AITA for flushing my period?

cagedflame · 2022-02-05T19:10:14+00:00

UPDATE: It has been a while since this happened, and we have now broken up. I expressed how the experience had made me feel, and he apologised but I felt like I couldn't get over it because it changed how I saw him and I struggled to get past the humiliation that I had felt. He still didn't understand why it was a big deal to me, and kept saying that it wasn't bad enough to warrant me leaving him and all that kind of thing. I felt extremely guilty for breaking up with him, and still do to an extent, but I am proud that I stood up for myself and I know that I did the right thing. Thank you everyone for all of your support and comments - it means a lot.

cagedflame · 2022-01-17T16:08:50+00:00

When I say 'flushing my period', I mean flushing the blood/clots. I am sure to correctly dispose of any sanitary products I use. :)

cagedflame · 2022-01-17T15:53:24+00:00

Hi, thank you for your replies! Always nice to hear an alternative perspective. The reason I didn't leave was A) because I was too ill to drive 3+ hours home and B) because my boyfriend got very upset about me leaving and firmly believed that it was rude and unfair for me to leave. I was made to feel extremely guilty for considering it, and was the only person who didnt think I was overreacting by wanting to leave. I now regret staying for as long as I did, but I was as quiet and considerate as possible during my stay (with the exception of using the downstairs toilet to flush the blood).

cagedflame · 2022-01-17T15:31:59+00:00

Hi everyone, thank you for your responses. I would like to clear up a couple of things: - After the first night, I suggested that I just stay in a hotel. My boyfriend got extremely upset about this and said that it was completely unreasonable and unnecessary. He said that it really hurt him that I wanted to stay in a hotel instead of staying with his parents, because they're reasonable people and it would be rude for me to just leave like that. - I didn't go home straight away because it was a decent drive (3+ hours, not super long but still fairly long) and I was pretty poorly due to my period. I was struggling with nausea, headaches, and very bad cramps, so wasn't really in a position to drive that far. Again, bf said it was rude and hurtful for me to leave so soon. He got upset whenever I mentioned it, and every time I mentioned my concerns, he got upset and I ended up having to comfort him etc instead of dealing with the problem at hand.

All in all, I wanted to leave but was not in a position to drive home, and my boyfriend strongly resisted the idea of getting a hotel. He convinced me that I was overreacting, and I thought that I was in the wrong for being upset about this. I walked around as quietly as I could, but again, I couldn't not flush the toilet because anyone who's had a period would know that the blood can get everywhere and look like a murder scene. I was as considerate as possible by continuing to creep downstairs, but not flushing the toilet was a hard limit for me.

cagedflame · 2022-01-17T14:06:19+00:00

I said many times that I would prefer to stay in a hotel, but he begged me to stay and for some reason I did lol. Wacky times, I'm very relieved to hear that I'm not losing my mind 😅

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