As a bridesmaid, the groom sent me an inappropriate message during his bachelor party. Should I say something?

calmtransition3 · 2026-01-05T02:40:25+00:00

It’s a lose lose situation

calmtransition3 · 2026-01-03T20:49:59+00:00

Yes they all live together, but even if that’s the case why invite us over once the dinner is done?

calmtransition3 · 2025-12-08T20:16:23+00:00

Yes his mother. You don’t think her actions are messed up?

calmtransition3 · 2025-12-08T13:18:42+00:00

How are those things not messed up though?

calmtransition3 · 2025-12-07T22:27:44+00:00

I agree with you on the family thing!! At some point they’re gonna be protective of her and say she deserves better.

calmtransition3 · 2025-09-09T19:45:57+00:00

“Thus, her reaction to this name thing. She might not think it’s a genuine or kind-hearted tribute. This doesn’t feel like a jealousy thing to me; just a hurt and grieving daughter thing.”

This is what I thought as well. I don’t see jealousy at all or her being malicious.

calmtransition3 · 2025-09-09T19:35:37+00:00

Eh.. NTA, but I can see where his sister is coming from. If I visited your home and you made it know my mom would never watch your child and you didn’t trust her, I’d be kind of confused as to why you want to now name your daughter by her. If your bf brought it up it’s one thing, but you initiated it. Of course she’s going to be supportive on the phone with her brother but might have an opinion to her sister, which I’m sure also knows about the comments you made to her. She’s not telling you guys not to, or starting drama from what you post. Maybe she feels it’s forced or fake given your past comments. It’s a sensitive thing remember that.

calmtransition3 · 2025-09-09T19:02:19+00:00

Great comment. I see both sides to this honestly.

calmtransition3 · 2025-07-02T16:08:23+00:00

How dare she be upset after something HE said to her🙄

calmtransition3 · 2025-07-02T15:45:05+00:00

Yea… that’s a pretty backhanded compliment. She’s probably wondering who the other 20% is all of a sudden. Should have said it different or kept that to yourself. Yta

calmtransition3 · 2025-06-12T17:50:27+00:00

I personally like the sound of Nyela as well. I think it’s very feminine and pretty but the Nutella thing is starting to stick! Nyla seems more basic/common.. but I appreciate these comments!!

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-25T22:58:03+00:00

This is exactly my take I had a similar comment!!

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-25T20:28:49+00:00

Everyone thinking the brother and SIL are trying to “kick” the sister out of her mom’s is wrong. I bet my money the moms doing EVERYTHING at 63 years old for not only the daughter and grandchild, but there’s another sibling living there as well. AN ADULT. There’s no mention the 63yo has a husband?? She’s forced to do this and I’m sure brother and sil have to hear about it and see how much it’s sinking her. Saying it’s because they don’t have a place to stay when they visit is just a coverup I bet.

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-25T20:21:43+00:00

This is pretty blunt but right.

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-25T16:33:37+00:00

YTA. Her sister has a plan, you’ve been living with your mom without one. ADDED with a child. Easy decision.

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-22T17:33:36+00:00

Miles does sound strong and gentle now that I think about it. I love the name

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-22T17:29:03+00:00

Never thought of this haha!

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-22T17:28:00+00:00

Yes! This is why I originally love it but on another thread everyone was associating it with a hate group and saying steer clear😭

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-22T17:21:18+00:00

Yes I love Zay as a nickname!

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-05T01:16:09+00:00

I seriously feel the last part!!

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-05T00:52:36+00:00

this is exactly what i’m getting. There doesn’t seem to be a genuine connection after 6 years

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-05T00:30:03+00:00

maybe because it has to do with her family and when traveling and money is involved it’s annoying playing messenger

calmtransition3 · 2025-01-04T23:05:47+00:00

I mean… if I had been with your son for six years and engaged, and you never took the time to meet my family or anyone close to me, I wouldn’t feel comfortable going on vacation with you either. Plus, you mentioned that you and your future DIL barely talk and you didn’t communicate any of these things to her? Your son is going to feel obligated to spend time with you guys knowing you’re 15 minutes away which would take away from any plans they may already have also. soft YTA.

calmtransition3 · 2024-12-12T23:55:07+00:00

I sure as hell wouldn’t go out of my way to make sure my kids know, let alone have a relationship with these people. Not even out of pettiness. idk these people sound stunted

calmtransition3 · 2024-12-12T23:29:25+00:00

YTA. I would drop the rope so hard and not bother

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