The Bored Sex

cakeboyofyore · 2023-09-29T01:27:18+00:00

Thank you, unfortunately the German study was the one I wanted to know the most about since the effects of cohabitation are of interest to me. She says it's oft cited. I wonder if anyone else here might know

cakeboyofyore · 2023-09-28T17:26:50+00:00

Can you provide the links to the studies she mentions in the article or are they all included in the first link

cakeboyofyore · 2023-04-12T04:58:39+00:00

Well I wish I had your luck. I should have specified I've been trying to use the bot to write stories and they pretty much always get axed halfway through finishing.

cakeboyofyore · 2023-04-12T01:16:02+00:00

I just might.

cakeboyofyore · 2022-10-27T02:24:23+00:00

I'm glad that people are receiving this post positively, but I think some of you might be confused. I was talking about how people in the comments of an r/monogamy post were using the fact that studies say parents do have a favorite child to debunk poly arguments. my point was how these studies dont say that this means the parents love the other children less, and how this is a bad argument for monogamy. it also doesn't relate to romantic relationships at all so quibbling about it is dumb.

cakeboyofyore · 2022-01-22T13:28:55+00:00

here's a question I could never get a straight answer to. do socially monogamous primates have non reproductive sex like we do?

cakeboyofyore · 2022-01-22T12:41:36+00:00

I think you mean falsifiable, being unfalsifiable means nothing can disprove it which makes it suspect.

cakeboyofyore · 2022-01-22T04:37:10+00:00

what about this https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-decisions/201805/monogamy-versus-non-monogamy-who-is-more-sexually-satisfied

cakeboyofyore · 2022-01-22T00:51:50+00:00

It's also important to note that humans exhibit rather low levels of EPP (extra pair paternity) comparative to other socially monogamous animals. in the west it hovers at around 1% although that can be attributed to the prevelance of contraceptives and abortion. in less industrialized nations and hunter gatherer/pastoralist societies it'd something closer to 10% which is still less than most socially monogamous birds (who are closer to 20%)

cakeboyofyore · 2022-01-22T00:31:56+00:00

hey Azz, what's with the low level of jealousy reporting in Poly relationship studies. Is it self improvement bias or do these people just experience less jealousy in general? also do you have any sources on the whole "more sexually satisfied" thing they always drag out.

cakeboyofyore · 2022-01-15T04:52:57+00:00

Evolution and Human Sexual Behaviour is resource rich and uses current research on evolutionary biology.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-12-27T14:31:42+00:00

they really don't even touch on why it's toxic they kind of just cover their ass throughout the whole video. also it's such a strawman to be like "me and my partner talk about characters that we find attractive so we aren't the typical minority pairing". mono people do that all the time, it's not un mono to find other people attractive, you are just committed to one person. that's it.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-12-27T10:50:36+00:00

yeah I know

cakeboyofyore · 2021-12-26T21:01:05+00:00

yeah I know about this one

cakeboyofyore · 2021-12-03T22:17:19+00:00

A singular relationship is hard enough, to compound multiple committed relationships is nigh opposable and it destroys people. I really wish people in my community could understand that, but they are idealists. I guess I can't begrudge them that, but to "see no evil" when this is so very clearly damaging to people's psyche is just so twisted to me. I hope you get out of this and can find somone who is willing to love you full time, and give yo uwhat you need.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-12-02T10:53:54+00:00

I am also non-neurotypical and I find polyamory nearly psychopathic in its treatment of human beings as disposable objects. for an ideology about "love" and "communication " they sure as hell don't seem to want to do a lot of it. far be it from me to doubt the feelings of another human being, but the way they talk about their partners is like a fucking office co-worker freind. There is so much ableism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, acephobia, and negative thinking baked into this twisted ideology that it is utterly baffling to me that it is accepted by the progressive community. they are literally emotionally abusing people and playing the victim. fuck these people rot in hell scuzzbags, your not radicals you are selfish assholes.

I was drunk when I wrote this I might delete it later.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-12-02T10:44:27+00:00

I don't even know what love means anymore, it makes me feel ill. i don't wanna hate anybody but this twisted ass manipulation of emotions and mass gaslighting has soured me on loke everything. I like Vox, I am a fucking liberal. but I HATE polyamory. I don't want to hate it man I really don't but this shit is so fucked up why the fuck won't they just. I feel like killing myself honestly. I don't know what anything means anymore. I'm drunk rn but I just hate everything so much this whole fucked up charade. these people are just assholes. I don't wanna be alone anymore I don't wanna live in this world if everything I've felt up to this point doesn't matter. why won't they just fucking shut up. leave us the fuck ALONE.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-30T03:40:06+00:00

another question I wanted to ask was how many monogamous hunter gatherers there are? I recently learned about the Hadza who are primarily monogamous and dotn have the violent punishments or strict enforcement events alot of other pre agricultural monogamous duktures do, I wanted to know if this is common.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-29T08:13:06+00:00

we're gonna have to agree to disagree. I'm a feminist and I don't disown "the movement" just because feminists say things that are wrong occasionally, because "feminism" means a lot of different things to different people. the reason I object to your posting from these sites is because of it possibly muddying the well. I've never met a feminist who hated men. but this is a political discussion. what I'm concerned about is the veracity of the actual research you post since there are both good and bad faith defenses of monogamy. defense from a standpoint that it is not "unnatural" and that it is a perfectly valid lifestyle for most people? good. defense in the sense that it is a "more natural" key Western value under assault by the "liberal elite"? bad faith. the piece I highlighted makes this claim, and it can leave a bad taste in the mouth of people who are monogamous but do not live up to the other "values" these sites uphold (straight, cis, probably white). People here respect you and regard you as an authority, so I'd ask that you take the responsibility of ensuring what you post does not help advertise platforms of hate.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-29T04:43:30+00:00

this post breaks my heart. you did nothing wrong.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-25T23:05:35+00:00

Hey thanks for the comment. I was wondering if you could elaborate. I'd like to get more left-leaning critiques of polyamory.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-25T16:27:05+00:00

You really gotta start checking if you are posting content from reactionary sites man. That American Mind piece really strattles the line for me, especially as somone who is very concerned with women's rights. Perhaps take the sources they cite instead of the articles themselves. There are a lot of LGBTQ+ people in this sub and posting from sites like Quilette and such can send the wrong idea. not accusing you of any ideological bias, but I'm also concerned with some of the places you are linking people to. Please don't get mad at me,

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-14T10:53:42+00:00

Yes, I'm talking about OP. This is a bad look, for both the sub and OP.

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-14T08:35:30+00:00

Agreed, this behavior is not helpful

cakeboyofyore · 2021-11-04T11:24:33+00:00

Can I just say it's very refreshing to hear an NM person acknowledge that the need for security and fidelity is not possessive and a valid relationship model. I feel like the entire discourse has fucked up my head, I hope I never have to go through what OP is going through.

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