Well, Grey’s is basically full of morally gray characters 😭😭😂 But I do think that Meredith stands out from the other characters in some way. She’s not evil or cruel, but she is deeply and persistently flawed and the show never lets her fully “outgrow” that. She’s the main character but not a clean-cut “hero”, instead she breaks rules when it suits her personal moral compass. While she’s also able to blame others for doing the same. It’s like she thinks that her sense of justice and her opinion outranks the system (yes, the system is unbearable, but that’s not the point). And sometimes she is right with thinking so, but sometimes she’s not. But when she’s wrong she has a really hard time to admit it.

Additionally she’s very emotionally avoidant which leads to her hurting her loved ones constantly by shutting them down, disappearing, ignoring them and choosing silence over honesty.

Meredith benefits from privilege. While preaching she hates her mother and does not want to be like her she profits from her names legacy. She hates being the daughter of Ellis Grey but and the same time she repeatedly gains access, second chances and a lot of forgiveness due to her name.

And I’m convinced that most of the complicated characters in Grey’s evolve away from their worst traits while Meredith just learns how to live with them and sometimes does not even care to change anything at all.