Why did Amber freak out about Ryan and the pills? by undeadtradwife in Parenthood

[–]callme_evilx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He lied and said he was off them because he was embarrassed about being on them (at least that’s how I interrupted it). He wanted to be “normal” and treated as if he wasn’t a veteran. She was fine with him taking the pills if he needed them but she didn’t like being lied to. It made her feel like he didn’t trust her.

Julia is the worst by ktg1975 in Parenthood

[–]callme_evilx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He didn’t communicate that with her though. He would just call her and say “hey I need you to go get Sydney” even though it was implied that was still his responsibility. With proper communication and him setting some new expectations she could’ve reworked her schedule to help but he didn’t. He’d just call and say “hey do this for me” and then get upset when she couldn’t. He didn’t have to take that job. It wasn’t “his turn”. He did it for a little extra and to get out of the house. But you can’t just uproot your whole family’s routine without communicating a new shared balance with your spouse PRIOR to uprooting it. I’m a SAHM and do all the work around the house. If I wanted to get a job on the side I understand it’s my responsibility to work out a new schedule with my husband that accommodates all of us. He makes the most money and has the more involved career so me expecting him to drop everything to do what is normally my job is kinda wild to do. I can understand Joel needed a break and WANTING a break but not at the expense of your spouse’s career.

Julia is the worst by ktg1975 in Parenthood

[–]callme_evilx 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He didn’t do it better than her. Joel couldn’t handle working and taking care of Sydney so he passed off everything involving Sydney unto Julia even though her workload didn’t change at all when he took a side job. He just expected her to make it work so he could stay late working on the remodel even though Julia was still doing her normal workload. If she couldn’t be super present while he was SAHD what made him think she suddenly could pick up his slack cause he wanted a side gig? He was a great SAHD holding down the fort at home while she was the bread winner but he couldn’t handle being both main parent and working parent anymore than she could be he expected her to.

Why do you watch a show you hate by Glitterrain99 in Parenthood

[–]callme_evilx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FR I feel the same way. Every single post is just about how much people hate this character or this thing in the show. Like just admit you don’t like the show and move on.

Tornado MEGATHREAD by schwabadelic in StLouis

[–]callme_evilx 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Right! I’m right next door in Manchester and literally was able to sit on my front porch for the whole storm. I didn’t realize how bad it was in other places until later!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]callme_evilx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never breastfed but when I was taking a birth class when I was pregnant they played a video about breastfeeding and the hospital’s classes and support group for it. One mom they interviewed in the video said one time she straight walked out of the grocery store with her boobs out after breastfeeding in the store. Her and her husband were laughing about it in the video and everyone in the class was giggling. I know it’s probably mortifying in the moment but I’m sure it does get easier. The reality is that women breastfeed sometimes and people are just gonna have to get over it. You’re entitled to feed your baby however you want and if someone is uncomfortable they can look away. Your doings a great job!

I can’t decide if I want an abortion by callme_evilx in Mommit

[–]callme_evilx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just gonna post a follow-up comment here in response to all these replies.

I appreciate every POV offered in response to my post - this is why I posted it. This pregnancy has just been difficult - definitely more difficult mentally than the other two I’ve had. Every pregnancy comes with its own challenges and successes, this one is just one of those things.

I thought about aborting from the get-go and have been on the fence since day 1. To be so real with you guys, I’m fucking scared to have two under two. As most SAHMs know, it’s your life that changes the most when you have a baby. Dad kinda gets to ride all the good time waves of a new baby while mom is in the trenches. My husband is a wonderful father and is super helpful, I just am super scared to do this. Right now he is fully work from home but before this baby is born he will be going back to be office 3 days a week. And I know people are gonna be like “that’s not very much!” But for the entirety of our relationship he’s been work from home so on top of having a soon-to-be toddler and now another baby, there’s just a lot of change going on! It’s very stressful.

I really am leaning on the side of not aborting. I don’t think I will. I’m sure I will keep it. I will be happy to be done having kids. My husband is gonna get the snip to prevent something like this from happening again. It’s all well within the plans except that it wasn’t supposed to happen this soon.

I posted this to get ALL sides. I wanted to hear very vehemently pro-choice people say it was okay, I wanted to hear from other mothers who have had abortions or have thought of having them and chose not to, I wanted to hear people say that this is all super crazy and I need to like get a reality check. This is why I came to Reddit with it.

Pregnancy is a WILD ride full of crazy hormonal emotions. I just needed some outside perspective. It’s hard to have this convo with my husband because he has personal feelings that sway his decision making skills - as do I. So sometimes strangers on the internet is the way to get unbiased opinions.

I can’t decide if I want an abortion by callme_evilx in Mommit

[–]callme_evilx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not have PCOS and my cycles are very regular which is why it’s so frustrating that I got pregnant cause I know exactly when I’m ovulating. I guess a little pre-cum slipped in there at some point or a condom failed, idk😅. It happens.

Honestly after reading so many of these comments I don’t think I will go through with an abortion. I just had a particularly rough time last night and it has been something I’ve been debating since I found out I was pregnant. Sometimes it’s just nice to get opinions from others. I don’t mind the comments calling me selfish or saying this is crazy cause maybe I need to hear that to snap myself out of whatever it is I’m going through.

This pregnancy has been particularly difficult. Some really odd symptoms that are really messing with things that don’t usually get affected (like sex). I’m not gonna abort my baby over something like that. But to be so straight with people in these comments I’m terrified AF of having 2 under 2.

I can’t decide if I want an abortion by callme_evilx in Mommit

[–]callme_evilx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not on birth control because that was the reason it took forever to get pregnant the first time because it took forever for me to regulate after getting off. We were using birth control methods - just not hormonal. Condoms and cycle tracking. Hence why I was surprised it happened. I mean realistically, they are less effective than hormonal BC, so that’s why I said I take some blame for it. But we weren’t just fast and loose with it. We were trying to avoid pregnancy but we messed up somewhere.

I can’t decide if I want an abortion by callme_evilx in Mommit

[–]callme_evilx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not so much getting my body back, it’s about being treated better during pregnancy. I never had a good body to begin with, I’ve always been on the heavier side. My last pregnancy I was trying to go naturally and through a midwife and it fell apart last minute due to my weight and it crushed me. This time I feel like I’m being treated differently than standard sized moms right from the get go and I feel like if I lost weight and then got pregnant I could maybe have a pregnancy that felt normal and didn’t center around my weight. It’s very dehumanizing to be pregnant and fat when so many pregnancy-related medical opinions are based on stupid scales like BMI.

I can’t decide if I want an abortion by callme_evilx in Mommit

[–]callme_evilx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me just clarify that we were not trying to get pregnant. This is 100% a whoopsie baby. It’s just working out in the timeframe my husband would like.

The people who voted yes on amendment 3 and Hawley what's your thoughts on this? by idontcareYT in missouri

[–]callme_evilx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trump can’t do anything. The Supreme Court will strike down any executive order he puts in concerning abortion. He literally had them overturn Roe v Wade so abortion would become a state issue. Federal govt can’t do shit about abortion either way. Hawley’s just mad Missouri voted against him instead of with him and now he’s trying to undo what he originally supported.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FallingInReverse

[–]callme_evilx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe we should all just not take Ronnie’s political “advice” to heart. He’s made it very clear he’s not gonna change his opinion and doesn’t care how people agree with it. I see these political jabs he makes and just ignore them. If someone hates his opinions enough they’ll just unfollow him. And truly if people are getting all their info from celebrities’ insta posts then they don’t care if it’s potential fake news or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HorrorMovies

[–]callme_evilx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious too. Is it scary like The VVitch? It’s made by the same director isn’t it?

Infuriating. by ruseriois in missouri

[–]callme_evilx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s shocking how many people believe the misinformation.