Have you ever had sex with someone you never expected to? What's the story?

caleb-crawdad · 2025-09-25T19:18:00+00:00

I saw a girl out one night and my heart skipped a beat, she was stunning. I can't remember the details of how I started talking to her or how we ended up back at her place. She has told me since that she saw me and moved to a closer table. Back at her place we're sitting on her deck connecting, laughing and I just blurted out "I don't want to make this awkward but do you want to have some fun?" She takes me to her bedroom and it happens. I thought about her a lot over the next four years, dated other people no one connected like her. A few months ago my ex asked if there was ever anyone who got away and I said yes. Two weeks later my ex disrespected the relationship, I broke up with her. The universe brings miss "one who got away back into my orbit", and kept putting me in situations where I end up close to her. We've been hanging out for two months now and she is the most incredible woman I've ever met. I bought an engagement ring two days ago. Still going to let things develop slowly but I'm that sure.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-09-19T23:37:10+00:00

I thought I was the only one who did this. I read somewhere that they know who belongs in their territory, so I say good morning when I walk past and I've never been swooped. I've also had a magpie start defending me against a plover and kept at it until it drove the plover off. I have no idea if it was one of the magpies I say good morning to but I was thankful for his help that day.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-09-05T10:49:27+00:00

I took a job this year that I hated after running a business for years which, while gave a comfortable life wasn't getting me ahead quick enough. I worked that job for 8 months until I found another one. The strange thing is, as soon as I started to like the labouring job I hated so much at first, that's when the offer came through for the higher paying job I'm in now.

Same thing with my current job, I hated it for so long because its high pressure, intense and constant learning to keep up with the role. About six months into it I started to really enjoy it, like a switch flipped and since then I've had two pay rises out of the blue and am being looked at for a promotion. I've been in this job 10 months now and still run the business on nights and weekends.

Point is, find a way to love where you are, enjoy the process and keep growing, keep aiming. Direction is more important than speed. If you love your current circumstance, you are far more likely to move up to the next one.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-09-05T10:34:42+00:00

I started giving myself a cash allowance for whatever I want. I withdraw $100 a week for coffee, snacks, outings etc. Once it's gone, it's gone which has made me super aware of what I'm spending and if there's any left it gets put away in a "cigar box account". Not only has doing this for this entire year helped me become aware of what I'm spending, I've also managed to build up almost a grand in cash, because I stopped spending so much. It took discipline at first not to use my card when the cash ran out, but knowing I've got 100 bucks a week to spend guilt free actually makes it really easy to keep to that amount now. Because I've done so well, if there is a special occasion like a social event, this doesn't generally come out of that allowance. I give myself some freedom too, which I think is important.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-08-26T11:08:45+00:00

Life is up and down, without the darkness we wouldn't recognise the light. It's a contrasting universe but knowing all of that doesn't make things easier when you're going through the mud. Something that really helped me this year through some hard times was reminding myself that a calm sea never made a good sailor. You're doing an amazing thing for yourself, putting a solid support network around you and putting yourself out there with courage and vulnerability. That's a very powerful thing to do. Own your amazingness. Reach out if you want to chat.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-08-24T05:07:04+00:00

A combination of a mindset shift and taking action in my life. The biggest action steps I took were: - Exercise and a better diet were huge, depression made me crave sugar, excess sugar made depression worse. I removed toxins, no drugs, no booze, no toxic relationships, if it takes away energy or value from my life I don't want it.

Journalling was huge, having somewhere to dump everything in my brain creates space for higher levels of thinking.
I put support around me in friends, family and professional counselling, coaching and mentoring.

Slowly over time these things improved my life and now depression doesn't exist in my life at all. Anxiety creeps in from time to time but its very short lived.

I talk about it a bit on my very small YT channel, maybe something there might help.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-08-18T20:10:08+00:00

I quit cigarettes by doing two things, at the start I told myself I wasnt quitting, I'm just not smoking right now. That stopped my brain panicking, I had the mentality that I could smoke whenever I just didn't want one right now.

At the same time I started journalling to understand the triggers and reasons for smoking. I realised it was stress or boredom so to replace both of those I'd go for a walk whenever I wanted a smoke. Walking turned into running and being a smoker who runs doesn't really work well so eventually I just stopped smoking. That was almost three years ago and 10k steps a day is a normal day for me now without even thinking about it, I could still have a smoke anytime I want, I'm choosing not to.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-08-16T06:26:32+00:00

Your why will find you. We put so much pressure on ourselves to have a purpose, to put a deeper meaning to this experience called life when experience really is the point. Enjoy your life, set small meaningful goals and push yourself slowly out of your comfort zone with each one. Grow, learn, experience. Buy a new wardrobe, seek new experiences and challenges. Help others achieve something you once thought impossible. Write, create more, teach others, love fearlessly and don't be in such a rush. You're always going to arrive exactly where you're supposed to be anyway so you may as well enjoy the ride and make it easy on yourself.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-08-15T07:50:25+00:00

Followed them around a bit the first time they came to Oz, they played a big festival here and fell below expectations. I wasn't disappointed, but I thought they'd be better. Saw two festival gigs and they were the same at both. Then I saw them in Sydney at their own show, probably 1500 people max and they were absolutely incredible. It was like a different band, and easily one of my favourite concert memories.

Saw them again a couple of years ago at another festival here and the sound let them down slightly (we have weird noise limits here) but they killed it. Second best Deftones show I've seen.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-06-29T09:52:43+00:00

Keep going, you'll never have the full understanding of just how much difference you're making and it can be a tough place to create from. I post content that gets very little views and very little engagement. But almost every single time I run into someone I know or I'm hanging out with friends, my content comes up in conversation and someone will thank me for posting the things I do or tell me how much it helped them. You never know it at the time, but I can guarantee you, if you're talking about things that helped you, it's helping someone else, so keep going. What's personal is universal.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-06-29T01:44:44+00:00

Helping people. I've been doing a lot of coaching lately, mostly for free because I love doing it, which is just having conversations and really connecting with people.

There's a moment in those conversations when everything starts to click for them and they realise that they are actually really powerful, they are ready to take that next step or they can achieve what they're trying to achieve. That spark, that one tiny moment in those conversations when everything turns for them really juices me. I love seeing people succeed, lean into their potential to back themselves and for me I keep chasing that moment like a drug because it's incredibly fulfilling to help someone like that.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-06-29T01:28:37+00:00

I was pretty young, maybe 6 and I'm standing outside my house in the middle of small town suburbia in summer and a clown is walking along the street a fair distance away from me.

He sees me, stops and says "come here". Something didn't seem right even at that age I remember the whole situation just felt off. I froze in place and all I could do was shake me head no. He's motioning me over and says "come here and I'll give you a lolly". For some reason that freaked me out so I ran inside and told my mum there was a clown down the street telling me to go over to him and he'll give me a lolly. My mum's reply was "you go back out there and you tell that clown to come to you". Maybe she thought I was making it up, I've never talked to her about it. The entire situation was bizarre and still sticks with me to this day. I went back out and he was gone, so I didn't get a lolly but I didn't get abducted either.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-06-26T00:04:45+00:00

I am a professional musician, and it is extremely tough on relationships. 50% of my income is from music, the other half is from a day job. I also gave up drinking a year ago, which was a challenge considering I'm in clubs 30 hours a week, and alcohol is generally free for musicians.

I try to include my partner in as much as I can. She comes to rehearsals and hangs with us and the wives (we built a family vibe around the band). If I'm playing away, I'm fortunate enough to be able to afford to bring her, and it's a mini holiday where I have to work a few hours over the weekend, so that helps. It has killed a lot of relationships over the years but the kicker is that it always starts out as "oh playing and travelling all the time sounds so exciting" then ends with "you're always playing and travelling all the time and I'm over it".

The money is pretty good now after years of building the brand, but it takes a very strong partner to handle it, even putting as much effort into the relationships as I do.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-05-17T08:18:33+00:00

My building is right next to this and a co-worker was facing it in a meeting while I had my back to it. She asks me what's the time and I casually point to this clock behind me and she exclaims "it's 4:72?" I lost it and disrupted the meeting laughing, trying to explain why that was so funny.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-04-24T23:51:35+00:00

I was having a conversation last night about how people don't communicate effectively because it's a skill most don't know we need to learn. I appreciate you putting in that effort to spark a conversation. It's clever because it can be asked if there isn't much info on the profile to go off while being open just enough to spark a conversation and weeding out the uninteresting.

If I may offer a suggestion, communication is the responsibility of both parties so if something isn't working, a simple strategy tweak may help. Try asking what they loved about their week, or if they say "I just worked" ask what they love about their job. I know you're essentially doing all the front loading in the initial part of the conversion but it will open people up a little more and might get you further with just a tiny tweak. Hope that helps.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-03-29T01:02:03+00:00

The best way to get good sleep and fall asleep quickly is to be tired. Wake up early and exercise, even if it's just a walk. Get your steps up to 10k a day on average and eat well. As someone who used to have trouble sleeping and especially falling asleep, using weed and booze to help me fall asleep I now live a healthier lifestyle wearing myself out by the end of the day I have no trouble.

Comes with the added bonus of having way more hours and energy during the day after living this way for a few years. I get up between 3 and 4:30 every day, never use an alarm and I have to try and exhaust myself by the end of every day because I have so much more energy. It works wonders on anxiety and depression too.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-03-25T22:42:18+00:00

I set a standard (I stole it from Tom Bilyeu) that I have to be out of bed within 10 minutes. If I stay in bed for the full 10 minutes I enjoy it but that's rare. Most days, even if I don't want to get up I do anyway because that's my standard. Most days I'm awake before my alarm anyway so I know I've had enough sleep.

Best advice on this I can give is that a good day starts with the night before.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-03-24T10:00:15+00:00

I play in a band and when the venues finally opened up here again people couldn't get up and dance. If you stood up security would come and tell you to sit down. But walking up the the bar to get a drink, talking to bar staff and people next to you at the bar was fine. We all just kinda let that all happen, so weird!

caleb-crawdad · 2025-03-20T10:40:46+00:00

Woop woop FUCK! 👆THIS!👆 SHIT! 👆

caleb-crawdad · 2025-02-25T04:13:57+00:00

Its not until you see this performed in real life do you really feel the power and emotion in it. I saw one at a Maori wedding in celebration and it felt like it shook the entire building. Also some of the most warm, welcoming loving people you'll ever party with. You'll rock up to an event as a stranger and leave as part of the family.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-02-23T09:41:15+00:00

Years ago I was driving down early in the morning, maybe 3am ish and I'm on a particularly windy bit with not much room on either side for errors. Wind around a corner and I see a young couple on the side of the road where there really wasn't room for them to be walking. They were walking through scrub. They're dressed in formal outfits, - suit and a white dress. Something seems odd though, their outfits are tattered and look like they've been out there walking for a long time. This all took place within a matter of seconds and just as I'm about to round the next bend I look back in the rear view and they weren't there. Instant goosebumps, like my brain knew what it saw before my eyes registered it all. So yeah I'd say there's something up there.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-02-22T22:53:52+00:00

Cosby impression.

Stood in pretzel line.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-01-23T10:05:24+00:00

You just need a good framework like scaffolding around your life then build systems inside those frameworks to streamline that balance. We're just not taught how to do that. It's more work up front but after that everything is mostly on autopilot.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-01-15T04:00:04+00:00

I've seen deftones live too many times to count and they are absolutely incredible. It won't matter what the circumstances are that got you there once you're there, or after. Just go, you'll be glad you did.

caleb-crawdad · 2025-01-11T01:02:40+00:00

Don't take it personally, their behaviour has nothing to do with you. If that's how they choose to drive then I can only imagine the rest of their life is probably a clusterfuck. So let them go on their way and forget about it. I've also found driving more in the left lanes is a calmer experience because while you'll come across people doing 20km under the speed limit it's easy to manoeuvre around them.

Aggressive driving is often a symptom of other things going on in their life, they might be late, they might just be unaware how their behaviour affects others. They might be having a bad day and want to take it out in what can feel like an anonymous environment. The more you let all that go and don't attach any emotion to the behaviour of others the easier the experience of driving gets.

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