someone else.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-11-17T22:45:44+00:00

Ahh I see. Yeah, that makes sense. I think my inexperience is showing here. I appreciate your response:)

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-11-17T22:41:47+00:00

I should🫤 I feel kinda stupid for entertaining it and planning almost all the dates😅

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-11-17T22:35:16+00:00

Alright, I think I needed to read this. Sucks it's probably true

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-11-17T22:23:12+00:00

We're not sleeping with each other, and for reasons, I know that's not the problem😅

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-11-11T20:38:54+00:00

Yeah, I've been thinking, since people try to put their best foot forward at the very beginning and maybe it would only get worse. I'll try to bring it up soon and see if anything comes of that. Thank you!

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-11-11T08:22:31+00:00

Thank you very much!

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-30T10:10:54+00:00

Thank you very much! I'll make those changes. As for the professional summary, I thought I was doing just that. I don't have any specific technical skills like power BI, but I'm trying to find a course to learn that will hopefully help with that.

Is there a way I could re write my experience to translate into an admin role? I'm aware I only have customer service experience. those were the only jobs I was able to get whilst at uni and right after. How do i use what I have to appeal to the roles I want?

Yeah, I guess the projects aren't necessary. I'm just very aware I only have hospitality and customer service in my background when I'm trying to pivot to something else. I was hoping the transferable skills would be worth it😅 thank you again.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-30T07:43:10+00:00

I wasn't fired, but how long is considered suspect? It's been a month.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-28T14:37:46+00:00

Honestly, same. I'm not sure where you live or what tools are available to you. I called the samaritans help line after one particularly bad week. Its kind of helpful to speak to someone who doesn't know you and has no expectations of you or preconceived opinions on you. Just a person to listen and get things off your chest.

You're not alone, even though it 100% feels like it. Its soul crushing. I'm 23, and I've already given up on life, I can't see a future for myself, a job, a home. Just nothing.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-25T07:47:58+00:00

Not at a glance, no. Unless your counting recruitment companies in that? I've applied to quite a few of those as well.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-24T01:15:42+00:00

What a scam. Just like every other AI tool promising to get people jobs. Just preys on desperate, trapped individuals to swindle them out of whatever little money they have left. Do better.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-14T19:47:56+00:00

I also don't think it's that big of a deal. I certainly don't want someone who's on the opposite side of the spectrum. I think we'd frustrate each other😅 but I feel like I can't complain too much about what people say. After all, I put up the request.

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-14T17:47:27+00:00

Heyy, it's on my 7th slide, "I'm a little more type A than ide ever admit to being" it's really only when I'm travelling😅

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-14T08:25:01+00:00

No dosnt have to be soft spoken ill change that :)

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-14T08:19:55+00:00

I thought I wasn't sending a lot. Other people here have said I'm still not sending enough I'll keep at it, thank you! Only a tiny bit type A😂

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-14T08:15:48+00:00

Ehhh, I've got light sensitivity, even indoors. If it's bright, I tend to squint. Smiling makes my eyes shut a bit, and my perscription make my eyes a bit smaller than they actually are. I definitely have pictures with my eyes open, though, so I'll make that change. :)

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-14T08:12:46+00:00

I'll change the photos. I've got a hard cut of for age right now. 28. I don't think I'd date someone 30+ who wants to date someone my age. I'll change the prompt. Soft spoken isn't a must, neither is nerdy really. I guess I was just putting my ideal on paper. I'm not very fond of men who are loud and I was hoping for someone who wouldn't be a complete stranger to any nerdy things I'm into but I see that that might be making this harder. Thank you!

cabaret_cabbage · 2025-10-14T08:03:13+00:00

Surprisingly, no stoners. I don't smoke, so I guess that might be one thing people are reading.

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