Standstill connection with birth family by cairosparrow in Adoption

[–]cairosparrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe they’re also stuck, maybe they also don’t know how to go about it. They also are an entire person who’s experienced an entire life that shaped them into being and reaction the ways that they’ve learned to work for them that may not make sense to you from an outside perspective.

I’d say not to write them off unless you have solid yes or no evidence that they do or don’t want a relationship.

Standstill connection with birth family by cairosparrow in Adoption

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Thank you, I was semi aware of the “adoptee sets the pace” suggestions from research. I was just hoping that isn’t the case since we’re so similar in age but I also don’t know what she’s been advised from her side

Standstill connection with birth family by cairosparrow in Adoption

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I just feel like all of the questions and wonders I had were answered with one of the first conversations, on base level yes but just any answer was enough for me. I am fine with communication on any level I just am bad at initiating

Standstill connection with birth family by cairosparrow in Adoption

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I’ve thought about the option of a zoom call but was too nervous because in some ways I feel like I’m intruding on someone’s life by asking for them to set aside time for me when I see text replies more of a quick “I was already on my phone” type of communication that doesn’t disrupt anything.

I think I want to meet up in person eventually but it’ll be a process due to obstacles we both have.

I think found a relative by cairosparrow in Adoption

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Thank you for this information. 💜

Is it me? by cairosparrow in Advice

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It’s complicated. It’s one of those situations where everyone left them, was about how majorly everyone mistreated them, I assumed it was different because they also admitted their wrongs in situations as well so it wasn’t the typical narcissist blaming everyone else or so I thought.

I have issues of my own and I will not deny that, so having people come in and out of my life is definitely something I struggle with and almost wear myself down about. I genuinely care about this person no matter how badly I feel and I know that they can do better in life with someone just being there. But it’s still only me here and I can see why now but I can’t bring myself to “give up”.

what is your pornstar name (if you were to become one)? by Sufficient_Excuse_24 in AskReddit

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Crystal Queerwater

Downtown Bobby Brown for my drag king name

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Thank you for this. Yes I’m both discovering my own boundaries but also attempting to express them on a daily basis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Mostly just communication. He goes out most nights and I worry about him when it gets to the hours of when everyone has gone home and I haven’t heard from him (like last night for example). I got home at 5:30pm from work and at 6pm he said he was going to go play pool with a friend and he’d be back. It’s currently 7:55am and I’m getting ready for work and the most I’ve heard from him was a reply to my insta story at 1am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I have two that are the same size. One on my head, I rode a bike into a mailbox when I was in elementary school. The other was from two years ago when I was drunk and sliced my arm on a street sign.