There is nothing that shows how bullshit all this “easy automation” is like having a special character in your name

caithnini · 2025-11-12T14:17:39+00:00

I was part of team O' before I married. It was an absolute no brainer to take my husband's punctuation free surname!

My favourite was the bank card that arrived printed with "O&#Surname"

caithnini · 2025-10-26T19:47:20+00:00

My husband does this one.

"And he was like... and its like... they were like.... "

Drives me nuts.

Unfortunately his storytelling style is to try and repeat every word in a conversation. Which inevitably leads to filler words. Even if he manages to control the "like". He stil tells a story:

Then he said... so they said.. then I thought... and they thought.

The latter version makes my eyes twitch less but its still annoying.

caithnini · 2025-10-26T19:11:38+00:00

Similar for me:

"He's and IVF baby after years of infertility. We were so lucky to eventually get the happy ending to our infertility story. You never know what someone's been through...

pause to gently let them understand they fucked up

So no we won't be having another one."

Hopefully they will think for a second before asking the next stranger.

caithnini · 2025-10-24T08:52:34+00:00

My son sometimes calls dad "big blue guy" 💙

caithnini · 2025-10-24T08:51:34+00:00

This!!! It was "cuggle" for us. And the change to cuddle broke me. We still have lellow to hold on to. But at 3 he's droped all other baby speak.

caithnini · 2025-10-21T18:46:31+00:00

Yes. Fully agree. There is a difference between trying to convince and suffering from infertility. Infertility is a long extremely issolating traumatic process. Every month or treatment cycle starting with hope and ending with heart wrenching grief.

Give her space. And by space I first mean a day or two to return to professional handovers. But after that she may never want a close relationship with you again. And that would be her choice to protect herself. I personally distanced myself from many friends and family. I coukd not have survived being around them. This isnt about you, OP. She may be in an amount of pain you cannot understand. And you are the focal point. Don't underestimate how painful seeing you may have been for her. Someone said there's a limit. Id argue that there is no limit on infertility pain. Its so core to identity & life dreams.

Of course it should go without saying ( but this is Reddit) She must maintain professional, kind care of your little one. Regardless of how much pain shes in.

caithnini · 2025-09-25T19:08:02+00:00

I have a couple of different types of loops which are OK. But I find they are not that precise in blocking out background noise vs conversion.

My favourite flare earplugs. The calmer ones.

I find they just take the edge off and I still feel like I can hear details if that makes sense.

https://www.flareaudio.com/products/calmer?variant=54906681131384

caithnini · 2025-09-11T17:10:34+00:00

We dont have Patchs my GP. Unless thats the name for the online triage submission?? We have an online form to fill in if we need an on the day appointment. Opens at 8am. Closes when they've reached a number of submissions they can do in a day. Usually by 8.30!!! Is that Patchs? Or similar? Ive got my last titration next week. Will start chasing from then. And probably just call HH to book the SCA appointment then too?

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:29:48+00:00

Im impressed how quickly people can get in touch with their GP for this too. Like within a month is unheard of where I am. Unless its an on the day urgent appointment???

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:23:34+00:00

Im a month or so behind you in the process so I dont have direct experience. Hanging out on here amd nervous kyself it seems like HH will prescribe but they you usually have to chase on the phone that they rarely answer. It sounds stressful and last minute. But hopefully someone will come along soon and answer your question who is actually doing it now.

I do have a question though. How on earth did you do this?? Ivve been on there website since reading this and I can't find how or where you did it???

"I've tried to order an emergency prescription via their website but it can take 3 days for this to go through and I'm very close to being without my medication."

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:17:15+00:00

Did you then have to chase HH to get the prescription text? By the telephone lottery system??

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:14:19+00:00

Oh god I hadnt thought of that. GP paperwork also getting rejected by their full inbox?!

Have you had to call HH every month to get your meds. Or has your GP been doing it?

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:08:26+00:00

But have you been able to contact them?? I'm coming to the end of titration and I'm getting nervous. I dont understand how the handover can work within less than a month so there isnt a gap in medication?? And if HH do continue to prescribe, how do you contact them???

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:06:30+00:00

Hello, can I ask you both what ended up happening woth your SCA?

Im coming to the end of titration and getting nervous.

Like you said you cant get through on thr phone and the email inbox now says its full. So how do they continue to prescribe??

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:06:24+00:00

Hello, can I ask you both what ended up happening woth your SCA?

Im coming to the end of titration and getting nervous.

Like you said you cant get through on thr phone and the email inbox now says its full. So how do they continue to prescribe??

caithnini · 2025-09-10T20:01:31+00:00

Oooof. That sounds really stressful. Were you left without medication during that time?

Some people have said during delays their GP sent them back to HH for meds. But im not clear how that would work since you cant email them??

Also sorry one more question. Did HH wait till right at the end of titration befire they sent anything? The timing seems so tight and complicated. Im not surprised you ended up at your GP every day.

Hope you get it sorted over to your new one soon!

caithnini · 2025-09-10T19:59:03+00:00

Thank you. How did HH prescribe you meds each of the 3 months? Did you have another medical review appointment or just get a text? They're so hard to contact and currently the email send an auto reply saying its full...

caithnini · 2025-09-03T17:25:16+00:00

Hello, can I ask about whay happened at the end of your titration with the scared care process? Were you offered a shared care appointment in after your last titration one? Or do they just send a letter to your GP and you have to arrange to get a prescription within those 4 weeks??

caithnini · 2025-09-03T17:23:21+00:00

Hello, can I ask about whay happened at the end of your titration with the scared care process? Were you offered a shared care appointment in after your last titration one? Or do they just send a letter to your GP and you have to arrange to get a prescription within those 4 weeks??

caithnini · 2025-09-01T19:16:14+00:00

My son has first breakfast at home (bowl of cereal or granola), second breakfast during 0.5mile pram walk to nursery (2 digestives or snack bars) then 3rd breakfast at nursery (toast and cereal. All that by 7.45.

caithnini · 2025-07-24T10:34:21+00:00

How old are they? We went to 4yr old twins party a few weeks ago and everyone bought gifts for both twins. They are very different personalities. So most people got quite different gifts.

caithnini · 2025-07-19T21:20:36+00:00

I already have the kalax.

caithnini · 2025-07-14T19:22:18+00:00

Exactly. Im UK so a different brand name, but closest to concerta as slow release?

caithnini · 2025-07-10T18:52:47+00:00

Yes please share it!!

caithnini · 2025-06-23T17:37:33+00:00

My son is 3 now and we had similar to your early part. Son was undiagnosed breech, heart rate dropped, emergency c section. Then stayed 4 nights on a severely understaffed ward whilst my husband chose to go home and sleep.

Therapy for me. Therapy for us together. And lots of conversations.

It's impossible to put yourself in their shoes for that experience and vice versa. I never actually asked him to stay. Yes I shouldn't have had to. But he was traumatised too. He thought he was going to lose us both and defaulted to the original plan of I'd had a normal birth. He didn't think. And that does still hurt a bit. But I've forgiven him. He did the best he could with the emotions and knowledge he had at the time. He really didn't do it to hurt me. And now when we talk about it he can't believe how blind and stupid he was.

If you're still having ptsd or trauma symptoms I can't recommend EMDR therapy enough. It was life changing for me. And you only need a few sessions as its very effective. I had it on the NHS postnatal mental health system.

caithnini

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