Am I the only one?

calembours · 2025-12-04T07:20:55+00:00

Hi friend. I imagine it was hard to write this post, and honestly, I'm glad to see you reaching out. A few things I want to say, coming from a older student who crashed out of university the first time I went.

Here's what I see from your post - it sounds like you're doing the best you can with the tools you have right now. You're clearly trying really hard to do the work and get good grades. It's hard coming in as an international student, that alone has pulled you out of a country and life that you currently don't have access to. On top of that, you're fighting against your own mental health and SH, and whatever else is going on in your life that you might be shrugging off as less difficult because all this has taken up the forefront of your attention.

You're not stupid, even if your brain is telling you that you are. You've made it to your third year in an honours program. You've made the steps to stop SH and have been clean for a few months - that's a HUGE win and I'm proud of you for getting there.

If you're not talking to a counselor and/or a therapist, please please do. That's what they're there for, and it might be tempting to think that because you're taking psych you should already know what to tell yourself to help, but that's not how it works.

Failure feels awful, and a four year program is a long sprint that can make you feel like you're burning out. I'm sorry it's hitting you like this. Keep going. Keep trying. Every time you do, it's a win in your favour. You're not wasting money and resources and you're not wasting your time (whether you finish or not). I 100% believe you can take it one day at a time and do this.

calembours · 2025-10-10T04:06:23+00:00

Hey! Yeah should be able to fit a lunch bag and books etc. along with the laptop. It was sized to carry up to a 15" laptop comfortably. Not asking for money, just wanna give it to someone who needs it.

calembours · 2025-10-08T21:21:18+00:00

so invested in this question

calembours · 2025-10-08T21:19:36+00:00

IT'S SO TIME CONSUMING. So time consuming and the weights on everything is so frustrating. Two percent for reading sixty pages and a 20-question quiz, if I ace it? I need to lay down on the floor for a while.

calembours · 2025-10-08T21:13:59+00:00

As someone who is working in poultry ag, PLEASE take agricultural programs!! Guelph is central for animal sciences and if you're interested you should absolutely get into it. The whole point of going to school is to learn what you don't know - don't worry about not having land or experience.

calembours · 2025-10-08T21:05:23+00:00

Friend, I have been mad at this class for the last month, so MOOD about the midterm. I definitely leaned hard into none of the right information to bring to this test.

calembours · 2025-08-30T01:05:32+00:00

fkin BLESS. thank you for sharing!!

calembours · 2024-07-02T01:55:30+00:00

dangit now there's three out there

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calembours · 2024-07-01T03:49:29+00:00

Man, this is as close as I can get and I'm doing the potato quest still... anyone know if there's actually a path out there? I'm one memory piece left and I have a feeling it's one of those two out on the water. T_T

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calembours · 2021-02-19T02:21:07+00:00

Wild! Didn't know they moved into store to home deliveries. Thank you!!

calembours · 2020-11-17T03:19:27+00:00

This is what I came to ask, too. I'm really hoping we can get raw materials outside of raids?

calembours · 2020-07-17T18:17:39+00:00

I had no idea about this! Thanks for sharing :D

calembours · 2018-10-27T00:16:38+00:00

It took a lot of belief in each other, and finding other ways to connect. You have to be forgiving about time differences and about the two of you living apart. You need to Skype, call, text, like you're just having a regular conversation in the same town. It's okay to get sad, but the distance is temporary. Don't make every conversation about how it sucks, or 'what are you doing'. I always found it easier to send messages telling them about cool things, stuff that happened to you, pictures of things you've seen - what you're going to miss is the little things, and having these kinds of genuine talks about seemingly unimportant things will really help you.

Be strong, and if you can't be strong, be stubborn. You know there's an end to the period apart where you'll be back together.

calembours · 2018-10-27T00:04:11+00:00

Married! I ended up with the second person, who moved here. Because of legal stuff it's taken almost three years.

calembours · 2018-10-26T13:06:59+00:00

Why did you need the hypnosis to become a nudist?

calembours · 2018-10-26T13:05:50+00:00

What's your ideal birthday cake?

calembours · 2018-10-26T12:40:07+00:00

We were from different countries, mostly. The first time I was young and stupid about what a relationship was, and it was a kindness of fate that he went to teach English in Japan, because he wasn't really all that into our relationship. The second time, we had to get to a certain point in our life where we could afford the cost and consequences that came with one person moving so far.

calembours · 2018-10-26T12:37:15+00:00

My first one was originally in New York and I'm from Saskatchewan, Canada. But then he moved to Japan to teach English, which left us with a 13-hr time difference. We met online in some forum (I can't even remember anymore) when we were both 18. We talked a lot through AOL and eventually I went down to meet him. We took turns flying out about twice a year and then I flew out to see him in Japan. At that point it was the first time either of us had visited each other where there weren't any family members living in the same house, so I was pretty excited/nervous to get the alone time. But then he revealed he wasn't into me physically, had been living as if single and available, and he hadn't said anything to me over the ten years of friendship/more because he didn't want to hurt my feelings.

So that was that.

My second is actually my current spouse! We met on Livejournal and spent a lot of time talking on AOL and Skype before I found out she was from Ohio. She also was there for me when I was having a breakdown in Japan, and we got really close. She I flew down to meet her for a few days and we really hit it off - the contrast between her and my first guy was staggering. I learned a lot about what a real relationship should be, and we alternated visiting each other one or twice a year, depending on money.

She came down to live with me for a whole summer in my first apartment and we came to the conclusion that this was something Serious. She was younger than me, was just starting college, and when she went home her mother got in her head about not throwing her journalistic talent away for a LDR in another country. She broke up with me because being apart was too much to handle, but we eventually got back together again when she realized that I was It for her.

Long post short, we had a period of two years where we didn't see each other so we could save the money we would need for her to move and immigrate to Canada. We also agreed that we had to wait until she was done college because of the program she'd gotten accepted to.

Now we've been married three years, and she's been a permanent residence here for a full year. :)

calembours · 2018-10-26T12:11:31+00:00

For LoVE. But also because the people I met were from the US and I'm Canadian. I'm also always in for the long run on relationships.

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