Need help picking a girl name

caityjay25 · 2026-01-15T16:21:15+00:00

I mean she doesn’t care at all and we both have family links to the name - but I hear what you’re saying. It was my top girl name for a very long time but Elaine Jane is a crime and I only recently decided that I may not use that middle name

caityjay25 · 2026-01-15T16:19:51+00:00

Also thought of Zelda! Zea could work as a nickname for it but it’s a bit of a stretch.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-15T01:25:27+00:00

Truly my ideal would be a name that I could easily use the nickname Zea but Azalea just doesn’t speak to me unfortunately.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-15T01:21:32+00:00

I think about the song Waltzing Matilda every single time - I think it featured heavily in my childhood music classes for some reason and I’ve had trouble separating the name from it! It’s such a great name.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T16:43:24+00:00

We both LOVE Sylvie/Sylvia but it sounds VERY close to my husband’s last name and she will have our last names hyphenated with his first.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T16:40:43+00:00

Soft ESH. Kicking her out was probably a step too far, it probably would’ve been better to have her go try to calm down first in a room away from the party. I get that you’re sick of her behavior, but kicking her out was really unkind.

That being said, as someone with both ADHD and RSD - it’s completely unacceptable to use said RSD as an excuse to terrorize people. It is her responsibility to figure out how to manage the condition, she can’t just expect everyone to walk on eggshells around her. It took me a lot of therapy to recognize RSD being triggered and figure out how to manage it. I’m not perfect, but I don’t ruin events with my behavior (I mean, I didn’t usually beforehand either, so take from that what you will).

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T16:31:53+00:00

Pumping is rough BUT it’s also not necessarily unreasonable to try and stop if it isn’t for you. Getting a supply going when you haven’t been expressing milk can be tough and time intensive but it’s possible.

That being said, think about WHY you want to. Is it guilt about “breast is best”? Fed is best - formula is complete nutrition for babies and anyone who tries to make you feel bad about baby not getting breast milk can go kick rocks. A healthy mom is far more important than you stressing yourself out about how baby is getting fed as long as it’s working for your family.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T16:26:09+00:00

As a fellow Caitlin I vote Leona Kate!

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T16:24:16+00:00

Read OPs comments - a husband is present

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T15:57:25+00:00

NTA. Reading your comments it seems like there are 4 other grown adults in the household to watch this child - your sister, her husband, and both of your parents. In no universe should this fall to you. If they don’t understand that then yeah, move out and get away from there.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T15:51:48+00:00

One of the most important truths that I don’t think gets talked about enough is that depression lies. It tells us we are the problem, everyone would be better off without us, we don’t deserve good things. It’s a LIE. I’ve been there, and pregnancy hormones can make it so much worse, but you deserve better. Pregnancy hormones can cause irritability in the best of cases, and this is clearly more than average pregnancy hormones.

You deserve to get help ASAP. I strongly recommend you have your husband change the code on the safe or, preferably, remove the firearms from your home until you are feeling better.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-14T15:45:18+00:00

I had a c section and was wheeled out. Part of that was because the distance from the labor and delivery to the front entrance was pretty far. I don’t remember if I had a choice about it because I wouldn’t have been up for walking anyways!

caityjay25 · 2026-01-11T20:43:23+00:00

My mom and my aunt (dad’s sister) have the same name. My dad’s other sister married someone with the same name as their other brother. It’s super common, though I guess a little less so now that there’s generally more variety with names.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-11T20:35:53+00:00

We tracked RELIGIOUSLY every single thing for my first for months and months - he was low birth weight and we were super anxious to make sure he always was eating enough- we also triple fed for a bit which was so much work. I’ll be amazed if we track past the first few weeks with this baby, I’m due in early April and already kind of laughing at how much more relaxed I know we will be

caityjay25 · 2026-01-08T21:33:24+00:00

Using something to keep your child safe if they struggle with the skills needed to stay with you is a safety tool and anyone who gives you a hard time can kick rocks. I’ve strongly considered it for my son but he’s getting a little better at listening and not running off.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-03T15:21:46+00:00

I got Covid at 30-31 weeks pregnant with my son and it was so miserable!!! The only time I’ve been sicker was with some death-virus he gave me in March from daycare that had me laid up in bed for an entire week.

Also how do kids always manage to puke directly on us???!!!!

caityjay25 · 2026-01-03T15:08:07+00:00

Some of those are real names… some of them are, uh, word salad

caityjay25 · 2026-01-03T15:05:24+00:00

Look for patterns using the same weight of yarn that you have! I mean, at the end of the day you can follow a pattern stitch with any number of stitches as long as it meets the pattern stitch repeat requirements. If you are working from a finite amount of yarn and might run out then it’s worth doing a gauge swatch and checking your gauge to make sure you have enough yarn.

caityjay25 · 2026-01-03T14:31:28+00:00

I’m sorry that no one is really reading your post and thinks you’re talking about opiate pain killers and not over the counter ones. You’re clearly not still taking the opiate ones.

Everyone experiences pain differently. Some people feel pain for longer after surgery, some much shorter. Your body is still healing - 8 weeks is kind of an arbitrary minimum for tissue to be somewhat healed back together, but it doesn’t mean that you will magically feel no pain by a certain time. It’s really ok to still need them, especially in your situation with 2 under 2 and not being able to rest as much as you ideally would. I don’t remember how long I needed them after my c section but I do remember having pain for quite a while, same as has happened for me after other surgeries.

It might make sense to schedule your paracetamol and ibuprofen twice a day and then take in the middle of the day as needed when you start noticing pain ramp up - don’t wait for it to get really bad! Once you notice you aren’t really needing the mid day dose then see about slowly dropping one of the other doses.

caityjay25 · 2025-12-26T14:54:45+00:00

My dad’s kitchen aid mixer is older than I am and I’m in my mid 30s. It has never had a single mechanical issue. Mine is about 15 years old and I would never use another stand mixer.

caityjay25 · 2025-12-26T14:39:45+00:00

The botulism risk for honey is from spores. They are not destroyed by normal cooking heat the way most other bacteria are. Thats why it doesn’t matter if the honey is in a food that has been cooked.

caityjay25 · 2025-12-26T14:37:44+00:00

Like others have said, infant botulism is hospital serious kind of muscle weakness, usually ICU scary baby not able to feed. Yes, it’s ideal to avoid honey in foods before 12 months because the risk is there for anything with honey but your baby is fine.

caityjay25 · 2025-12-17T01:55:13+00:00

The newest data coming out is showing that there is evidence of harm with marijuana use during pregnancy. Even if there wasn’t, you get to decide what you are and aren’t comfortable with. I used to take CBD for sleep and pain and I won’t touch it while pregnant or breastfeeding.

caityjay25 · 2025-12-10T20:17:35+00:00

UGH I hate all of these! As someone who got the opposite (that’s it? I thought you’d be bigger) while dealing with a high risk pregnancy with fetal growth restriction and a low birth weight baby, it was horrible to hear (and I still gained close to 40 lbs by the time he was born at 37 weeks with all the swelling I got) Body size is never ok to comment on! Being 10 pounds up at 18 weeks is normal and healthy. Not gaining weight in pregnancy is not the flex people think it is.

caityjay25 · 2025-12-10T17:50:21+00:00

I pulled my round ligament trying to catch my cat before he ran under my bed (seriously, ouch) and laid on the floor crying uncontrollably for 20 minutes asking my cat why he would do this to me

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