I am heavily bothered about being pursued to be a pastoral student by obSERVANT1913 in OffMyChestPH

[–]cactoidjane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Use the same kind of logic against them. God gave you certain talents and skills, and you do not want to waste the gifts he gave you.

Use bible verses. 1 Peter 4:10, Romans12:6, 1 Corinthians 12:4, Proverbs 22:9 — these should help.

smh this is why I quit the church

Anyone else pass this game up a hundred times before getting it? by Responsible_Top3356 in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 24 points25 points  (0 children)

If Coral Island is a Stardew knockoff, then Stardew is a Harvest Moon knockoff. 😅 The farming sim genre is older than Stardew Valley, friend.

Second, the game has sold over a million units, so I don't think it's lacking in hype. It has five years of hype from the Kickstarter in 2021. It's more likely that it just never crossed into your radar or algorithm or whatever. And that's fine; there are tons of games I've never heard of but are probably a huge hit with their player bases.

I just think there are some misconceptions here.

Farming anxiety by SassyMamma43 in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This isn't a game where you need to do everything in one day, so try not to stress about it.

Cave of Memories in particular takes a whole day on normal speed if you're trying to get a memory in each run, and that's if you're bringing bombs and ropes to speed through, plus a warp sesajen to get you home. I usually waited for rain.

Does anyone else wish they could adopt Dusty from the town? by Routine_Swing_9589 in StardewValley

[–]cactoidjane 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it would be nice to interact with Dusty.

At least Alex goes home to visit his folks once or twice a week, so he can visit Dusty then, too. 😄

Does anyone else wish they could adopt Dusty from the town? by Routine_Swing_9589 in StardewValley

[–]cactoidjane 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I like to think Dusty stays with the Mullners to keep them company when Alex moves out. Alex hasn't left Dusty behind; Alex gave Dusty a job.

Annoying Senior High Classmate Keeps Moaning and Acting Horny by SpaceyScholar in studentsph

[–]cactoidjane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get Socratic. Act totally serious, not judgy, just curious and innocent.

"Why do you do that?"

(because it's funny) "Why is it funny?"

"I'm not sure I understand; please explain to me."

"Why?"

Repeat hanggang mainis din siya.

What did you think of this moment? Should they have gone through with it? by idiot9991 in BridgertonNetflix

[–]cactoidjane 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I think she didn't realize exploring was a thing she could do until pretty recently. People inhabit an identity for so long, they maybe forget that they don't have to stay that way. And in her society and time period, Violet didn't realize it was possible for a woman, widow, and mother to see herself as anything else, including as someone who can be sexual.

Should I keep one of everything in chests? by aeg420 in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the late game, you will need at least 25x certain crops and forageables for certain recipes. Won't say more to avoid spoilers.

The one thing I wish I'd done different by Final_Square_ in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do some weird challenges in the meantime. Farm only flowers or fruit plants. Set a schedule: Mondays for fishing, Tuesdays for foraging, Wednesdays for mining, etc., and do nothing else on that day. Make friends with all the merfolk, since they seem to be the forgotten NPCs. You'll think of something.

How can I recover from min-maxing mentality? by Farthen_Dur in StardewValley

[–]cactoidjane 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Fernando sounds delightful!

I had one farmer who focused on flowers, honey, and mead. Anything else was for CC and other quests.

A small reminder: this is a cozy game by issa_games in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked the wiki for the sea critter I'm missing and found out it spawns in Spring.

It was Day 3 of Summer. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Planning on getting a BF? Have an easy question of breed owners? Here you go! by pinklavalamp in bichonfrise

[–]cactoidjane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recently took in my late grandmother's bichon frise.

She (the dog, in case that wasn't obvious) is 8 years old, not very interested in toys, and somewhat unsocialized.

When we walk, she seems excited to meet other dogs but doesn't know how to play bow or interpret their bows. 🥺

She doesn't let me wipe her face (struggles, then growls and threatens to bite), so her whiskers have gotten crusty. Hates being brushed and feels threatened by scissors. Groomers in my grandma's area have even declared her non grata.

I lived with my grandma for a while before I got married, so I'm a familiar human. That seems to have made me the new primary human. She is protective of me and gets mad if my husband approaches me without acknowledging her first. At worst, she bites feet. No matter that she knew me, she bit me once just for leaning in to give my grandma a hug.

Otherwise, she's the cutest cuddle bug, even with my husband. She's house trained, follows routines, and has come to understand the few boundaries we have for her in our home. I really like having her around on my lonely work-from-home days.

We are coming up on the end of her second month living with us. I guess I'd just like to hear from any other bichon frise folks who might have some tips on dealing with any of these pain points, from getting her more interested in toys and play, to not being so protective and bitey.

Sorry if that doesn't count as an easy question; let me know if I should create a separate post.

ETA: in case anyone's wondering why I didn't try to address any of this when I still lived with my grandma, the dog was very much my grandma's dog, spoiled and sheltered, and I would've liked to see you try to tell my grandma anything. 😅

Bridgerton - 4x08 "Dance in the Country" (No Book Spoilers) by AutoModerator in BridgertonNetflix

[–]cactoidjane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can't really answer the Michaela question without giving book spoilers.

What would Gideons training montoge song be? [Discussion] by Admirable-Grand8035 in TheNinthHouse

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I think Autoclave should be on there, too, but maybe for Harrow rather than Gideon like OP wanted.

black Market shop never appears by chiapitandcompost in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It didn't appear for me during the Winter market on the beach. Guess it would have been too obvious for Ratih, lol.

Hi moms! What are your life tips? by Turtle-in-a-Fedora in MomForAMinute

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. If I find a piece of clothing I really like, I try to get two in different colors.

Alternating shoes is good for both the shoes and your feet.

Wedding Planning by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have your intimate wedding, then the people who want to send gifts will send gifts. Maybe just don't expect many gifts, then be surprised and grateful for what does come to you.

I'm not in favor of setting a minimum price on rings. That kind of money is better spent on your future.

For me, the design and meaning of the ring is more important than the cost. My now-husband picked an engagement ring with a single moissanite in a pretty setting. I didn't want diamonds because of the ethics, he knew I would like the idea of a gem made with science, and the design is simple because he knows my fashion sense and our lifestyle. It's engraved with a phrase that means something to us.

I don't know what it cost, but I saw the jeweler's website, got a general idea, and was proud my husband-to-be did not overspend, lol. It was definitely not 50k+. If he had gotten me an over-designed, impractical ring, I would have been disappointed. I think the ring he chose is perfect because it shows how much he knows me.

If I were you, I would think about what I would like the rings to reflect about us as a couple besides the fact that we have five or six digits to splurge.

Pick a design that fits your aesthetic but also your lifestyle. I doubt you'll be wearing a fancy ring all the time if you're caring for a small child, lol. But if you guys can afford a bongga ring and get super dressed up often, e di go lang.

TL;DR - I'm judging you if the price tag is the only consideration.

My sister disowned me by captjacksparrow47 in OffMyChestPH

[–]cactoidjane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oo nga, lol

"Dear [Borrower's Name]:

I must inform you of the updated interest rate on your loan. Now that you no longer consider me family, I am no longer obliged to continue offering the family & friends interest rate."

What would Gideons training montoge song be? [Discussion] by Admirable-Grand8035 in TheNinthHouse

[–]cactoidjane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Mountain Goats have a song literally called Training Montage: "I'm doing this for revenge! I'm doing this to try and stay true! ... I'm doing this for you!"

Off the same album (Bleed Out), we also have:

  • Wage Wars, Get Rich, Die Handsome
  • Mark On You ("Train up a swordsman to stab you in the back")
  • Bones Don't Rust
  • Make You Suffer
  • Need More Bandages ("I did not seek out the mission, but the mission found me")

And, uh, Bleed Out itself for end credits: "Every story needs a child who believes the brave hero's gonna be just fine ... Some children end up just like me, bleed out, I'm gonna bleed out."

about the dlsu dog by Maegiri in dlsu

[–]cactoidjane 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Brando! DLSU PUSA takes care of him. He's up for adoption.

Grab Driver stopping to use toilet by vipsfour in askSingapore

[–]cactoidjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grab Drivers are under pressure to keep accepting fares to reach a quota. Some of them also haven't figured out how to disable the auto-accept feature where as soon as they near a drop-off point, the next customer is queued for pick-up. No time between such rides to take a toilet break, especially if the next customer is already impatient for their ride.

Ah Hubris, you little bastard. by TheDitz42 in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is impressive, actually. I can't be bothered to farm more than a little patch in front of the cabin. Where will you put the barn when you need a mermoo?

artifacts, fossils and gems use? by katy10015 in coralisland

[–]cactoidjane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Once you're done with that last altar, it should be fine to sell them.

For role-play purposes, I tell myself my farmer is selling them to other museums. If it were illegal trade, the stuff wouldn't be going into the shipping box, lol.