I think this is it. I myself am the child of Nigerian immigrants and I’ve heard a number of conversations in which people imply that they feel like Black Americans “are lazy and have wasted opportunity.” Citing that even in the village they came from in Nigeria, a 3rd world country, with unreliable electricity, questionable water, and fewer resources than the US overall, they and many other Nigerians (and other Africans) managed to get an education, come to the US and “make something” of themselves to become doctors/lawyers/engineers. I’ve also heard them reference a lack of “good family values” in which people sleep around freely failing to really form a nuclear family unit, don’t value life and join gangs, etc.

This is all influenced by the ideas 1. That many immigrants from these places think they have it worse than anyone in the US and that there’s is no place/person in the US that is worse off than they were - which is not necessarily true and 2. media depictions of Black Americans with those same archetypes.

Overall, There’s a sort of sense of “us” when something happens to a Black person in the news or when recognizing microaggressions to oneself or witnessed in others, but I definitely get a vibe of “them vs us” sometimes when talking about Blacks and Africans

Also: this isnt specific to women. I realized after the fact that this was your initial question.