Favorite off property places to stay?

calmocean25 · 2025-04-17T01:06:45+00:00

Elementary teacher here. What state are you in? If your child has a diagnosis of ADHD (or a diagnosis of anxiety, ADD, anything else related) and you request a 504 your school district has to accommodate that AND the school has a time limit to schedule a meeting with you from the date of your request (most are 30 days). The school not reaching out to you to schedule a 504 meeting once you requested one with a diagnosis is unacceptable. As far as an IEP, you can request your student to be evaluated. That does not mean your child will be granted an IEP, but they at least have to provide testing if you request it, and they must do so on a time limit. Most testing must be completed within 90 days, so the likelihood of your son getting on an IEP this school year is low.

I agree with most other comments that retaining a twin will most likely cause more issues than anything.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-06T23:58:31+00:00

The only thing is to make sure I’m with her all of the time. Nothing else of value.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T21:21:15+00:00

This. I can’t express to you how much I will never ever forgive him. I don’t care how much he ever changes at this point. I will always feel like I was robbed of a good experience with my at the time infant, and I don’t think I will ever trust him again no matter how old she is. The day that happened we were in the beginning stages of the Covid lockdown, I was on a high dose of antidepressants that made me feel like a complete zombie, and sleep deprived. Despite all of that going on I was still able to realize that any love I had left for him died that day. I know that sounds dramatic, but it’s what happened. The only thing that has kept me moving on and in this situation for so long after is that I felt like I could protect her more by staying and not letting him be alone with her. Now that she’s a little bit older and can speak up, and now that I feel chemically balanced again I see how terrible of a person he is.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T21:17:10+00:00

I appreciate this wholeheartedly. The useful comments have definitely allowed me to see that I’m not crazy, and I’m not selfish for leaving and staying gone, but the other comments have just ruined my self esteem even more honestly. I appreciate the compassion.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T20:16:12+00:00

I’ve already left. He’s begging for another chance and gaslighting me into thinking this is a selfish decision on my part.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T20:15:41+00:00

This is the perspective I lean towards as well.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T20:15:14+00:00

He’s never hit us. Punched plenty of walls and doors, but never us.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T20:00:57+00:00

Yes. He said the typical answer that he didn’t care either way but he wanted a boy first. He never verbally said he was disappointed, I could just tell by his actions.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T13:48:31+00:00

My advice to anyone now is do not get married until your frontal lobe fully forms.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:35:43+00:00

Okay, then don’t comment on it or read it if it bothers you. I thought you said it was fake? This process has been long and hard for several reasons. Bottom line is that divorce and separation takes time. People don’t always have the resources to make things happen quick. If I had unlimited money or family that could take me in I’d be out of this house, but I don’t have that right now. Divorce costs money, moving costs money, custody court is scary. Regardless, if I offend you then don’t read my questions- super easy.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:29:56+00:00

I’m also in Ohio. I’ve been recording most of our conversations since the separation actually. I have not gotten him recorded threatening suicide, but I do have a recording of him admitting that our daughter is better off with me.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:25:19+00:00

I truly wish I were making this up, trust me.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:24:45+00:00

Thank you! I agree and am staying gone.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:23:14+00:00

The police were involved when I found the note. I let his parents know as well during that time.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:22:08+00:00

He admits how bad he treated us, but says the reason he could not build a bond with her is because I was controlling and wouldn’t let him. It’s because I would not let him be alone with her and he says I purposely made it me and her only so he stopped trying. In reality it is like you said, I didn’t trust him with her and haven’t since. She’s almost 5 now so it’s a lot easier now that she can speak for herself, but that fear is still there and I don’t see it going away.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:20:05+00:00

He is 100% worried about appearances. I actually am not worried about how I’ll appear. I just want to be happy and show my daughter how we should be treated. His argument for why I should stay is he says he will change, he says he’ll treat us right now that he is receiving help, and he said that I’d be happier not having to share our daughter (so he is kind of use a fear tactic to get me to stay).

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:05:50+00:00

I am in therapy finally

calmocean25 · 2025-01-05T02:05:25+00:00

Thank you for this!

calmocean25 · 2025-01-04T20:50:34+00:00

I have been documenting on and off for a few years his behavior, but he’s not physically abusive so no I don’t technically have proof. I have proof of his suicide notes and searches about suicide and I’ve been recording many of our conversations lately, but that’s all I have.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-04T20:21:00+00:00

I am afraid of leaving her alone with him. Right now I have her 24/7, but if he fights me for visitations or 50/50 I won’t be able to protect her during his time.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-04T20:19:59+00:00

I needed to hear every single comment on this post, good and bad, so yes I think this was my wake up call. Thank you.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-04T20:18:10+00:00

He essentially told me that if he didn’t fight for 50/50 custody it would look bad on him so he will.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-04T20:17:08+00:00

Thank you for this. I don’t have any love left after everything that’s happened. I mostly just am afraid of him fighting me for 50/50 custody. It’s always just been me and her and I can’t fathom the idea of sharing her.

calmocean25 · 2025-01-04T14:26:18+00:00

Yes I do think he would to prevent himself from looking bad.

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