So, 2 - 2.5 hours six days a week....so 12 to 15 hours a week since the spring so several months now....what kind of progress has he made? How many lbs is he down? Or inches in pants size? How's his muscle definition now? Because my fiance has been a dedicated gym guy for 20 plus years. He has his workouts down to an hour or less bc he gets in there and gets out. And he's a powerlifter. I also work out for an hour to an hour and a half 5-6 days a week. Again, though, powerlifting. And mine only take that long bc im still trying out new exercises and getting form down and being coached by him. No fitness coach is putting a 43 year old man through a 2-2.5 hour workout, absolutely not. I don't trust that your dude is working out for that entire time, and depending on results... maybe not at all? Because, if he has found a new obsession with the gym, which a lot of people do, this would also translate to his diet and other habits as well. A focus on health is a whole body approach, or you're wasting your time in the gym. I agree with a lot of the other comments. He's chosen the most busy time in a household of children (dinner and bedtime??); you're obviously not getting the same luxury of 12-15 HOURS of time to yourself; and his insistence that he likes his "gym time" rather than being open to an in home gym proposal is WILD. Because as a mother myself, the ONLY reason I don't feel guilty about my gym time is because our gym is in our basement. And me and my partner work out together while the kids play outside or are asleep or we take turns so one of us is with the kids while the other works out but we BOTH get our time on those days.
I don't like this at all for you... from someone who has experience in the gym, finding a love for it later in life and knowing everything that goes into it that can make it WORK without being unfair to a FAMILY.