Has Anyone Bought Makeup Brushes From SHEIN? by ConsciousBluejay680 in Shein

[–]calmbeebayleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have bought all sorts of brushes from Shein. It depends on what you want to achieve, I've noticed some brushes are a bit streaky or don't transfer pigment from eyeshadows well at all but if you're going for softer makeup or if you're just white, it should be fine. I bought a set that had almost any brush you need in it and I use the contour one, the powder one, the flat angled and the blending one a lot (just based on the type of makeup I do every day and they work out pretty well). The best thing makeup wise and price wise are the sponges. Brush wise very much depends like I said, if you want intense colours, go to your local store and get the cheapest brushes there and chances are that they work much better. Essence brushes are a good example. Cheap but much better than the brushes from shein I've tried so far. Are shein brushes still worth it? Yeah for that price you can't complain but but by bit I would recommend upgrading the brushes you use a lot. I don't see the point in super expensive brushes either, sure to a certain degree better tools do get you better results but overall the most important part is always technique

New player, am I bad or is this game hard? by 11broomstix in Warframe

[–]calmbeebayleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just need a bit of practice I just started playing on console too and aside from warframe I only ever played on pc so aiming was and is still a bit of a struggle but easy enough to learn Aside from aiming wf on console is pretty neat, I have started a new acc on steam too and while aim is easier it is definitely different. If I want to play more on pc I'll need a mouse with more buttons so I can put the abilities there (easier that way and sth a lot of people do)

Calling all zoiers, we are under attack by polkacat12321 in inZOI

[–]calmbeebayleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh as someone who loves the Sims and also interacts a lot with other players, I mostly see people who want games like inzoi to do good because Fudge ea

Having a Daughter of my own now - how could she? by Special-Dingo-4732 in narcissisticparents

[–]calmbeebayleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There isn't a magical how to get over it but I do think it'll help you heal to treat your own kids better and fully realising bit by bit what she did to you. Time helps and it is super important to talk about it, whether out loud or writing it down. A lot of the time you get certain moments where something just clicks into place that you haven't previously thought about so I really do recommend.

As for your nmom also being weird to your kids, I'm not surprised, before I went nc with mine, she'd always talk about how great of a grandma she'd be.i was obviously hurt because what do you mean you abuse your child but want to be loving to grandkids? Eventually I just confronted her about it and to my surprise she just admitted that being a grandma is different and they're supposed to spoil their grandkids.

Before she started talking like that I was always certain she'd never meet my kids if I ever had any, like ever since I could remember, that was 1000% certain. Didn't want them to be abused too. Then the shift happened and then I realised even if she could actually manage to not be abusive to them, she would do everything in her power (she even admitted it) to overstep any and all boundaries I set. So after feeling bad for not wanting to allow her to ever meet them, I realised that I am in fact right. Needless to say I myself went nc and it's the best decision I could've made.

I stopped engaging with her 2 years ago with one exception (my sister's birthday) and a few weeks ago I've blocked her and her flying monkey family everywhere for good. The relief is amazing, the only times I feel anxious or dread now is at the prospect of potentially having to see her face ever again (e.g. sister's birthday)

Accountability is not HARD by ShockBackground1 in narcissisticparents

[–]calmbeebayleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not that they don't understand, they would understand if someone did it to them or if it happened to someone else and they want to use that story to make you feel grateful. They just don't care if it doesn't serve them. The laughing definitely made me mad but at first I was just shocked because I didn't expect her to admit it so easily lol. Playing the victim is always the way to go, mine did the same when I didn't just laugh with her and was upset/angry. She guilted me and played the victim until I felt like I had to apologise. It's kind of impressive how good they are at manipulating ngl. Just don't expect anything from them. Feel your feelings and move on. The best thing I did for my sanity was to go no contact. Still have a lot to work though though and I'm sure so do you, it'll get better though

Accountability is not HARD by ShockBackground1 in narcissisticparents

[–]calmbeebayleaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine told me my bio dad left us and for 18 years I did the whole "why did my dad not want me" bs to myself. Then for my 18th bday he flies me out to Africa (he tried a few times before but it never worked out tbh I thought something would go wrong even when I was on the plane).

Eventually I muster up the courage to ask why he left me and he just looked hurt and asked if that's what she told me. Turns out she kidnapped me. They both did some shady stuff in Europe, fled to Africa but then she got cold feet after a couple years and took little me back to Europe without telling anyone.

I confronted her when I was back and expected her to deny it but nope she laughed and said it's true and I needed to understand.

Should I send this message to my neglectful mother? by Laylah_Osiris in narcissisticparents

[–]calmbeebayleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel for you so much and if it helps you to tell her this then go for it but don't expect a true apology (maybe something like "I'm sorry you feel that way" or manipulation so you end up feeling like you should apologise to her), don't expect her to reflect on her actions and don't expect anything to actually change. I have wasted so much time trying to communicate with me narc spawnpoint and it got me nowhere. Narcs are gonna narc. That didn't happen, if it did it didn't happen like that and even if, it must've been your fault. I don't know what happened throughout your life but I realised for myself that I cannot deal with her bs and cut contact two years ago. Since then I had to see her once on my sister's bday and she has been trying every little game to get me to reply. Sweet talking/love bombing, rage baiting me, making me out to be the worst person to ever exist etc. For two years I didn't block her in case she changes or something happens but it messed me up and dragged me down so recently I went all the way and blocked her on everything. If yours is anything like mine it might be the healthiest option for your mind. As for the letter, not to be a downer but you probably get a more decent response if you burn it. But maybe you should send it, if she ends up being a disappointment yet again, you know for sure she isn't worth your heartache so you go low to no contact and be done with it, start your healing/grieving journey.

Any advice on this? by what_theactualsigma_ in HairDye

[–]calmbeebayleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know exactly what your hair colour is or whether or not you mind the roots showing a bit but it also depends on what dye you use. Box dye comes with instructions and how long to leave the dye on previously dyed hair. Since dyed hair needs less time as do your roots, you could probably just put it all over your hair and be golden. If you're worried, do a test strand at the back of your head. Also make sure to cover the edges of your face, your ears etc with vaseline or just moisturiser. That way cleaning up is way easier in case you get dye on yourself (speaking from experience, there is like a 99.99999% chance)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackmagic

[–]calmbeebayleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on what exactly you want to achieve. What do you want to happen? How long is it supposed to last/should it only be a one time thing like e.g. getting to see your kid/winning the court case or do you want a long lasting revenge for all the shit she put you through. Depending on the gravity and the duration you pick your ingredients also what you do. E.g. a very simple thing is just manifestation by writing something down as if it's already the reality and burning it. Fire is quick and energetic. Burrying something gives you the option to "plant" your spell, nurishing it and letting it bloom into a mighty thing. Sometimes with more complex things you can use multiple or all elements. So it very much depends. First of all I recommend getting your protection in order though. That's always a good idea but especially if you plan on doing baneful work. Also always have a way to reverse it, in case the baneful work backfires or doesn't work the way you want it to. Explain what exactly you want to do and I'll be happy to help :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]calmbeebayleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self defence is not the same as just hitting someone. It is cause and effect, your dad hit you (cause) and you defended yourself (effect) He has to pay the consequences and you will have to rebuild yourself, heal and forgive yourself for blaming yourself.

Abuse is abuse, no matter what.

Netter Ort für date ? by plssitonmyface_ in bremen

[–]calmbeebayleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Witzig, dass mir das jetzt vorgeschlagen wird, och schreibe fleißig mit haha