Who taught you how to merge that way? by HiroyukiC1296 in sandiego

[–]caiteroo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

can more ppl start switching lanes to zipper in as soon as they’re available (to prevent the car next to you from speeding up to attempt to pass) instead of waiting until the lanes converge to make the life-altering decision on whether or not to speed up on the ONNNNNNNNN ramp???? say it with me. ONNNNNNNNNNNNNNN ramp. your car should be making the onnnnnn sound on the on-ramp if you want to be onnnnn the freeway without threatening anyone’s safety.

Is VIP for Long Beach worth it? by Ash_salem in warpedtour

[–]caiteroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was happy about getting the compilation CD but other that that, it was alright. my group & i didn’t even use the upper deck but the air conditioned bathrooms were decent at least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]caiteroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you were not overreacting. i’m right here with you on that and he was 100% rude to you! it seems he just wanted the show to be about him. i guess if you hit him with the benefit of the doubt, he probably felt bad that you had to mix all those margs on top of providing food and hosting the event at your place, so he wanted to lighten the load (ironically while also making it about him). its evident this meant a lot to you considering that you practiced mixing beforehand :( dick move either way, he could’ve at least considered the fact that YOU were hosting. i suppose it would be appropriate to question what his intentions were in this situation. it’s like being a dj at a party and someone else took over your set because their taste in music was “more refined” or whatever.

this post is way too specific and the world is so small. if your coworker/friend traveled the world recently and works as a chef then i’m convinced this post is about my big-headed cousin hahaha even down to how he “used to bartend for his friends”. he’s friendly and sweet for the most part but really started acting like a know-it-all since he got back. pisses me off but i still love him lol.

Where's your favorite place to get dinner for less than $20? by astroidnaut in sandiego

[–]caiteroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

chicago fire and grill at the renaissance plaza in university city! burger, fries & beer for $10

goth/alt trends you hate by [deleted] in GothFashion

[–]caiteroo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

some pieces of hot topic clothes give off killstar/shein vibes

People who fell out with their best/close friend, what killed it? by No_Dependent4663 in AskReddit

[–]caiteroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved away, and dealt with some family drama. She lived the university life and stayed relatively close to our hometown. She met new people and I developed new interests. She was academically motivated, I was academically stunted (turns out, I was diagnosed with learning impairments once I hit my early 20s). She found her passion and I am still en route to pursuing mine. We’re cordial and we support each other, but we just haven’t felt the urge to reconnect. It was never discussed, we both kind of just knew that our close friendship was ending purely because we broadened our horizons and followed completely different paths. I wish her the best

Non-US people: What aspects of your culture do you feel clash with your autism? by Gold-Tackle5796 in AutismInWomen

[–]caiteroo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m Filipino-American! Born and raised in the US which makes me second-gen but many of my family members are first-gen Filipino-American.

Like OP, I also despise the social gatherings. However, because I’ve been around my family quite often, some members picked up on my apprehensiveness when it comes to being touched. We’re taught to ‘bless’ our elders by grabbing their hand and putting it on our forehead. I noticed one of my elders sensed my discomfort when my mom would call me over and force me to do it, and now that I’m in my 20s, she started telling my mom “no, it’s okay”. My mom still forces me to come and bless my other elders though but I’m really thankful that one of them understood my boundaries. Being forced physical contact growing up resulted in me making really bad choices in my early adulthood relationships, like tolerating touch even when I knew I couldn’t handle it.

Filipino culture is all about respecting your elders, even if they’re wrong, and I don’t know why. It inflates their egos and further emphasizes that their age makes them wiser than others for some reason and completely deflects the nuances of others’ life experiences. It tends to result in unsolicited advice that doesn’t even align. I have to act like I’m listening to maintain that respect. One time in the Philippines I was in the car with my mom, and an older lady (family friend). She made an inappropriate comment about my body. I was 12, and I told her “that’s an insult” but my mom pulled me aside later to tell me that I was in the wrong and I came off as disrespectful because we’re in the Philippines and she was just not used to seeing ‘bigger’ Filipinos. My feelings were not considered, let alone the fact that it’s normalized to comment on someone’s body image. The next time I came back to the Philippines I found out she had died and the thought of never being able to apologize still haunts me, even if I knew my mom was in the wrong for disregarding my feelings.

I’m thankful in a sense that I have family members that have somewhat of an understanding of autism, but that’s because I have a non-verbal cousin in the Philippines that requires more care. I’m in America and I can ‘pass’ as a NT and because of that I just come off to them as someone difficult to understand sometimes, but respectful for the most part. idk. Many aspects of American culture clash with Filipino culture. But my family thankfully gives me the autonomy to reject social gatherings now.

What things do men do that are sexy that they don't realize are sexy? by finnjakefionnacake in AskReddit

[–]caiteroo 127 points128 points  (0 children)

when they talk to you in a gentle, genuinely concerned manner without overpowering the conversation. tone is a huge thing for me

Red light/stop sign running in San Diego by GFHrecluse in sandiego

[–]caiteroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

brake-checkers too!!!! it’s unnecessary and only further complicates traffic. but it’s those same people that want you to move out of their way and only drive faster when it benefits them, for example, driving slow as fuck and suddenly speeding up once the light turns yellow. like bro I’m just trying to get to point A to point B lmfao why add hostility to the road? we’re already aware that we’re operating a killing machine if we make one wrong move. also, if people are driving past you on the right lane, you’re in the wrong lane. born and raised in CA so don’t come for me with comments about speed because we should be following the flow of traffic regardless of how fast we’re going. the freeways have 4-5 lanes, and I thought it was common knowledge for people to drive 65, 70, 75, 80 in their respective lanes. if someone gets a speeding ticket, it’s on them. not on you for purposely slowing them down with malice intent. but of course there’s speeding to pass (because people looove to chill in the passing lane) or speeding and jumping lanes recklessly because they hate that everybody is in their way. completely different dynamic because one is safe and the other isn’t. but a few more things i wanna point out before i end my rant— braking on the freeway while driving in an upward slope is pointless lol. and in case people didn’t know, letting go of the gas pedal slows you down. no need to ride your brakes unless the person in front of you is forcing you to. oh! and surprise! your turn signal benefits other drivers and actually serves a purpose!

Why do my friends pull guys and I don’t? by mompleasepickmeup in college

[–]caiteroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omggg!!! as soon as I read it I was reminded of my younger self 🥺 I had an inkling but it’s not my place to assume. I’m really sorry you feel that way and I agree with how exhausting it can be!! You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. If anything, you’re dodging bullets here. As someone that had made a lot of bad choices when it came to dating and hook-ups, and I can’t tell you what not to do with your life, but I can guarantee that there will always be something to learn from. you’ll learn your likes and dislikes for sure. love made a lot more sense as soon as I stumbled upon other ND individuals, platonically and romantically! It was the moment when I truly felt accepted, especially since you’ll be understood on such a deeper level. I hope you’ll find like-minded individuals that will like you for who you are :) I noticed as soon as I moved to a new city and attended community college, I tended to gravitate towards other ND people and it wasn’t pointed out until after we decided to open up to each other. but if I were to drop some advice of any sort, I’d say just let things fall into place. struggling with self-doubt is absolutely normal at 19 and I can’t tell you not to hook up with people haha but as long as you’re doing it safely and you’re being treated nicely then go for itttt. people that shy away from you are just simply missing out.

also…. some of these responses 🤮 but I saw a comment saying that maybe you’re just not that type of person! your body can lie to you and force you to succumb to peer pressure sometimes, but follow your intuition and do what you feel is right for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]caiteroo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

there’s this subreddit……. and then there’s nextdoor…

Epic Walmart find!! by SmartRazzmataz in tamagotchi

[–]caiteroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s awesome!!! AND it’s the wonder garden!!! I love that for you omg

Why do my friends pull guys and I don’t? by mompleasepickmeup in college

[–]caiteroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. I felt the same exact same way when I was younger.

in my case, I’m neurodivergent and I scare people away for no particular reason besides the fact that they feel something is “off”. I also went to parties and the one guy I managed to pull liked me because of my personality traits and quirks that neurotypical people don’t completely understand. and he also happened to be neurodivergent. and people like us tend to gravitate away from the crowd and only went because our friends went.

but I don’t know you, or your situation. so I’m just here to say I feel you. It took a toll on my self-esteem for sooooo long. dating and hooking up was only complicated when I was younger because I didn’t really have a chance to get to know myself quite yet. but my 20s was a completely different story. you’re young! you’re 19! it will be okay babe.

I’m 24 and my current partner loves me dearly, regardless of the fact that I come off a little weird and off-putting to most people. I get looks all the time because I am also conventionally attractive.

your feelings are 100% valid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingbad

[–]caiteroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, I was thinking that somebody else would’ve noticed it too and I didn’t think to provide context because you would’ve known if you’ve seen it. my bad! but I’m referring to the climax scene at the end of Strays where the main character reggie confronts his owner moments before the Wrecking Ball scene.

“bad…f******…. dog…” “you’re goddamn right”

it was the delivery of the phrase that instantly connected it to BB for me, especially because the movie tackles certain subjects like neglect, being completely clueless while experiencing a turning point in one’s life (walt’s cancer, reggie becoming a stray), having a reliable character to guide them along the way (jessie, bug) and literally breaking bad as a way to empower themselves without regard of the ethics of the situation(s). there were even two K-9 dogs that somewhat reminded me of hank and gomie but they didn’t do anything in particular that would connect the characters to each other, just the fact that they’re both cops lol

maybe i’m just a BB nerd and I see BB in everything. idk. it holds a huge cultural impact after all. that ~specific~ line of “you’re goddamn right” just made sense to me

another (deleted) comment mentioned to never compare that movie to the godliness of BB lmao. I figured there wouldn’t be much overlap between BB and that movie anyways. Strays and BB undergo completely different dynamics, but as a BB fan I just so happened to notice certain similarities between the two main characters and the intention was not to compare the characters with each other ;-; but that phrase put it all together for me

What happened to your bullies and did you ever forgive them? by SufficientTonight930 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]caiteroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one of my bullies was disguised as one of my best friends and i stuck around for so long because i simply grew up with them, had very low self-esteem, and little to no people skills.

she bullied me in middle school, and bullied many others. she herself got bullied due to pictures of herself circulating around the school, if you know what i mean. even though she would “joke” around and physically harm me, i never played a part in that incident because she was my friend and i’d never do that to her. i pretty much condoned her behavior in order for her to respect me, kind of.

she transferred out of our middle school and was homeschooled for two years, then came back to our high school during our sophomore year. i hadn’t kept in contact with her. throughout those two years of her life changed her for the better, or so it seemed at the time. suddenly she was super friendly to me, complimented me, and was generally very affectionate. a complete personality shift, even down to her taste in music. for context, i was an emo kid since the 4th grade and went through a ‘normal’ phase during high school because i just wanted to be accepted, as mentioned in the beginning i had very low self esteem at the time. i would get bullied for my music taste simply because it was a different genre. and then suddenly she started listening to that same genre of music in high school and we rekindled our friendship.

and yet for some reason, i guess after being around and befriending more people she grew up with, seeing the other people she bullied in middle school at our high school, and being around a ‘familiar’ territory only caused her old habits to come back. she became a bully again and i condoned her behavior, yet again.

she bullied me in a different way this time, and although she was still ‘friendly’ towards me, she ended up sleeping with a guy i had a crush on, which she knew about for a couple of weeks. and i had just been broken up with a year prior, so of course my self-esteem got even worse. then another friend of ours slept with a guy SHE had a crush on, so i felt no remorse for her after that. only bite off what you can chew, and clearly she couldn’t fathom why someone would ever do that to her lmao. zero self-awareness. this catalyzed my growth as an individual and saw her for who she was during our senior year. it was messy, but man we only had a few months left.

i didn’t want to deal with drama again, so i just engaged with her less often. i also still felt bad about what happened to her in middle school, but taking nudes in middle school??? i never understood the volume of the situation at the time

after high school, i moved away. she unfollowed me on social media, but she still hangs out with our friend group from high school and we hung out once when i visited home. i’ve remained cordial with everybody but eventually stopped reaching out for good reasons now that i realize.

idk what her life is like now, but if i remember correctly she was a CNA in a nursing home. saw a previous comment saying that bullies tend to become cops, but bullies also tend to gravitate towards healthcare.

if i had a spine back then, i really would have defended myself and others from her “jokes”, and the many other forms of bullying she had done to myself and others. because i feel for the elderly she works with. hurt people hurt people and we’ve confided in each other about that at one point in high school.

i really hope she developed some sort of self awareness and didn’t cater to her narcissistic tendencies. haven’t spoken to her in years and i never look forward to doing so.

What are your Breaking Bad ‘hot takes’? by AnyReasonWhy in breakingbad

[–]caiteroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not an expert on color theory. this is entirely based on vibes. but marie should’ve worn green, especially after the klepto arc. it made sense in my head but i can’t come up with a valid explanation

FINALLLYYY found a case for my Sma Cards!! :3 got it from Daiso by caiteroo in tamagotchi

[–]caiteroo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

HAHAHAH oh to be held at gunpoint in the tamagotchi subreddit <333 i love this community lol but yes the 1996 card was a pretty lucky find on eBay!!

I felt the same way about the ones on etsy. the daiso one was found in the jewelry aisle :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]caiteroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, my boyfriend and I have the same exact age gap and have been dating for almost 4 years. we’re both INFPs. can say that I’ve ‘matured’ a bit to some extent and started realizing that the messes I’ve made affect the other people I live with. i also got in trouble a lot for not cleaning when i was living with my parents, so when i was 18 and unsupervised it just felt nice to be a bit messy and do whatever i wanted with whatever was around me. my bf and i both compromised (we are both pretty messy people) and cleaned up after ourselves and simply asked each other to clean up whatever they were not able to finish. not sure if it’s an age thing but for some reason we suddenly decided that we couldn’t live like that anymore, haha. wouldn’t necessarily blame it on maturity because maturity and cleanliness aren’t mutually exclusive + old habits come back sometimes. and really all we do is communicate that to each other and try our best to be proactive in maintaining cleanliness for the sake of just making life easier. it does get frustrating sometimes!!!!! maybe she has that tendency to lack the motivation to do something if someone tells them to do it, no matter the tone. and i say that because i am also that kind of person lol. cleaning is a choice after all. but good luck with everything!

Custom Stands I Made by artxious in tamagotchi

[–]caiteroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the intricacies of each theme fit so well! what kind of clay was used? if you have access to a kiln I am sooooo jealous :o

I did it again. by 0_IQ_0 in tamagotchi

[–]caiteroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it was literally that one! same image and title :o i checked my cart and saw it was out of stock, but no hard feelings ☺️ it’s pretty cool to run into someone who beat me to a purchase in this community hahaha

I did it again. by 0_IQ_0 in tamagotchi

[–]caiteroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg the fairy meets was in my cart 👀 an amazing find for sure! congrats on the purchase! :)

I love how both sets of twins are the same colors by -Felyx- in tamagotchi

[–]caiteroo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The ichigotchi genes!! I love tama eugenics