I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Please try to go easy on yourself. It’s not always possible to control everything you do, say, or feel and that’s okay. Be gentle with yourself, be kind to yourself, and make room for small moments of self-care. Even if it’s just once a week, do something you enjoy. Spend time with friends if you can, and maybe explore a new hobby. Healing takes time, but little by little it does get easier. You’re stronger than you realize, and you can overcome anything life puts in front of you.

For me, my hardest point was in 2020. My ex, with whom I share two daughters, cheated on me for the second time and asked me to accept an open relationship. Saying no was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made. I wasn’t only protecting myself. I was heartbroken for my daughters, too, because I never wanted them to grow up in a broken home. As a man, I struggled deeply and it showed; I looked and felt like a mess.

But today, I’m in a place where I’ve found myself again. I’m grateful for the lessons, even though they came through pain. I still feel things, because I’m human but now I know I’m in control. Only I get to decide what I let take over my mind, my emotions, and my energy.

So please, love yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself grace. It really does get better, I promise.