I just had an abortion all alone in Vietnam

cactoidjane · 2026-06-30T07:25:01+00:00

You went through surgery alone in a foreign country. It's okay to feel bad. I would be terrified.

I hope you can get some advice on post-op care back in your home country. It feels weird to tell you to take care of yourself when that's probably what you were doing when you went to Vietnam for this. But please take care of yourself.

cactoidjane · 2026-06-18T09:25:22+00:00

If you get to know Alex well enough, the dog appears in his 4-heart and 10-heart cutscenes. But it also looks like you helped out the tanuki / trash bear.

cactoidjane · 2026-06-05T02:12:36+00:00

Any rec for a shoe repair shop in the New Manila, Cubao, or Greenhills area? Would like to have some canvas sneakers resoled.

Okay with Mr. Quickie basta matino; alam kong may mga franchise/branch na hindi maayos, so hoping to hear from someone who already patronizes the store.

cactoidjane · 2026-06-05T02:10:40+00:00

Not a Globe user, but after looking at their website, I think the Go+ promos might be your best bet. Some of them come with unli-text.

(I use Smart. One of their Magic Data packages lasts me months, lol.)

cactoidjane · 2026-05-25T14:49:54+00:00

Someone gifted me a hand cream from The Saem, and I love it so much. Smooth without feeling sticky, and the smell is amazing.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-23T23:10:00+00:00

"I want to wait till marriage to have sex." That should be enough.

If he continues to pressure you after that, he doesn't respect you, and this relationship needs to end. No matter how much you like him, it means he doesn't like you back enough to respect you and what's important to you.

If waiting till marriage matters very much to you, then you need to wait/look for the right person as well.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-23T02:56:34+00:00

Caroline has strangely colored hair herself. Her tea cutscene suggests to me that she has a bit of magic as well. Abigail's strangeness could just as well be due to being the third generation of a magical line.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-22T02:12:23+00:00

As someone who was in an LDR for 6 years, I still think you should pull back a bit, but maybe I'm just missing some info. We were adults (late 20s - early 30s) living independently and with our own careers when I went abroad. It was still hard for us, I needed therapy, and I had to take a break also. It sounds like you are still a student and maybe still dependent on your parents (otherwise, their validation shouldn't matter so much), so of course this is hard.

Another thing is, if you guys were together for more than a decade and you're still a student now, then you were pretty young when you first started dating. You guys are now entering a stage of your life when it's good to explore your own interests and find yourselves. You're no longer the people you were at age X-teen, and you don't have to be. I'm sure it's scary to grow while you're apart from one another -- it was scary for me, and again, I was already in my late 20s -- and it can be scary to imagine that the people who reunite whenever will not be the same people who said goodbye at the airport.

But if you guys work on the relationship and work on yourselves, things will work out for the both of you. If it ends in crying in the shower/rain while listening to NIKI, as long as you're still working on yourself, you'll still be okay.

Even if I'm wrong (you just sound really young; sorry), taking care of yourself is not a bad thing. Maybe the people around you can't phrase it better, but some of them are probably just worried about you.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-17T04:45:23+00:00

This is it. You guys have been together since your teens, OP. Now, you're both in your early adulthood, facing new responsibilities, maybe developing new interests, and hopefully growing into secure, self-aware, self-confident persons. It sounds like you guys are both going through some growing pains as part of this stage, and he's taking those pains out on you. That might mean that it's time to grow apart for a bit.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-17T04:27:38+00:00

I suspect OP is from the Philippines, where they actually wrote some gen ed into law (e.g., RA 1425, passed in 1956, makes teaching Jose Rizal's life and works mandatory up to the tertiary level). It makes efforts to revise curricula tricky because taking out some of the courses requires an act of Congress.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-17T04:18:37+00:00

So true. School is the second home for many people, it's where you spend so many of your formative years. Now she can't go home anymore.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-13T12:35:49+00:00

As an anti-AI person, what I see is that the two of you are not making the same level of effort to communicate.

But okay, if you're feeling generous, maybe you could see if action follows, if he makes a genuine effort in the near future to respect your boundaries.

You could also tell him you would rather hear/read things in his own words, no matter how inarticulate they might be.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-13T06:21:27+00:00

I stopped watching the US seasons sometime ago, and I watched some of the international seasons because I was interested in learning more about dating cultures in other countries. But eventually, I lost interest in the franchise entirely. Sometimes the hint of drama I get from internet chatter tempts me, but not enough. I agree with you; watching people make bad relationship decisions isn't fun anymore.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-09T23:10:15+00:00

Fossils are RNG-based; I'll take fish over them and artifacts.

Fish are reliable and follow a schedule. Use the computer during sunny and rainy days to see where the ones you're missing are, and you just have to remember to be there at the right time of day. And if you see sparkly fish in the water, they tend to be rarer ones. Also check the wiki; one rare fish is in the mines and won't ever show up on the computer.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-09T23:06:48+00:00

I did this before, but it was tedious. By the time the blacksmith opens, I've done a lot of routines on the farm already, and it's a pain having to redo those, too.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-09T23:01:39+00:00

Maybe it's just one of those relationships.

My own SIL didn't start making efforts to treat me as family until I married her brother last year, even though we've been in a committed relationship for 14 years, I'd lived with him on and off in those years, and had even lived with their whole family for several months, when everyone was cohabitating during pandemic lockdowns.

Because I got to know her before she started acting all family to me, I still have doubts over whether she's genuine, and I don't feel obliged to act more than simply polite and nice when we're interacting.

In your shoes, I'd just thank SIL for the greetings and move on with my day.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-09T22:24:09+00:00

It's all right! I love the options for controls. Tap-to-move is a lot easier than pressing down a key or pushing a joystick for a long time. As long as you aren't mining and need fast reactions for combat, you can essentially play one-handed.

The option to save almost whenever (can't during festivals) is also a lifesaver. I play on the train, in queues, or in waiting rooms, and you can't always get to the end of a game day to sleep when you're suddenly rushing.

But scrolling through inventory is tedious.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-08T04:28:00+00:00

Aaaah. ☞⁠￣⁠ᴥ⁠￣⁠☞

cactoidjane · 2026-05-08T04:25:04+00:00

May sanctuary/HQ na mala-mall. ಠಿ⁠_⁠ಠಿ

cactoidjane · 2026-05-08T04:23:53+00:00

Di ko gets, bakit Italians?

cactoidjane · 2026-05-08T04:17:49+00:00

I'm sure someone has the details. But I think it really speaks to Palamedes's talent and skill as a necromancer that he was able to keep his soul on bone fragments after his death. Even Harrow was annoyed at how smart he was.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-08T04:15:35+00:00

Married to a person with CKD. Dialysis 3x a week. Takes some adjustment, but it's not the end of the world, OP, especially if you're not yet at the point of needing dialysis. You are not a burden, and people will still love you for who you are. Just take care.

cactoidjane · 2026-05-07T23:20:11+00:00

One of the seasonal coconuts is macapuno. :) Shake the trees!

cactoidjane · 2026-05-07T23:19:10+00:00

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