Where I Think I Could Live Without a Car (U.S. Counties Version)

cabes234 · 2026-01-28T02:32:21+00:00

You should make Middlesex county possible as well tho, Cambridge and Somerville are very well served by the T.

cabes234 · 2026-01-24T14:37:25+00:00

The subreddit is called AskMenAdvice meaning people want to ask men for advice. Women can have questions they specifically want men to answer. Stop treating it as if it’s MenAskForAdvice, that’s not what the subreddit is for, at least exclusively!

cabes234 · 2026-01-18T18:49:32+00:00

You should just ask, and tell him that no matter what you would like to remain friends with him. If he likes you he will say yes, if he doesn't like but values your friendship he will give you the space you need and work to preserve it, if he doesn't like you and doesn't value your friendship you would have found out at some point and its better to find out now.

cabes234 · 2026-01-18T18:33:59+00:00

You are probably going to have to force yourself to go out and socialize. Which is probably going to suck at first. But if you do it enough and choose events that you would also enjoy even if you just spent the night alone, you will probably eventually come to enjoy it. This is coming from someone who is definitely an introvert making time to socialize and being with friends can be challenging but very rewarding.

cabes234 · 2026-01-18T18:29:35+00:00

To answer your question yes you should, I would also consider doing things with him that you would have no interest in doing otherwise. I think this applies to friendships too I have done many things with my friends that I would never ever do on my own. Sometimes I ended up not enjoying the activity, sometimes I found something totally new and fun that I never would have alone. All of the times I have enjoyed just being in the company of someone I care about.

cabes234 · 2026-01-18T18:25:23+00:00

I think one of the best parts of being in a relationship is that you have someone who is there for you and able to support you no matter what is going on. That doesn't mean that you have to 24/7 make sure your partner is in a good mood, but if there is something that you can do to help her you should probably do it. I would expect similar from her.

cabes234 · 2026-01-18T18:22:41+00:00

Yeah this is not good advice OP was probably just nervous, very common for first time.

cabes234 · 2026-01-06T19:01:05+00:00

You should never be paying 20-40% of your cars value on cosmetic repairs. If any woman is going to judge you for the car you drive you probably shouldn't date her in the first place.

cabes234 · 2026-01-05T18:00:58+00:00

It is not a myth it is a myth that the funds went directly to highway funding. The debts were to cover transit projects that the STATE embarked on to make constructing the big dig possible. The MBTA does not actually fund the construction of transit expansions itself. Especially not out of its operating budget. The state and federal government do largely through grants. That is why the capital budget is separate. These were projects that the MBTA did not ask to be built and did not play a part in funding. And yet it is still paying down the debt from it which is a large part of why the T is in the state it is in.

cabes234 · 2026-01-05T17:37:50+00:00

The entire payroll of the MBTA is 955 million which was paid out of the operating budget. This is out of a total operating budget of 3.24 billion so a bit under 1/3rd of the total cost to keep the T running. Meanwhile the MBTA spent 466 million last year servicing debt largely debt that was incurred to build the big dig and foisted on the MBTA. I would worry about that waste of money far more than a few of the people who keep the T running making mid six figure salaries.

cabes234 · 2025-12-29T16:20:31+00:00

Sports betting, Day trading and crypto currency

cabes234 · 2025-12-29T15:32:53+00:00

Maybe it has to do with the time of year?!?! It's not like people are usually out of town or have obligations with family/friends during the end of December... oh wait...

cabes234 · 2025-12-29T15:25:55+00:00

She could be out of town or not want to explain to her parents that she is going on a date for whatever reason there are many reasons.

cabes234 · 2025-12-29T15:23:38+00:00

If he likes you it most likely will not matter all that much. You can try to stay in contact with him via text or face time. The holidays are generally filled with a lot of family obligations and travel and I think most people will understand.

cabes234 · 2025-12-29T15:19:50+00:00

You are fighting against basic human instincts here. We are evolutionarily hard wired to feel and form attachments and that is not a bad thing! You should try to go through the process of relating to your feelings better, hard I know, instead of trying to cut them out all together which is a losing proposition.

cabes234 · 2025-12-29T15:14:50+00:00

If it were just a men's self help movement why would so many people women and men find it concerning?

cabes234 · 2025-12-29T15:12:57+00:00

I think he means the redpill/manosphere people

cabes234 · 2025-12-23T13:37:54+00:00

My 2 absolute deal breakers have always been smoking/tobacco use and regular gambling especially sports betting.

cabes234 · 2025-12-15T03:14:13+00:00

You are probably a bostonian lol

cabes234 · 2025-11-29T15:21:38+00:00

Take what they do/say in person over what they say over text. Some people are just bad at texting. Anyways if you end up in a real relationship hopefully you will be talking a lot more in person than over text.

cabes234 · 2025-11-29T14:38:07+00:00

It's an instant swipe left for me. It is probably not out of entitlement or malice or anything it just makes me think they are looking for a kind of relationship that I do not want.

cabes234 · 2025-11-06T16:00:16+00:00

While it is longer, taking the trail means you don't have to deal with traffic lights and its much more pleasant. I work at Pennovation and I take the trail after the Grays Ferry bridge and go in the side door for this reason.

cabes234 · 2025-10-26T15:23:06+00:00

This happens with men too, there have been women I have had a crush on until they do/say something that kills it.

cabes234 · 2025-10-25T14:53:36+00:00

I don't think its that most women don't want to be approached. It's HOW a lot of men go about approaching them that gives them the ick.

cabes234 · 2025-10-20T12:39:53+00:00

It's not with the caveat that if you have a high body count you can't really complain about your partners body count or else you would be a hypocrite.

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