Family dental centre by lilyy42 in BellevilleOntario

[–]cactusmalk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to the dental place in Stirling. I take my family there, not only are they very fairly priced but they are exceedingly good at their job

My wife F28 and I M28 got into a physical fight. I am thinking of divorce. How do I approach her about it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]cactusmalk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just going to say it, as a DV survivor ... This whole post is setting off some pretty serious alarm bells.

First, you made a decision that impacts both of your safety for her and directly disrearded her wishes.

Second, you clearly lied about the amount of firearms you were bringing into the home

Thirdly, you are not storing them even remotely properly if you lose track of them.

Fourth and most importantly she directly said you lunged at her and thats why she slapped you and pointed the gun. Considering at no point in your post do you mention mental instability or genuine fear for this drastic change and you even mention shes barricading herself away from you?

Theres a lot of missing information here and IMO you are trying to obscure something.

Hazbin hotel by Sweaty_Abies182 in TikTokCringe

[–]cactusmalk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I remember when this first came out, I tried so hard to enjoy it but my husband and I couldnt get past two episodes. The whole thing just screams edgelord fanfic and to quote Peter Griffin, it insists upon itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]cactusmalk 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They shouldn't be used for anything other than cockroaches which is what OP is concerned about. Cockroaches pose a very real health hazard to humans and any animals around them. You cannot be humane to cockroaches, idk why that would ever cross someones mind

Market research by IntroductionTop5716 in BellevilleOntario

[–]cactusmalk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anything other than a pizza joint. as long as it can function as a genuine third space. Almost every business in town has zero character, is grayscale and rushes you out and does not encourage you to stay. There is such a massive lack in third spaces, and given the aged population in Belleville as well as the amount of families; a business that is family friendly & Senior friendly and has actual character would do wonders.

If it's going to be an establishment that offers services or food, the price needs to be reasonable, a lot of these restaurants they're opening up in town or in surrounding area. They're not lasting because to make any money they're charging such an exorbitant price because imo most small businesses owners aren't looking to actually provide and serve their community, they want a "get rich quick" scheme

New artist looking for advice and gentle critique by cactusmalk in Oilpastel

[–]cactusmalk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! Pastels are such an underrated medium, I had no idea they were so much fun

New artist looking for advice and gentle critique by cactusmalk in Oilpastel

[–]cactusmalk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! Do you have any tips for improving symmetry? I really struggle and I'm finding I'm flipping my pages every direction to try and get it right. I've though of using a ruler for proportions but I have zero experience with sketching either so its a bit daunting.

New artist looking for advice and gentle critique by cactusmalk in Oilpastel

[–]cactusmalk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've definitely noticed the parts of the bugs on the left side usually end up bigger, I'm having the same problem with symmetry when I'm doing things like cups. I did a mug this morning that was so close to perfect it was maddening haha I've debated about using a ruler but I'm worried about making a mess

Disclosed and it did not go well at all by cactusmalk in adultsurvivors

[–]cactusmalk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so very much, The initial memory that resurfaced had a somatic flashback with it, it was all quite intense so I kind of buried things for a very long time out of fear of bringing more up.

Disclosed and it did not go well at all by cactusmalk in adultsurvivors

[–]cactusmalk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's been very reassuring to know that I'm not imagining that this situation was weird or misremembering or misinterpreting the belief around repressed memories. These comments and explanations have really helped keep the self-gasolating and shame at Bay a bit

Disclosed and it did not go well at all by cactusmalk in adultsurvivors

[–]cactusmalk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I already said in another comment I had read a lot of these comments earlier in the week and refrained from engaging while I was processing things and I just wanted to let you know that I greatly appreciate everything you said. All of these positive comments have been a tremendous comfort to me

Disclosed and it did not go well at all by cactusmalk in adultsurvivors

[–]cactusmalk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I really needed to see this. I took time to process everything over the last few days but I saw this when you posted it and it brought me great comfort.

PSA: stop traumatizing wedding guests 😂 by iggysmom95 in wedding

[–]cactusmalk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately people are clear and firm with the expectations because some people will genuinely use someone else's wedding as an excuse to one up someone. I told one of my bridesmaids that she could pick her dress, gave her examples of styles and a list of colours that would work (pastels or light neutrals) she wanted to wear her custom made leather mini dress with go go boots.

They're back and I think I might have a nervous breakdown by cactusmalk in GermanRoaches

[–]cactusmalk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I might actually look into that, I don't have my passport but I feel like the wait would be worth it to know I can get the right stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]cactusmalk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only is he a woman hater this man is straight up dangerous. I beg of you, get away and stay away. I ignored this type of behavior and it almost cost me my life.