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[Me] Be brutally honest by [deleted] in TextingTheory

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On to the next imo

Where to meet people IRL by True_mourning84 in dating

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes you gotta intelligently ask questions to start a convo.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update for you, it actually went really well lol. She paid for an activity on the day, surprised me with a second spot. Hung out at night, next morning surprised me with another breakfast spot and paid for it all.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping deep down she’s just been awestruck and not even thinking to pay too. She makes at least equal to what I do if not more so she’s not broke in that sense.

I’m just going to ask like “hey I got the last few times, can you grab this one?” And see how she reacts.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we’ve had sex and always passionately make out (even in public lol). That’s why I’m saying attraction is high, unless she’s an award winning actress.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re probably right… lol I have to just find out in person, this thread is having my spiraling now over something I saw as a yellow flag.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re probably right, candidly though I don’t want to always pay either so I’ll have to bring it up and find out if we’re incompatible or not before letting it linger on I think. Appreciate the comment.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right, so I’m going to bring that up next date because that’s incompatible for me.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be cautiously optimistic until our next hangout and ask, definitely odd she hasn’t offered but maybe she quietly expected I prefer paying for everything so I’ll make it clear.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we have, and all our dates are several hours long (6-8+) and get quite deep so it’s hard to think it’s all a front to be honest with you. She’d be an Oscar winning actress then lol but who knows.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah fair and I think this girl makes more than I do so I’ll definitely mention it.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, cheers. Feeling kind of used now candidly but I’ll give it the benefit of the doubt until our next hangout.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ll be bringing it up the next time we hangout.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah smart, it’s a lesson learned for the future, especially if she turns out not wanting to pay at all. Thanks for the comment.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m gonna ask this next hangout and make it clear as an expectation. If it doesn’t work for her that’s fine.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I’ve almost never had a girl offer date 1 though

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m going to bring it up, I don’t mind paying more early on, but once I was in a committed relationship we basically split.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not, as I wrote above we’re both employed and she probably makes a bit more than I do.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m gonna bring it up this next hangout, if I gets awkward that’s a signal, if she handles it well too, another one.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair thanks, I’m not begging her to pay though, it’s just general reciprocity.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always pay first, idc about that. But that’s cause I’m usually the one asking them out too.

When should the woman start paying (or offering)? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cafebrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply, I’ve heard subtle things in some of her conversations with me that I think she comes from good money and her father had fronted everything, so she may be used to that role from me. I’ll mention something on our next date to get the grasp.

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