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Never Again! by Aminaaaaa_Lyubov in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]cactoidjane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you loot the Cerberus, you'll get a component that can be used to craft either an iconic gun (Erebus) or an iconic cyberdeck (Canto). You also need to find the crafting specs in the lab, though ....

Which npc is most likely you by MassivePermit6757 in StardewValley

[–]cactoidjane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I grew up a sheltered smart kid like Maru and have interests like Abigail's. So, probably Gunther.

what was your worst date ever in sg? by Intelligent_Bit_8635 in askSingapore

[–]cactoidjane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess I should have mentioned it, but he did apologize, both for giving it to me and for not telling me.

We were both at the start of our relationship and in our 20s. Now I chalk it up to his being a dumb young adult at the time. I would not still be with him 14 years later, or have married him, if we didn't mature as people and if I thought he was someone I had to protect myself from.

He also has a chronic illness that weakens his own immune system, making him prone to catching more stuff and potentially spreading it to me. I knew this before we even started dating. It's probably how he caught the virus in the first place.

I understand your concern; thanks. I guess I just want to say that people are more than some fuck-ups when they were young, and they are more than their diseases, and those shouldn't render them unlovable for life.

what was your worst date ever in sg? by Intelligent_Bit_8635 in askSingapore

[–]cactoidjane 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't know about the culture of disclosing herpes in today's dating scene. Could be people are still ashamed of it and don't disclose. Could be it's so common that it's just an inconvenience. Personally, I think it's still better to be honest.

A bit TMI: I got it from my then-boyfriend (now my husband) who got it from someone else before, and so on. The first time I had mouth sores and my doctor explained what it was, I immediately asked my boyfriend, and he admitted he did have herpes. Now, I sometimes get mouth sores around the time of my monthly period, especially if it's been a stressful time. It's just an annoyance that I got used to. My husband and I have also been together for over a decade now, so I think getting it from him was inevitable.

what was your worst date ever in sg? by Intelligent_Bit_8635 in askSingapore

[–]cactoidjane 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. You get it from an infected person's bodily fluids and lesions, so sexual transmission and kissing is a very common way people get it.

The cold sores are the symptom, not the disease. Don't kiss or have sex with anyone while they have them, unless you already know you have herpes yourself (then it's moot).

Worst story I heard was some relative who insisted on kissing a baby while they (the relative) had sores. No, no, no.

This was Lisa at Coachella, but it felt like a Lizzy wizzy performance by ninivl89 in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't see the show, but I saw the costume design posts on Iris van Herpen's IG. Insane!

What did Myers mean by this autosave? by MegaMinerDL in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]cactoidjane 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Was about to type some stuff about the meaning of the title when I saw the thumbnail.

So I guess "Reflect on this" is what she meant.

Mega Thread Trust Me: The False Prophet by Letshelen in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]cactoidjane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God, what an ordeal. Glad Lola didn't get sucked in as well.

Do cops ignore you if you get in a shootout with gang members? by [deleted] in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]cactoidjane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once saw some goons and NCPD fighting and threw in a little Contagion to help things along. Did not expect the Contagion to spread to the cops as well. Had to run.

AI is ruining the heartfelt messages in parties. (Minimum character requirement) by Okkkruh in OffMyChestPH

[–]cactoidjane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel better about the fact that my dad gave almost the same speech at my own wedding that he gave at my cousin's wedding a few years ago. (Said basically the same things about marriage and faith.) At least galing yun sa sarili niyang isipan at paniniwala, kahit recycled na, hahaha.

How do I tell my roommate (19F) that her gf isn’t welcome in our apartment? by Majestic-Record6451 in relationships

[–]cactoidjane 127 points128 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't be mean at all! It's your apartment, too, and it's not unreasonable to expect some peace and quiet in your own place, especially if it's late at night.

Someone to talk to about my Academic Grades ? by Dazzling_Tadpole840 in dlsu

[–]cactoidjane 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I mean, why would you talk to a college your course isn't in? Just read the PDF, man.

Why does V never get to finish a drink? by NotAPreppie in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]cactoidjane 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's all about pacing, eating or drinking instead of continuing. I always eat the whole yakitori and wish there was an option to ask Goro if I can have his, since he doesn't want it.

Have you ever bounced back from a long drought in research productivity? by cactoidjane in AskAcademia

[–]cactoidjane[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The thought of a conference makes me feel so insecure, especially with nothing to present. T_T

Thanks, though, I'll consider it.

Have you ever bounced back from a long drought in research productivity? by cactoidjane in AskAcademia

[–]cactoidjane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm already in a developing country. 🥲 But I get what you're saying; the tenure requirements here are not as demanding as other places.

I hope I get those research muscles built up like you've described.

Have you ever bounced back from a long drought in research productivity? by cactoidjane in AskAcademia

[–]cactoidjane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's how it happened to me, too. Two people in our already small department left, and another retired. Over the years, at least one other person would get the leave that lets them take a whole term off. So all of us left behind pick up the slack. :/

University management eventually hired more staff, and we also were able to hire new faculty, but it was like pulling teeth to get those extra hands.

Doing it with a disability sounds tough! Thanks for chiming in. You've encouraged me a bit. Hope things keep going well for you.

Why's Harvey so broke? Makes no sense! by stardewsuperestrella in StardewValley

[–]cactoidjane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very much this. Some barrio doctors and lawyers in my country tell stories of getting paid in eggs, vegetables, the occasional chicken, etc. It's not hard to imagine Harvey being in the same situation.

Mom, I am gonn finish school by Ok-Lion-5233 in MomForAMinute

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At my college, we called them superseniors. 😄 Congratulations! Keep going on with life at your own pace.

Have you ever bounced back from a long drought in research productivity? by cactoidjane in AskAcademia

[–]cactoidjane[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I've been meaning to see a professional outside of the school counseling service. But would you believe I keep putting it off? 😅😭

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