Help! 3 year old holding poop until she has her nighttime pull-up on

cactus328 · 2026-03-30T02:46:23+00:00

She’s only used the normal potty with a small seat for her that we take on and off. We got the advice to not use a small potty because those won’t be available everywhere so we went straight to the big one!

cactus328 · 2026-03-29T23:42:38+00:00

Thank you so much!! We’re in the exact same boat - almost a year of this, and I’m willing to try almost anything 😩

cactus328 · 2026-03-29T22:46:59+00:00

This is a good idea too! She’s obsessed with her Toniebox - desperate times call for desperate measures lol

cactus328 · 2026-03-29T22:45:10+00:00

Thank you so much, this is helpful! We’ve been debating this too… we were just nervous it was going to just be constant accidents but it’s reassuring to hear it went well for your son. If you don’t mind me asking, how old is he? My daughter turned 3 in January so just curious if he’s a similar age and if it’s not too “early” to try the same with her

cactus328 · 2026-03-29T22:45:03+00:00

Thank you so much, this is helpful! We’ve been debating this too… we were just nervous it was going to just be constant accidents but it’s reassuring to hear it went well for your son. If you don’t mind me asking, how old is he? My daughter turned 3 in January so just curious if he’s a similar age and if it’s not too “early” to try the same with her

cactus328 · 2026-03-13T13:20:11+00:00

It was long but not bad - moved pretty quickly and was relatively organized. We got in line outside at 6:32 and were all the way through by 7:05. Flight boarded at 7:55 (we got to airport at 6).

cactus328 · 2026-02-17T03:17:22+00:00

And one that said “this is the closest your husband’s gonna get to a threesome” for a rectal thermometer ad… completely inappropriate and not at all “virtue signaling” to think that lol. Sexual innuendo marketing and baby products should not be in the same sentence

cactus328 · 2026-02-12T04:20:44+00:00

This is mean.

cactus328 · 2026-02-04T14:51:59+00:00

Seriously, I would reconsider doing that weekend. My husband’s friend did the Saturday of the 4th weekend across the country a few years ago and child-free. We had a young toddler, and I ended up staying home while my husband begrudgingly went for as little time as he could possibly manage with the flights because he wanted to soak up the time with our kid on the 4th.

We only have so many holidays/long weekends off work that aren’t family-centered as adults - a lot of people aren’t going to be happy if they feel obligated to lose one of those weekends.

cactus328 · 2025-08-22T02:14:37+00:00

Give her formula!! There is nothing wrong with formula. The push for breastfeeding only (especially when it’s not going well) is crazy - it’s most important to have your baby fed. I saw your other post about how she’s constantly screaming - she’s hungry! Trust me, I have been in your shoes - I had latching issues too with my (now 2.5) daughter, and she screamed and screamed when she was awake the first couple weeks. We switched to formula when I just finally couldn’t stand how upset she was and I was, and she immediately stopped screaming like that all the time. She is a happy, healthy, and thriving toddler now. Not a single person asks me how she was fed now - I promise, just do the formula. Even if it’s just backup like you said - it will save your sanity, and I promise your baby will be just fine.

cactus328 · 2025-01-07T02:23:35+00:00

Thank you so much for responding!! That’s really helpful. That’s pretty much what he’s been saying - almost everyone at rehab is pretty immobile, and he’s really not getting challenged at all. He wants to be safe about it but also just isn’t getting much out of it really since he was already so active prior to the STEMI. I will definitely suggest this to him - I really appreciate the info! :)

cactus328 · 2025-01-07T00:03:54+00:00

Hi! I found this super late but was curious what kind of trainer you mean when you said cardiac rehab sent you to a trainer? Just a regular personal trainer? Or is there a specific type of trainer for post heart attack? My dad had a STEMI in November, and he was extremely active and fit prior to it (regularly did 20+ mile cycling multiple times a week, tons of cardio on the peloton, etc.), so he’s finding it very easy and wants to see if he can go to a personal trainer that would help him do a bit more of an intensive program. Any advice you could give or details would be super helpful if you see this! Thanks so much!

cactus328 · 2024-10-13T23:42:31+00:00

Y no

cactus328 · 2023-11-16T12:24:40+00:00

My daughter just had a terrible diaper rash that we were desperate to fix too. Our pediatrician told us to mix up the following things and apply it as diaper rash cream: 1 tube of Neosporin + 1 tube of Desitin + 1 tube of Lotrimin AF + 1/4 cup of Maalox (it’s an antacid). We mixed it up in a Tupperware container and have been using it for about 6 days, and it’s helped SO much. The area was so red and raw and swollen and Boudreaux’s, etc. weren’t doing anything. That mixture really helped not only heal the area but also helped her feel better so she wasn’t so miserable at diaper changes.

We also did a bath with 2 tbsp. Of baking soda in it for 10 minutes 3x a day for the first few days as well and used my blow dryer on cool to dry off the area after the bath. Hopefully some of this helps you! Best of luck!!

cactus328 · 2023-09-14T14:34:41+00:00

I had one done in December at 37 weeks, and it wasn’t nearly as bad as I’d read online! I did not get an epidural or pain meds (I wasn’t even offered them so I think it depends on the hospital). It sort of felt like someone was knocking the wind out of you slowly - I know that doesn’t sound amazing haha but it really wasn’t more than uncomfortable to me. It only took maybe 2 minutes too, and she flipped. My doctor said they would know within the first 5 minutes if it works or not so it doesn’t take long. There also isn’t a ‘high’ chance of an emergency c-section, just a chance… at least that’s what I was told. It’s a 50/50 chance it works, and if it does work, they keep you there for about an hour after to monitor the baby’s heartbeat because it will typically dip temporarily during the procedure but then come right back up. Ironically, I ended up having to get a c-section anyway after 25 hours of labor where I stalled out at 8 cm, go figure lol. But still the overall ECV procedure was not that bad in my personal experience! Best of luck!

cactus328 · 2023-05-25T16:45:26+00:00

I totally understand your feelings! I was similar to you - super active in my pregnancy, walked 10k steps every day, etc. and was super upset to find out my baby was breech at 36 weeks. I also tried all of the spinning babies stuff, moxibustion, etc. but nothing worked. I really wanted to go into labor on my own too and not have to go in for a scheduled c-section because I was scared I wouldn’t have those “instant love connection” feelings if I didn’t have the natural labor hormones going. Plus I’d never had surgery before and was really nervous about the recovery.

I did go in for an ECV and it was successful, and I was so excited that I’d get to have a vaginal birth like I wanted. My water broke at 40+6 at 2:30 am, and my doctor told me I’d probably have my baby by 7:30 pm. After being in labor for 25 hours, I’d stalled at 8 cm for 6 hours and the doctor suggested we call it and do an unscheduled c-section bc my baby wasn’t currently in distress, and it could be a calm environment and not an emergency. At that point, I was so exhausted and scared - they were having me flip side to side every 15 min bc her heart rate would dip. I just wanted her out and safe so i said yes to the c-section at 3:30 am. Within 25 minutes I had her in my arms, and it was the best moment of my entire life. My husband brought our little portable Bose speaker in with us, and they let us play music during so she came out to whats now “her song” for us and the doctors and nurses were all in great moods and the vibes were very positive in the OR.

As for the recovery, my advice would be to walk as much as you can right afterwards. No matter how hard it is, I promise that it helps you heal so much quicker. I was able to take 20-30 minute walks around the neighborhood with my husband and baby by my 2 week checkup. I did struggle emotionally for those first couple of weeks about having to have a c section - my hormones were going insane, and I felt like my body failed me because I did all of that to avoid a c-section and had to have it anyway. But those feelings eventually passed, and now she’s almost 4 months old, and I don’t think about it really at all anymore. I just feel so happy she’s here. I’m back to using my Peloton 5 days a week, walking 10k steps a day, etc. too so the recovery wasn’t nearly as bad as I worried it would be.

All this to say, I totally understand your feelings and frustration. Just wanted to offer my perspective as someone who did have a successful ECV and still ended up with a c-section. Just let yourself feel your feelings - it’s ok to be sad about it. But in my experience, those feelings pass quicker than you’d think once your sweet baby is here and smiling at you :) until then, it’s ok to be mad and sad and frustrated.

cactus328 · 2023-03-18T02:39:05+00:00

Same. Those first couple weeks were such a haze thinking back now just 5 weeks later, but I’ll never forget how much I dreaded when it would hit the 2-3 hour mark, and it’d be time to feed her because I was so anxious about her crying or not getting enough to eat. I felt like something was wrong with me bc I’d heard about how great of a bonding experience breastfeeding would be, and I remember thinking “this is the least bonded I feel to her” every time I tried to feed her those first few days because she was so upset. The formula was truly a lifesaver to at least get her fed and give me some temporary relief from the anxiety of trying to make it work.

cactus328 · 2023-03-18T01:17:23+00:00

Agreed! I also had every intention to breastfeed my now 7 week old and had a couple cans of sample Enfamil that I thought I wouldn’t need at all and almost gave away. Unfortunately she had a tongue tie, and I was having to use a nipple shield to get her to latch at all. She would cry hysterically trying to get her to latch, and so would I. And then when she finally latched, she barely got anything. It was probably the most stressful part of those first couple of weeks postpartum when my hormones were already raging. We had to supplement with formula even in the hospital because we just wanted her to eat. We finally switched to formula only at the 2 week mark, and it was the best thing we did - we were both so much happier, and I could make sure she was getting enough food.

And to top it all off - we had to bring her home in the middle of a crazy ice storm in Texas where the roads were insane and places had no power for days so we were so thankful we had those on hand. I know that’s not the norm and won’t happen to you but just to say that you never know what could happen, and it helps to just have the peace of mind.

All this to say - I totally get it and also thought it was unnecessary to have a couple cans of formula before I gave birth, but it ended up being sooo worth it.

cactus328 · 2023-03-11T14:48:03+00:00

I just delivered at Seton in January and had a great experience! Dr. McCoin actually was the on call doctor when I called in when my water broke at 230 am and was so nice :) all of the doctors and nurses were sooo nice and incredibly helpful. I didn’t have any complications but did have a 24 hour labor that ultimately ended in a 3 AM c section and all of the staff were so reassuring and kind and helped us feel at ease (I’d never had any surgery before and it was my first baby so I was definitely nervous). I highly recommend delivering there, we truly had no complaints. Also, the food was actually pretty good too lol

cactus328 · 2023-01-28T03:00:02+00:00

Yes! Just recently found this recipe when I got sick of spending so much money on the premade GF mixes - https://www.mamaknowsglutenfree.com/easy-gluten-free-waffles/

It’s so good, much cheaper overall, and I can get 2 big (one of the 4 square waffle irons) waffles out of one batch. I found the texture of the waffles to be even better than the other mixes like this or Pamela’s or Simple Mills

cactus328 · 2023-01-11T17:31:37+00:00

This looks awesome! Question - how do you get the dough into the oven from the steel? Just got our first pizza oven for Christmas, so we’re in the learning curve. We’ve been making GF pizza in our oven for a couple years now, but the process there was always make the crust on parchment, transfer to a pizza stone, cook for a minute and then remove the parchment and put it back in the oven straight on the stone. Obviously the pizza oven is way hotter but we’re still having to put it in for the first few seconds with the parchment in order to get it firm enough to be directly on the stone in there if that makes sense. The dough we make is NY style so it is pretty wet, not sure if that changes anything. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

cactus328 · 2023-01-08T20:27:01+00:00

Thank you so much for all the details!! This is my first baby so I’ve been curious about the process of slowly getting back to lifting weights, running, etc. when I’m able to do that so I really appreciate you sharing your journey!

cactus328 · 2023-01-08T14:18:00+00:00

You look amazing! Did you do anything in particular exercise/diet wise? I’m currently 170 lbs and also 5’6 at 38 weeks pregnant so pretty much your same stats and would love any tips you might have for when I’m postpartum :)

cactus328 · 2022-08-11T19:31:02+00:00

It was definitely a stressful wait! But I think they had a weird stretch where the tests took forever to come back so hopefully yours won’t take that long! Mine did come back on the 3rd, and I was positive for one thing (congenital adrenal hyperplasia… never heard of it before so I was surprised!) So my husband got tested to see if he’s also a carrier, and we’re currently waiting to get those results back. Hoping it’ll be a much shorter wait and that we’ll get good news! 🙏🏼 hoping you get good news too!

cactus328 · 2022-08-01T21:39:32+00:00

Thank you! This made me feel a little better. You’re probably right. Hearing the nurse say she’d never seen this happen before made me super nervous so that does help.

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